there's this guy i really like and i can't ever get him out of my head. hes hot, atletic, sometimes funny, smart, but shy. we dont really talk alot cuz we're both shy, but i really like him. but it just never seems like ill ever have a chance with him. and i've tried moving on but i just keep going back to liking him. and i dont really talk to a lot of guys so its not that easy for me to move on. what should i do, should i just keep talking to him or somehow move on? i just feel like this relationship-well not really a relationship-is going nowhere. when we first met we barely talked but now i've noticed him staring at me sometimes and it always seems like he wants to say something but never does, so i guess we have become better freinds but i just cant keep waiting forever for him. ahh what should i do?
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prom is coming up this weekend, but im not planning on going cuz i have a track meet, but i also kinda want to go with him, but i just think it would be really akward and i dont really know what group we would go with cuz im not really friends with his brother's date and their group. and hes not really friends with my friends dates. so i think that would be kinda weird but im sure we could figure out something. and i also told a friend we decided toegether not to go to prom if we dont have a date and we'll hang out and stuff. so those are a few reasons why i dont think i should go. but would it be ok if i maybe got the courage and asked if he was going with anyone. boys would you go with a girl who asked you when its like 5 days away?Any advice about this boy i cant get out of my head!!?
first of all don't skip your prom, it'll be awesome and you'll regret it... second just suck it up and ask him that's only way to find out and the only way anything will ever happen if you're both as shy as you sayAny advice about this boy i cant get out of my head!!?
that is way too long, sweety.
your shy? coulda fooled me with that essay.
Your the one that's going to make it a dead end street if you don't make a move. Unless you think he will but it doesn't sound that way. Ask him about the prom. All he can do is say he'd rather not but seriously, it's a good way to find out if he does like you as I think he'll say yes if he does care.Let's face it, it a door opener for both of you. You guys can work it out as to who you're going with. Where there's a will , there's a way.
hey, just ask if he has a date and if he says no then ask him to go with u its worth a try. if u don't u'll regret it. i know, i liked a guy for a long time before i got the courage to ask him out and now i wish i would have asked him out a long time ago cause he liked me 2. but it didn't really work out cause there's 2 year between us and we could never really find the time 2 be together
Well for your shy issue i have a solution, im shy at times and when i get that i just think of the most confident friend i have and what he would do... Also if he dosent have a date and he got asked out 5 days before he would most definitley say yes... if he likes you
ok girl...here's the answer for you...i have in the same place over and over again...and at last i have overcome it..the best thing to do is to tell your piece and get over with it..you have to tell the guy what you feel, and let him figure out the next move..shyness is not far from undecisive, so be very sure about what you feel..if this is a definitve impossibility; which i am surely is not, use your friends as a block and go out with them..they are the only people that can get you out of him..don't even try talking to him at any way you know how for days...let him go crawling after you...and trust me, we do..
Monday, August 23, 2010
Helpful advice about a girl?
There's this girl at my school. We don't talk much, but im really interested. she is the most gorgeous girl i have ever seen in my life, i am just amazed she doesnt currently have a boyfriend. i hear shes kind of a goody goody, and that she was shy, but i was just wondering, what's a good way to talk to her, get closer to her, so i could ask her out. she doesnt seem to want to talk too much. i told her she looked pretty and she said 'oh, thanks' and smiled. i really really really dont wanna blow it, i really want to date her.Helpful advice about a girl?
Try to make eye contact with her whenever you get a chance because that will let her know you are interested. When she looks in your eyes, don't look away, and see if she keeps looking. If she does, she might be interested. Be confident and maybe funny, but don't overdo it or she will know you are trying to impress her. Don't pay her too many compliments until you know she is interested or you will seem fake. Most of all don't change who you are to impress this girl. Be yourself and she will either like you or not. If she doesn't, then you were just not the right guy for her.
good luck..Helpful advice about a girl?
if i girl like that is shy work up to her right her only one or two notes ( not enough to seem like you stalking her) make the notes short and sweet. than when she seems like she is liking you run into her a few times and keep the conversations short and sweet to. then you should get to know her by talking to her more.if she seems like she really likes you then you can ask her out. but remember that she is '; goody goody'; so remember that.
you should probably just start talking to her more casually. instead of giving her compliments (dont get me wrong, girls like that) but start off by just acting friendly and if you really like her show her that you care and that youll be there for her. like just asking if she is having a good day and if not try to help but just talk to her and be friendly, funny, and nice :)
I would never try and corrupt your chances of making a first rate impression on this girl. So here goes. It is my experience that girls want to be listened to. She wants to believe that you are interested in what she has to say, that her opinions and thoughts are interesting and valid. My advice would be to bug her phone.
Good luck!
sounds like me and my now BF's old situation =]
She probably will open up if you just say hey whats up everyday and act like you care.
be cocky but Funny it works for me why not for everyone but then again im the most sexy man alive so yea good luck =P
Try to make eye contact with her whenever you get a chance because that will let her know you are interested. When she looks in your eyes, don't look away, and see if she keeps looking. If she does, she might be interested. Be confident and maybe funny, but don't overdo it or she will know you are trying to impress her. Don't pay her too many compliments until you know she is interested or you will seem fake. Most of all don't change who you are to impress this girl. Be yourself and she will either like you or not. If she doesn't, then you were just not the right guy for her.
good luck..Helpful advice about a girl?
if i girl like that is shy work up to her right her only one or two notes ( not enough to seem like you stalking her) make the notes short and sweet. than when she seems like she is liking you run into her a few times and keep the conversations short and sweet to. then you should get to know her by talking to her more.if she seems like she really likes you then you can ask her out. but remember that she is '; goody goody'; so remember that.
you should probably just start talking to her more casually. instead of giving her compliments (dont get me wrong, girls like that) but start off by just acting friendly and if you really like her show her that you care and that youll be there for her. like just asking if she is having a good day and if not try to help but just talk to her and be friendly, funny, and nice :)
I would never try and corrupt your chances of making a first rate impression on this girl. So here goes. It is my experience that girls want to be listened to. She wants to believe that you are interested in what she has to say, that her opinions and thoughts are interesting and valid. My advice would be to bug her phone.
Good luck!
sounds like me and my now BF's old situation =]
She probably will open up if you just say hey whats up everyday and act like you care.
be cocky but Funny it works for me why not for everyone but then again im the most sexy man alive so yea good luck =P
Need advice about a clingy six month old?
I am a stay at home mom with a clingy/finicky 6 month old. He prefers me to everyone else, even his dad. If someone else holds him he cries until I take him. I love him and spend lots of time cuddling and playing with him. But it has gotten to the point that he cries if he is set down for longer that a couple of minutes. It is so hard to make dinner, help my older kids with homework, etc. He is OK with his dad until he hears my voice or catches a glimpse of me. But I am not really for letting him ';cry it out.'; I have been trying the sling for several months now but he really doesn't like it. He has been very picky about other things too (types of nipples, spoons, etc.) He still wakes up several times in the night to feed and kind of grazes during the day (is that ok?) I didn't experience this with my other two boys. Am I wrong to spend our entire day with him attached at the hip? So does anyone have any tips or advice on how we can have a better balance and keep him happy? Need advice about a clingy six month old?
I would have to agree with the first response. My little boy was that way when he was a baby, as far as being stuck to me like glue. There were days when all I got done was holding the baby and a bath usually with him. It was draining, but now he is almost 5yrs. old and there are times when he loves on me like he hasn't seen me in 10yrs. and most days he is all about doing for himself. The first day of preschool was great he had the confidence to go and enjoy it, never cried because i left. He is very independent and outgoing. I think it is because he knows we have a deep bond and I gave him my attention early on. This doesn't mean we let him rule our house, we have rules and punishment if he doesn't obey, but he knows he is very loved.Need advice about a clingy six month old?
He just needs you more than the others did. At this age, let him be clingy. Once he becomes more mobile he will become less dependent on you.
As much as you dislike it the best way to go is letting him cry it out. If he has been fed, and changed, and is not in any immediate danger (you can peek in to make sure of that) don't respond to his crying. He'll quickly learn that fussing just to get attention isn't going to happen, and he still gets plenty of mommy time but it's on your terms, not his. A six-month-old is really at the intelligence level of a dog, they have to learn by analysis of their situation and how you react to them.
It's absolutely normal. I know it's really intense right now, but this phase really will pass. Some babies just need more of their mothers than others, and often they turn out to be the most independent kids when they're a bit older!
If you can, call in help for all your non-baby tasks. Can Daddy make dinner sometimes to help you out, or help your older kids with homework? If not, do you have a friend or relative who'll help you out here and there?
It's also quite normal for a six month old to still feed a few times overnight.
The best thing you can do is go with the flow. If you keep your baby close, he'll learn that you'll respond to his needs, and he'll grow out of this stage and become content to let you have a bit of personal space because he'll be confident you'll come back to him.
I would have to agree with the first response. My little boy was that way when he was a baby, as far as being stuck to me like glue. There were days when all I got done was holding the baby and a bath usually with him. It was draining, but now he is almost 5yrs. old and there are times when he loves on me like he hasn't seen me in 10yrs. and most days he is all about doing for himself. The first day of preschool was great he had the confidence to go and enjoy it, never cried because i left. He is very independent and outgoing. I think it is because he knows we have a deep bond and I gave him my attention early on. This doesn't mean we let him rule our house, we have rules and punishment if he doesn't obey, but he knows he is very loved.Need advice about a clingy six month old?
He just needs you more than the others did. At this age, let him be clingy. Once he becomes more mobile he will become less dependent on you.
As much as you dislike it the best way to go is letting him cry it out. If he has been fed, and changed, and is not in any immediate danger (you can peek in to make sure of that) don't respond to his crying. He'll quickly learn that fussing just to get attention isn't going to happen, and he still gets plenty of mommy time but it's on your terms, not his. A six-month-old is really at the intelligence level of a dog, they have to learn by analysis of their situation and how you react to them.
It's absolutely normal. I know it's really intense right now, but this phase really will pass. Some babies just need more of their mothers than others, and often they turn out to be the most independent kids when they're a bit older!
If you can, call in help for all your non-baby tasks. Can Daddy make dinner sometimes to help you out, or help your older kids with homework? If not, do you have a friend or relative who'll help you out here and there?
It's also quite normal for a six month old to still feed a few times overnight.
The best thing you can do is go with the flow. If you keep your baby close, he'll learn that you'll respond to his needs, and he'll grow out of this stage and become content to let you have a bit of personal space because he'll be confident you'll come back to him.
Need advice about buying a dog?
I love Pit Bulls I have been around them for a while now and currently own 4. I really want to get into Schutzhund, but Pit Bulls really do not excel in it as much (I know some do). I went to my first SchH trial yesterday and LOVED it, im hooked. I have been researching and side training in SchH for about 6 months, so I am just starting out. My best friend is a great trainer and teaches me everything he knows. He owns 3 GSD's and trains them and is also a certified SchH helper.
Today I was offered an AMAZING deal, a Schutzhund bred pup for $200 and 2 pups back. I will have full reg., have to pay for OFA and Stud (when ready) only thing is..Shes a German Shepherd. Beautiful dog i want her, but I do not have much experience with the breed and Pit Bulls are kinda my thing lol, I have always wanted to own a working APBT kennel. I am seriously thinking about getting the pup though, like I said I own 4 Pit Bulls but I am currently re-homing 2(one is a rescue).
My friend and I have been talking about opening up and co-owning a kennel together, we were talking about having APBT's and GSD's, but I am always trying to get him to switch to pits and vice-versa. I can not decide if I want to switch to GSD's or stick with pits. I am a full-time student so trying to balance and make it to weight pulls and start Schutzhund sounds like a bit too much right now. But honestly I like Schutzhund more than weight pulling.
My friend has been saying if I can train Pit Bulls then i should have no problem training a GSD, but I would just like some opinions from more GSD owners.
It's a hard deal to pass up the dog is amazing and so are her parents. She has already been started in obedience, protection and tracking as well. If I get the GSD i will only keep my male Pit Bull, but my female would have to be re-homed, which would be with my uncle who has been begging me for her. What is your opinion?
Here is her pedigree:
http://www.pedigreedatabase.com/gsd/para.utkoma?fadir=472329%26amp;modir=484418
and some pics of her and her parents:
http://s890.photobucket.com/albums/ac109/TheRealAPBT/
I asked this last night, but only got one decent answer, just seeing if more people are on now.
Thanks alot for all the help, sorry it was so long.Need advice about buying a dog?
i have no experience with german sheperds, i do know their great dogs. very smart and willing to learn. my first question would be, why would you have to give up your female? are you afraid of fights? or know that there will be one? if your just afraid of one happening, bring them together on neutral grounds, if you know one will happen, i don't suggest this. anothedr question i have, if this will happen, how attatched are you to your female apbt? if you are willing to give her up for dog you can enjoy certain games with , then i say go for it, if you just know you can't part with her, you may need to sit this one out. also, the dream you have of owning a apbt kennel doesn't have to be set aside just because you own a german shepard. get her fixed, and you won't have to worry about her breeding. if anybody has any questions, just give 'em the situation.Need advice about buying a dog?
If you can handle a puppy right now, I say go for it. The more experience you get with different breeds the better! If you start working with a GSD/ SchH it won't take away any of your love or expertise with Pit Bulls.
I had a German Shepard for a while. I will tell you this. Most German Shepard do not like small dogs and for some reason (I swear to god) black people. Other then that they are great dogs
Hi, I am expressing a thought, and please do not take any offence. All that talk about Schutzhund is basically a way to sell pups, hence promote puppy mills, which later on leads to excessive breeding down the line, resulting in puppies going into the wrong hands that would not care for them or that would abuse them.
Be a kindered soul, and adopt from a shelter. Dogs just love us as much even if they come from a shelter. As for protection, they develope this instinct once they come into your life, and start to adore you for the love and home you provide them. The shelter dogs will protect you in your hour of need.
Ummm well that is a long description. Well i have a mix GSD and she is fun to e with. The only thing you really need to know is the amount of exercise she gets. They are working dogs and need either long day of work or a nice long walk. Since you are in school you would want to go with the walking idea because its way relaxing and calms you down.
Today I was offered an AMAZING deal, a Schutzhund bred pup for $200 and 2 pups back. I will have full reg., have to pay for OFA and Stud (when ready) only thing is..Shes a German Shepherd. Beautiful dog i want her, but I do not have much experience with the breed and Pit Bulls are kinda my thing lol, I have always wanted to own a working APBT kennel. I am seriously thinking about getting the pup though, like I said I own 4 Pit Bulls but I am currently re-homing 2(one is a rescue).
My friend and I have been talking about opening up and co-owning a kennel together, we were talking about having APBT's and GSD's, but I am always trying to get him to switch to pits and vice-versa. I can not decide if I want to switch to GSD's or stick with pits. I am a full-time student so trying to balance and make it to weight pulls and start Schutzhund sounds like a bit too much right now. But honestly I like Schutzhund more than weight pulling.
My friend has been saying if I can train Pit Bulls then i should have no problem training a GSD, but I would just like some opinions from more GSD owners.
It's a hard deal to pass up the dog is amazing and so are her parents. She has already been started in obedience, protection and tracking as well. If I get the GSD i will only keep my male Pit Bull, but my female would have to be re-homed, which would be with my uncle who has been begging me for her. What is your opinion?
Here is her pedigree:
http://www.pedigreedatabase.com/gsd/para.utkoma?fadir=472329%26amp;modir=484418
and some pics of her and her parents:
http://s890.photobucket.com/albums/ac109/TheRealAPBT/
I asked this last night, but only got one decent answer, just seeing if more people are on now.
Thanks alot for all the help, sorry it was so long.Need advice about buying a dog?
i have no experience with german sheperds, i do know their great dogs. very smart and willing to learn. my first question would be, why would you have to give up your female? are you afraid of fights? or know that there will be one? if your just afraid of one happening, bring them together on neutral grounds, if you know one will happen, i don't suggest this. anothedr question i have, if this will happen, how attatched are you to your female apbt? if you are willing to give her up for dog you can enjoy certain games with , then i say go for it, if you just know you can't part with her, you may need to sit this one out. also, the dream you have of owning a apbt kennel doesn't have to be set aside just because you own a german shepard. get her fixed, and you won't have to worry about her breeding. if anybody has any questions, just give 'em the situation.Need advice about buying a dog?
If you can handle a puppy right now, I say go for it. The more experience you get with different breeds the better! If you start working with a GSD/ SchH it won't take away any of your love or expertise with Pit Bulls.
I had a German Shepard for a while. I will tell you this. Most German Shepard do not like small dogs and for some reason (I swear to god) black people. Other then that they are great dogs
Hi, I am expressing a thought, and please do not take any offence. All that talk about Schutzhund is basically a way to sell pups, hence promote puppy mills, which later on leads to excessive breeding down the line, resulting in puppies going into the wrong hands that would not care for them or that would abuse them.
Be a kindered soul, and adopt from a shelter. Dogs just love us as much even if they come from a shelter. As for protection, they develope this instinct once they come into your life, and start to adore you for the love and home you provide them. The shelter dogs will protect you in your hour of need.
Ummm well that is a long description. Well i have a mix GSD and she is fun to e with. The only thing you really need to know is the amount of exercise she gets. They are working dogs and need either long day of work or a nice long walk. Since you are in school you would want to go with the walking idea because its way relaxing and calms you down.
Any advice about this parking situation?
My neighbors keep letting their very frequent overnight guest park in front of my house. It's a large SUV parking in a spot too small for it. They hinder my roommate from leaving our drive and they're blocking the area where we put our trash...the only area we have to put our trash out for pickup. As a result I have a very full trashcan...it hasn't been emptied for about 2 weeks now. Is there anything I can do?Any advice about this parking situation?
Have it towed...the vehicle is supposed to park in front of THEIR house when visiting, not yours. Or...they can have him/her/it park the truck in *their* driveway. Mind you, before having it towed, I'd call a) the cops to see what your options are, and b) talk to the neighbour about having the truck parked elsewhere to prevent it from becoming damaged (i.e.: the difficulty the driver is causing your roomie)...or ticketed for illegally blocking a driveway.
Good Luck!Any advice about this parking situation?
put nails out where they park, thats what I do, and if they get a flat they cannot say that you slashed their tires because you did not. As long as no one sees you do this and you do it late at night. lots of roof nails, if they see them as well, they will not park their, you hope and think better of parking their.
I would have it toiwed as well, after talkign to your nieghbors and this seems to do no good.
Start leaving your garbage out 24/7 in that spot.
If they move the cans to park the car, put your cans in front and back of the car.
Or on the car.
This of course after you have exhausted all reasonable approaches first.
First talk to the neighbor if that doesn't work be rude right along with them. I had to do that with mine. They lived down the street and kept parking in front of my house and I have a baby. I had to get rude.remedies blackheads
Have it towed...the vehicle is supposed to park in front of THEIR house when visiting, not yours. Or...they can have him/her/it park the truck in *their* driveway. Mind you, before having it towed, I'd call a) the cops to see what your options are, and b) talk to the neighbour about having the truck parked elsewhere to prevent it from becoming damaged (i.e.: the difficulty the driver is causing your roomie)...or ticketed for illegally blocking a driveway.
Good Luck!Any advice about this parking situation?
put nails out where they park, thats what I do, and if they get a flat they cannot say that you slashed their tires because you did not. As long as no one sees you do this and you do it late at night. lots of roof nails, if they see them as well, they will not park their, you hope and think better of parking their.
I would have it toiwed as well, after talkign to your nieghbors and this seems to do no good.
Start leaving your garbage out 24/7 in that spot.
If they move the cans to park the car, put your cans in front and back of the car.
Or on the car.
This of course after you have exhausted all reasonable approaches first.
First talk to the neighbor if that doesn't work be rude right along with them. I had to do that with mine. They lived down the street and kept parking in front of my house and I have a baby. I had to get rude.
Im in serious need of advice about moving and/or any advice at all about my situation...?
Well here's my scenario. I am an 18 year old male (about to turn 19) and still living in my mother's house. I am currently in college but do not live on campus with no desire to live on campus (for various reasons). Me and my mother do not get along AT ALL. The only peaceful time in this house is when she is not here. She is a very very difficult person to live with (Literally, no one in my family likes her). I would stay with some family members but I do not have any family members in this state. Right now I am currently unemployed and desperately in need of a job but no where seems to be hiring... can somebody please give me some guidance as to what I should do or any ideas of how I can get out of here. Please?? Thanks in advance. Any good advice is appreciated.Im in serious need of advice about moving and/or any advice at all about my situation...?
Well Look At NewsPapers For Job Adds. And Sell The Stuff Youu Dont Want Nor Need. Then After Youu Get Some Cash out Of That D0 N0T Spendd It. Save It Instead and If You Get Hired Save Up A Good Amount Of Money And Get Youur Own Place.
But Remember To Visit Or Call Your Mother Every Now And Then Because She Is The One Who Let You Stay At Her House When No One Else Was Around:)
Good Luck:)
Well Look At NewsPapers For Job Adds. And Sell The Stuff Youu Dont Want Nor Need. Then After Youu Get Some Cash out Of That D0 N0T Spendd It. Save It Instead and If You Get Hired Save Up A Good Amount Of Money And Get Youur Own Place.
But Remember To Visit Or Call Your Mother Every Now And Then Because She Is The One Who Let You Stay At Her House When No One Else Was Around:)
Good Luck:)
Does anyone have any advice or what i can do about an aggressive(Growling, biting) pet dog?
show it love ... give it toys and get it used to being around other humans if all that fails im not sure waht to do try some google searches!
hope i helpedDoes anyone have any advice or what i can do about an aggressive(Growling, biting) pet dog?
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Does anyone have any advice or what i can do about an aggressive(Growling, biting) pet dog?
to many different questions first need to be answered by u.....age? where did u get him? adopted? stuf like that
give it a chew toy or (this may sound stupid but try it cause i done it before)look into its eyes until it looks away!
Not Realy
Call the dog whisper- he will cost u 200.00 per hr.
Do NOT use a shock collar...they are barbaric and cruel.
There is a prog' on British TV where an expert is sorting out dog's behaviour. Last week the dog was as you describe and he was trained within a few days. You really should seek the advice of a professional trainer.
EDIT
Just seen this...have a look
http://www.dogpatch.org/sheltie/barking.鈥?/a>
try to make friends with the dog , pet it and it might calm down
Without getting important specifics about the dog, it is impossible to advise or answer.
Age/breed/gender/altered/history need to be known.
Also what triggers aggression.
Get a 18 inch long 2x4 of pine or fur and smack it upside the head and establish the alpha role
put it's *** down, sorry
shock collar
you have to train the dog not to growl or bit at you
Send him or her to the caves of Afganistan!
WHATEVER YOU DO DO NOT BE CRUEL, if the animal is being that way it must have an unkown reason for doing that. Tyr to understand him, and does he do it to everyone, just certain people? So many un answered questions! But you know its not fair to put it down, I mean what if you punched your friend they wouldn't put you to sleep!!!
hope i helpedDoes anyone have any advice or what i can do about an aggressive(Growling, biting) pet dog?
why did you pick this answer?
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Does anyone have any advice or what i can do about an aggressive(Growling, biting) pet dog?
to many different questions first need to be answered by u.....age? where did u get him? adopted? stuf like that
give it a chew toy or (this may sound stupid but try it cause i done it before)look into its eyes until it looks away!
Not Realy
Call the dog whisper- he will cost u 200.00 per hr.
Do NOT use a shock collar...they are barbaric and cruel.
There is a prog' on British TV where an expert is sorting out dog's behaviour. Last week the dog was as you describe and he was trained within a few days. You really should seek the advice of a professional trainer.
EDIT
Just seen this...have a look
http://www.dogpatch.org/sheltie/barking.鈥?/a>
try to make friends with the dog , pet it and it might calm down
Without getting important specifics about the dog, it is impossible to advise or answer.
Age/breed/gender/altered/history need to be known.
Also what triggers aggression.
Get a 18 inch long 2x4 of pine or fur and smack it upside the head and establish the alpha role
put it's *** down, sorry
shock collar
you have to train the dog not to growl or bit at you
Send him or her to the caves of Afganistan!
WHATEVER YOU DO DO NOT BE CRUEL, if the animal is being that way it must have an unkown reason for doing that. Tyr to understand him, and does he do it to everyone, just certain people? So many un answered questions! But you know its not fair to put it down, I mean what if you punched your friend they wouldn't put you to sleep!!!
Why do people think they can get GOOD advice about love on YAHOO!ANSWERS? Why don't they ask their parents????
Most teenagers think their parents dont know anything. I suspect that people asking for such advice on here, arent really seeking advice; they are looking for connections. Additionally, no-one can accept advice from someone they dont know and cant make a proper judgement as to the quality of that advice. Advice is valuable only when it comes from someone you know and trust or from a professional in whom you have confidence. At best, they are looking for support for what they already think. But then thats why most people seek 'advice' anyway, isnt it?? :-)Why do people think they can get GOOD advice about love on YAHOO!ANSWERS? Why don't they ask their parents????
Because their parents will most likely tell them something they don't want to hear. THE TRUTH!!!Why do people think they can get GOOD advice about love on YAHOO!ANSWERS? Why don't they ask their parents????
A lot of people's parents hate each other. This tends to make them a poor choice for reliable advice concerning love.
My guess is that their parents aren't the people to ask. I would say that it worries me that people actually seek advice on here about relationships, but then it would just depress me. Give really wrong answers that sound right. I like to do that. Sometimes I give real advice, which they should take. I'm cool like that.
may be because they dont feel conferdabale talking to there parents. and if they ask some one they dont know that person wont blab about it.
because they think that they are grown enoght to not ask their mom probly.
Because their parents will most likely tell them something they don't want to hear. THE TRUTH!!!Why do people think they can get GOOD advice about love on YAHOO!ANSWERS? Why don't they ask their parents????
A lot of people's parents hate each other. This tends to make them a poor choice for reliable advice concerning love.
My guess is that their parents aren't the people to ask. I would say that it worries me that people actually seek advice on here about relationships, but then it would just depress me. Give really wrong answers that sound right. I like to do that. Sometimes I give real advice, which they should take. I'm cool like that.
may be because they dont feel conferdabale talking to there parents. and if they ask some one they dont know that person wont blab about it.
because they think that they are grown enoght to not ask their mom probly.
My friend asked me advice about this girl he likes, see my answer and tell me if you agree?
Yeah he's going on a date w/ a girl that has a bf and he's concerned about that.
I told him not to be concerned and don't even think of the fact that she's involved... because, whether or not she's involved makes no difference... if there's sparks between the two of you then she'll cheat on the boyfriend w/ you... and most likely break up w/ him... and don't feel sorry for that guy, bc if he was bringing the girl full satisfaction, then she wouldn't be wastin' her time w/ you.
Agree? Why if no?My friend asked me advice about this girl he likes, see my answer and tell me if you agree?
I'd have to agree. If the boyfriend was satisfying all her needs then she most likely would not of agreed to go on the date. But remember, If your friend doesn't meet her needs she may do the same thing to your friend. Beware.My friend asked me advice about this girl he likes, see my answer and tell me if you agree?
i agree!
the girl is a cheater. you shouldn't recommend her to your friend.
heck no, if this girl is willing to cheat on her boyfriend with him, then what's the point of dating her? She's always going to be looking for the next better option. If she's interested in your friend, she needs to let her b/f go and then she'd be available. Why date someone who could possibly be distracted?
i agree if she was serious about the other guy she would not be going out with him anyway
Not really. I mean concerning your friend.... If she will cheat on her boyfriend to be with him then she will do it again because she will then know she can get away with it!!! Has he been open and honest with her about how he feels. If she breaks up with her boyfriend to be with him then tell him to go for it.
You have my agreement
true... but if she cheats on her current bf with you... then she will likely cheat on you with another guy.
i agree.
Smart girl, well, Any such girl could not be believed for friendship. He know she has already one but after a few time he would find out annother. So leave the girl without telling her any cause, if she returns after some time, he can check things back.
I agree. but she should break up with her boyfriend first.then they should hang. think about life it's to short to end up with the wrong person.
I told him not to be concerned and don't even think of the fact that she's involved... because, whether or not she's involved makes no difference... if there's sparks between the two of you then she'll cheat on the boyfriend w/ you... and most likely break up w/ him... and don't feel sorry for that guy, bc if he was bringing the girl full satisfaction, then she wouldn't be wastin' her time w/ you.
Agree? Why if no?My friend asked me advice about this girl he likes, see my answer and tell me if you agree?
I'd have to agree. If the boyfriend was satisfying all her needs then she most likely would not of agreed to go on the date. But remember, If your friend doesn't meet her needs she may do the same thing to your friend. Beware.My friend asked me advice about this girl he likes, see my answer and tell me if you agree?
i agree!
the girl is a cheater. you shouldn't recommend her to your friend.
heck no, if this girl is willing to cheat on her boyfriend with him, then what's the point of dating her? She's always going to be looking for the next better option. If she's interested in your friend, she needs to let her b/f go and then she'd be available. Why date someone who could possibly be distracted?
i agree if she was serious about the other guy she would not be going out with him anyway
Not really. I mean concerning your friend.... If she will cheat on her boyfriend to be with him then she will do it again because she will then know she can get away with it!!! Has he been open and honest with her about how he feels. If she breaks up with her boyfriend to be with him then tell him to go for it.
You have my agreement
true... but if she cheats on her current bf with you... then she will likely cheat on you with another guy.
i agree.
Smart girl, well, Any such girl could not be believed for friendship. He know she has already one but after a few time he would find out annother. So leave the girl without telling her any cause, if she returns after some time, he can check things back.
I agree. but she should break up with her boyfriend first.then they should hang. think about life it's to short to end up with the wrong person.
PLEASE HELP. I need advice about a girl.?
I'm in grade 12 and I have really, really liked this grade 11 girl for three years. I can't even explain it. I only just got to know her these past 2 months. She's really nice and seems comfortable around me. She never minds talking to me or anything. Anyways I'm pretty shy and I never asked anyone out before but I eventually built up the courage to ask her to prom with me. I think I caught her a bit by surprise but she seemed really flattered that I asked. She told me that she would let me know the next day. So the next day she came over to talk to me and she thanked me but she said no. I was cool with it, at least on the outside but I went against my better judgement and asked her why. She said it wasn't me but that was it. I decided to let her know how I really felt. I hadn't done that the day before and I told her I still wanted to be friends.
I was wondering, if she didn't say no right away is there a chance that she might like me anyway? What if I just ask her out casually?PLEASE HELP. I need advice about a girl.?
My wife and I were friends in high school, went out with each other for a very short time, and about 3 years later we hooked up again. However, this may have made her uncomfortable. I'd just take it slow, and enjoy her friendship. Sometimes time is a good thing.PLEASE HELP. I need advice about a girl.?
There might be a chance that she likes you since if she didnt like you she would of told right then and there when you asked that she didnt want to go. You might want to try asking her out casually and acting like its not a big deal. Your shyness can be a real turn-off. Show her your true colors and let her get to know the real you. Don't be shy. Take a chance.
There is a chance she might like you.. but I doubt it.. No offense, but if a girl likes you she will say yes right away.. Unless she liked you, But she also likes someone else more, and she was banking on going to prom with them.. that is a possibilities..
Also she probably didn't want to say no on the spot because she didn't want to hurt your feelings, so she decided to ';give it some thought'; .. and she probably did give it some thought..
If you ask her out casually and she says no.. don't be surprised, but it is worth a shot.
If your shy maybe you and her were having fun and nice time, but she was doing all the talking, the problem is did you feel comfortable around her, you probably did since you asked her. Girls are complicated things, I'm a girl and if a guy would ask me, I'd have to say no because of the rules at my house, no dating until your 20.
Don't ask why? because that just seems desperate.
Good luck!
Remember there are other girls, just open your eyes, there might be one right in front of you.
I was wondering, if she didn't say no right away is there a chance that she might like me anyway? What if I just ask her out casually?PLEASE HELP. I need advice about a girl.?
My wife and I were friends in high school, went out with each other for a very short time, and about 3 years later we hooked up again. However, this may have made her uncomfortable. I'd just take it slow, and enjoy her friendship. Sometimes time is a good thing.PLEASE HELP. I need advice about a girl.?
There might be a chance that she likes you since if she didnt like you she would of told right then and there when you asked that she didnt want to go. You might want to try asking her out casually and acting like its not a big deal. Your shyness can be a real turn-off. Show her your true colors and let her get to know the real you. Don't be shy. Take a chance.
There is a chance she might like you.. but I doubt it.. No offense, but if a girl likes you she will say yes right away.. Unless she liked you, But she also likes someone else more, and she was banking on going to prom with them.. that is a possibilities..
Also she probably didn't want to say no on the spot because she didn't want to hurt your feelings, so she decided to ';give it some thought'; .. and she probably did give it some thought..
If you ask her out casually and she says no.. don't be surprised, but it is worth a shot.
If your shy maybe you and her were having fun and nice time, but she was doing all the talking, the problem is did you feel comfortable around her, you probably did since you asked her. Girls are complicated things, I'm a girl and if a guy would ask me, I'd have to say no because of the rules at my house, no dating until your 20.
Don't ask why? because that just seems desperate.
Good luck!
Remember there are other girls, just open your eyes, there might be one right in front of you.
Hey guys i need advice about this guy?
hey im 21 i know u guys have heard this story b4 but i know in my heart i shouldnt be with that guy i was with him 2 yrs and he treated me like crap and i know everytime i took him back 4 times he didnt change and i know if i took him back the 5th time im going to get attitude from my family bc they are worried about my safety when i was with him. i dont want to put them in that postion the 5 time around when i know he wont change. But i have tried not to answer his calls i have picked it up and hunged it up and he still calls. I have tried telling him to move on and it doesnt seem to faze him at all. Because he doesnt want me to be with anyone else and i have tried telling him to move on and he doesnt want any girl but me but my heart is telling me NOOO. because my heart and me are tired of being hurt by him and his emotional and abusiveness. then he said if i dont come over to see him that he will show up at my house .
what should i do i know i deserve better
help me hayleyHey guys i need advice about this guy?
DO NOT GO BACK! First and foremost - do not go back at all.
If he continues calling and does show up at your house - its harassment at the least and stalking at the worst. Call the cops and perhaps that will get through where your talking hasn't.
If you know its not a safe decision to go back - do not go back. It sounds like you have alot of family and friends who really care about you - use them as support to get you through this, be it someone to talk to or someone to keep you company.
Good luck!Hey guys i need advice about this guy?
Tell him that if he calls you and harasses you again you will get a restraining order against him.
Tell him how you feel about the situation. Let him know that he's really playing with your emotions and you're tired of it. Most guys, sad to say, don't even realize when they're doing something wrong. Communicate with him, and if he doesn't straighten up, move on.
I'm sure you'll find someone who can appreciate you.
You must enjoy abuse and it will escalate. You are part of the problem and now you must become part of the solution. Listen to your family, they love you and know what will be bad for you. You have an addiction to this guy, break it.
get on with your life, we'll get on with ours.
I can't tell you to get away from him because you have already been told. Nothing we say here will make you listen so forget it.
Dont go.. tell him he needs to get over it and it doesnt matter who you see or what you do because you are not together.. explain to him you tried to give him many tries and that he wont change.. say i cant get hurt again we are done move on.. but u need to get mean.. its the only way that will work Girlmy best friend was in a relationship like that.. I was scared but i told her she had to get rid of him because he was so emotional and abusive.. and she did.... and you should too If your scared of him.. if he does something else to you or threaten you .. you should handle it [cops] because no girl should get threatend understand?
I wouldnt want any other female to get hurt... You deserve better find a new guy. who will treat you good... go out and haveee fun ;]]]
hope i helped sorry its so long.. but i sat there when she cried to i feel you 100%
first if he is all vilolent at your house if he comes then call the police then try to find a person who is right for you.
I guess he need help, because if he loves you;he will not hurt you.He's selfish,he doesn't want you to move on;and even him.Yes,you deserve better!But you have to let it happen,solve it at once infront your family when he come as he said;but if he can't come,their you'll find out that he just want to threaten you,like coming to your house.Still you better tell your family about it,sometimes for help or protection.Your still young,good future still ahead of you.
It's hard but you either have to keep ignoring him or talk heart to heart with him. Just listen to what your heart says, it dosen't matter what anyone thinks but u. Remember that it's your life and u are in control of it. Tell him no over and over again until he get's the message.
find out how to block his call on your phone.
tell him you have called the police.
call the police if he shows up.
everyone is right , he is obsessed, not in love.
bad news all the way around
Date me and your problem will be over.
Girl you need to put up a security camera on your porch with a speaker. Then get a guard dog and keep him with you all the time. Also tell the police everything that is going on (of course you cant get a restraining order without proper proof of abuse).
idk...wow thats pretty serious but you definitely dont need to let him into your heart or your house.
Take a Boy Break. Thats what i'm do, I got aLL stressed out by this boy and so decided to just start over. I didn't 'like' anybody, I didn't think anybody was cute, I was starting over. Soon I met a boy and by that time, I was able to handle boys again. Just focus on your friends and their problems and yours wont seem so big.
Answer my question since I answered yours?
Keep giving him sex and getting nothing back... it's your life.. live it up!
Get rid of the creep.If he calls again tell him you will have him charged with harrassment.He sounds like a real loser.I say 3 strikes you are out.You must be able to find some one else by now,Keep looking Mr.Right is out there but he is not it.
It seems like you already know what to do...which is usually the problem! I would get a restraining order against him which can easily be done at your county court house or city hall. You could also change your phone number. Make it a common practice to turn off your ringer at night and lock your door. If you are concerned for your safety contact fellow roommates, neighbors or family to look out for your well being. Don't let someone like that back in to your life! Trust your family!remedies blackheads
what should i do i know i deserve better
help me hayleyHey guys i need advice about this guy?
DO NOT GO BACK! First and foremost - do not go back at all.
If he continues calling and does show up at your house - its harassment at the least and stalking at the worst. Call the cops and perhaps that will get through where your talking hasn't.
If you know its not a safe decision to go back - do not go back. It sounds like you have alot of family and friends who really care about you - use them as support to get you through this, be it someone to talk to or someone to keep you company.
Good luck!Hey guys i need advice about this guy?
Tell him that if he calls you and harasses you again you will get a restraining order against him.
Tell him how you feel about the situation. Let him know that he's really playing with your emotions and you're tired of it. Most guys, sad to say, don't even realize when they're doing something wrong. Communicate with him, and if he doesn't straighten up, move on.
I'm sure you'll find someone who can appreciate you.
You must enjoy abuse and it will escalate. You are part of the problem and now you must become part of the solution. Listen to your family, they love you and know what will be bad for you. You have an addiction to this guy, break it.
get on with your life, we'll get on with ours.
I can't tell you to get away from him because you have already been told. Nothing we say here will make you listen so forget it.
Dont go.. tell him he needs to get over it and it doesnt matter who you see or what you do because you are not together.. explain to him you tried to give him many tries and that he wont change.. say i cant get hurt again we are done move on.. but u need to get mean.. its the only way that will work Girlmy best friend was in a relationship like that.. I was scared but i told her she had to get rid of him because he was so emotional and abusive.. and she did.... and you should too If your scared of him.. if he does something else to you or threaten you .. you should handle it [cops] because no girl should get threatend understand?
I wouldnt want any other female to get hurt... You deserve better find a new guy. who will treat you good... go out and haveee fun ;]]]
hope i helped sorry its so long.. but i sat there when she cried to i feel you 100%
first if he is all vilolent at your house if he comes then call the police then try to find a person who is right for you.
I guess he need help, because if he loves you;he will not hurt you.He's selfish,he doesn't want you to move on;and even him.Yes,you deserve better!But you have to let it happen,solve it at once infront your family when he come as he said;but if he can't come,their you'll find out that he just want to threaten you,like coming to your house.Still you better tell your family about it,sometimes for help or protection.Your still young,good future still ahead of you.
It's hard but you either have to keep ignoring him or talk heart to heart with him. Just listen to what your heart says, it dosen't matter what anyone thinks but u. Remember that it's your life and u are in control of it. Tell him no over and over again until he get's the message.
find out how to block his call on your phone.
tell him you have called the police.
call the police if he shows up.
everyone is right , he is obsessed, not in love.
bad news all the way around
Date me and your problem will be over.
Girl you need to put up a security camera on your porch with a speaker. Then get a guard dog and keep him with you all the time. Also tell the police everything that is going on (of course you cant get a restraining order without proper proof of abuse).
idk...wow thats pretty serious but you definitely dont need to let him into your heart or your house.
Take a Boy Break. Thats what i'm do, I got aLL stressed out by this boy and so decided to just start over. I didn't 'like' anybody, I didn't think anybody was cute, I was starting over. Soon I met a boy and by that time, I was able to handle boys again. Just focus on your friends and their problems and yours wont seem so big.
Answer my question since I answered yours?
Keep giving him sex and getting nothing back... it's your life.. live it up!
Get rid of the creep.If he calls again tell him you will have him charged with harrassment.He sounds like a real loser.I say 3 strikes you are out.You must be able to find some one else by now,Keep looking Mr.Right is out there but he is not it.
It seems like you already know what to do...which is usually the problem! I would get a restraining order against him which can easily be done at your county court house or city hall. You could also change your phone number. Make it a common practice to turn off your ringer at night and lock your door. If you are concerned for your safety contact fellow roommates, neighbors or family to look out for your well being. Don't let someone like that back in to your life! Trust your family!
I'm having reservations about having the big wedding, advice on other options?
My wedding will be in a year and although everyone says they are fine to pay for it, I am getting very uncomfortable with spending $25-30,000 dollars on a beach wedding in L.A.
I hate hotels. My mom's house is kinda an option. I have a huge family and a lot of people who are important to me.
What are some good options for a more reasonably priced wedding day, in L.A.?
Thanks!I'm having reservations about having the big wedding, advice on other options?
I am glad you are having second thoughts about spending big money. Good for you. It is ridiculous that couples are pressured into big weddings that are expensive, stressful and are over in a flash. The money spent could be put to better use in setting up your new life together - or as a little cushion in the bank for emergencies, babies! Things like that!
My own wedding was originally going to be bigger than the one we eventually ended up with. We simply limited the wedding reception to family and invited only our closest friends to the night party. The hotel we hired was ok - nothing flash, the DJ was a friend of a friend and did a cheap rate. The photographer was my best mate (although he is one of the best and most accomplished photographers in Britain! - that was lucky!) Another friend (an editor for the BBC - that was lucky too!) did the video. That was there present to us, so we also avoided getting yet another bloody toaster! The wifes sister did all the flowers and we avoided fancy wedding gowns and expensive suits- just looked smart.
If you think about it there are all sorts of ways of saving money and reducing stress. With the money we saved we had a great honeymoon in California/ San Fransisco which I will never forget.
Hope you have a lovely day. Good luck.I'm having reservations about having the big wedding, advice on other options?
MY husband and I had a late morning wedding and an early afternoon reception. The food was the same as an evening reception (no appertizers) but cheaper because they could still rent out the evening.We didn't have dancing but had live music to dine by.I bought all the dresses from a bridal outlet store.I picked my dress out of a bridal magazine and they ordered and did the alterations.I ordered my invites by mail (I ordered samples through a bridal magazine).We didn't spend alot of money but it was the best wedding day,I don't regret a minute.I've been to big expensive weddings where there was no money left for a honeymoon.Really think about what's important to you and go with it,it's your day. Have Fun!
Do what you are comfortable with, it is your day, do it in a way that is pleasing to you and your husband to be.
You can save LOTS of money on your reception if you did the wedding and reception at your mom's house and did an appetizer finger food reception.
best wishes! Good luck!
number 1) wedding is (supposedly) a once in the lifetime thing. so, its okay to spend like 30,000 dollars at one go.
number 2) the wedding should be all about you and your fiance. it is not about your parents, even though they are important to you. HAVE YOUR DREAM WEDDING!
have a small garden ceremony is your mum's house...or book a public park to have a ceremony, it will be beautiful when all the flowers are in full bloom...:)
oh yeah...congratulations!!
Elope, get married by the J.P. save the money for a house, and honeymoon.
Try to have it on a Sunday and if you can have it at your mom's house why not do that. Have a simple ceremony and a big party to celebrate.
What you want is okay - whatever you decide to do.
Because my husband and I have huge families that we are very close to, and it would have been a very expensive wedding - we decided to just go on a vacation and be married while we were away, quietly on our own.
You know what? It was the perfect thing - no one - NO ONE ever gave us grief about our decision, in fact, we were stunned by the support of our families and friends - they didn't want to shell out for a big show either!
Now, we have a home that a large wedding would have made impossible for us to afford for years, and memories of a wedding ceremony that was intimate and romantic. And even more to the point; it was about being joined in Marriage - not about the wedding.
Good for you for remembering what's really important. Most of my friends that kept their weddings small can remember everything about it, who was there, what the food was like, the look in their husband's eyes, etc. The ones with the big weddings barely rememer anything. I'm getting married in 9 months and have have found that those big hotels and everything just aren't worth the money. I'm going for a small, old white church with a reception in their courtyard that's covered in roses. To me, that is more beautiful and intimate than any Hilton facility.
I hate hotels. My mom's house is kinda an option. I have a huge family and a lot of people who are important to me.
What are some good options for a more reasonably priced wedding day, in L.A.?
Thanks!I'm having reservations about having the big wedding, advice on other options?
I am glad you are having second thoughts about spending big money. Good for you. It is ridiculous that couples are pressured into big weddings that are expensive, stressful and are over in a flash. The money spent could be put to better use in setting up your new life together - or as a little cushion in the bank for emergencies, babies! Things like that!
My own wedding was originally going to be bigger than the one we eventually ended up with. We simply limited the wedding reception to family and invited only our closest friends to the night party. The hotel we hired was ok - nothing flash, the DJ was a friend of a friend and did a cheap rate. The photographer was my best mate (although he is one of the best and most accomplished photographers in Britain! - that was lucky!) Another friend (an editor for the BBC - that was lucky too!) did the video. That was there present to us, so we also avoided getting yet another bloody toaster! The wifes sister did all the flowers and we avoided fancy wedding gowns and expensive suits- just looked smart.
If you think about it there are all sorts of ways of saving money and reducing stress. With the money we saved we had a great honeymoon in California/ San Fransisco which I will never forget.
Hope you have a lovely day. Good luck.I'm having reservations about having the big wedding, advice on other options?
MY husband and I had a late morning wedding and an early afternoon reception. The food was the same as an evening reception (no appertizers) but cheaper because they could still rent out the evening.We didn't have dancing but had live music to dine by.I bought all the dresses from a bridal outlet store.I picked my dress out of a bridal magazine and they ordered and did the alterations.I ordered my invites by mail (I ordered samples through a bridal magazine).We didn't spend alot of money but it was the best wedding day,I don't regret a minute.I've been to big expensive weddings where there was no money left for a honeymoon.Really think about what's important to you and go with it,it's your day. Have Fun!
Do what you are comfortable with, it is your day, do it in a way that is pleasing to you and your husband to be.
You can save LOTS of money on your reception if you did the wedding and reception at your mom's house and did an appetizer finger food reception.
best wishes! Good luck!
number 1) wedding is (supposedly) a once in the lifetime thing. so, its okay to spend like 30,000 dollars at one go.
number 2) the wedding should be all about you and your fiance. it is not about your parents, even though they are important to you. HAVE YOUR DREAM WEDDING!
have a small garden ceremony is your mum's house...or book a public park to have a ceremony, it will be beautiful when all the flowers are in full bloom...:)
oh yeah...congratulations!!
Elope, get married by the J.P. save the money for a house, and honeymoon.
Try to have it on a Sunday and if you can have it at your mom's house why not do that. Have a simple ceremony and a big party to celebrate.
What you want is okay - whatever you decide to do.
Because my husband and I have huge families that we are very close to, and it would have been a very expensive wedding - we decided to just go on a vacation and be married while we were away, quietly on our own.
You know what? It was the perfect thing - no one - NO ONE ever gave us grief about our decision, in fact, we were stunned by the support of our families and friends - they didn't want to shell out for a big show either!
Now, we have a home that a large wedding would have made impossible for us to afford for years, and memories of a wedding ceremony that was intimate and romantic. And even more to the point; it was about being joined in Marriage - not about the wedding.
Good for you for remembering what's really important. Most of my friends that kept their weddings small can remember everything about it, who was there, what the food was like, the look in their husband's eyes, etc. The ones with the big weddings barely rememer anything. I'm getting married in 9 months and have have found that those big hotels and everything just aren't worth the money. I'm going for a small, old white church with a reception in their courtyard that's covered in roses. To me, that is more beautiful and intimate than any Hilton facility.
Hi ... i need some advice... about a guy?
i have this guy that i had a crush on from high school, dat was about 5yrs ago. now i'm in canada and
he's in the U.S(Indianapolis).. we've got talking again for over a year now... i really like him and we have great conversation. and were so close. he says if we were in the same place we'ed be going out. and i feel the same way too. anyway, he wants to come see me; he'll be driving down actually. and i'm afraid that we'll have sex when he comes...i kinda want too also.. but then what happens next 'cos we still wont be in the same country. and i want him for myself... he's so cute.. but i dont want to have sex with him and spoil everything.. i'm i making sense?... this sucks.. wat do u guys think?Hi ... i need some advice... about a guy?
First off, follow your instinct about not having sex with him! ESPECIALLY under these circumstances, it's almost assured to make things difficult.
The real issue is: How real do you think this relationship is? And, how far would you go to take it to the next level? If it is ever to be, one of you will eventually have to relocate. If that's a possibility, proceed (but still don't get sexual!) If neither of you are willing to relocate, then you are only torturing yourself for no reason.Hi ... i need some advice... about a guy?
Don't SCREW...not yet atleast!
Until you guys can have something a little more real.
If you guys do the nasty and he's another country, what makes him no have someboby else?
Long distance does not work!
i think u should kawa him . hehehehehe
Personally, I wouldn't have sex with him because if he gets the goodies and then leaves and finds someone else, I would feel played. Another reason is that I don't know what or who he has been doing. Just because he says one thing to you doesn't mean he won't say it to anyone else or that he means it. I would spend more time with him and get to know him better. On the other hand, many people have found their soul mates in situations like this. You need to think about the possibilities of your meeting someone else and his meeting someone else. In this situation you want to be fair to yourself and him as well. You should also talk to him about your concerns but only if the situation presents itself. You don't won't to bring it up if it doesn't because depending on what kind of guy he is, he may take it as that is all you think he wants and get offended. But be patient and the time will come. I can not tell you what to do but only give you my opinion. However, I will tell you this, when he speaks listen with your mind not your ears . Look at his actions with your spirit and soul not your eyes.Follow your heart not your body and it will show you the right way.
he's in the U.S(Indianapolis).. we've got talking again for over a year now... i really like him and we have great conversation. and were so close. he says if we were in the same place we'ed be going out. and i feel the same way too. anyway, he wants to come see me; he'll be driving down actually. and i'm afraid that we'll have sex when he comes...i kinda want too also.. but then what happens next 'cos we still wont be in the same country. and i want him for myself... he's so cute.. but i dont want to have sex with him and spoil everything.. i'm i making sense?... this sucks.. wat do u guys think?Hi ... i need some advice... about a guy?
First off, follow your instinct about not having sex with him! ESPECIALLY under these circumstances, it's almost assured to make things difficult.
The real issue is: How real do you think this relationship is? And, how far would you go to take it to the next level? If it is ever to be, one of you will eventually have to relocate. If that's a possibility, proceed (but still don't get sexual!) If neither of you are willing to relocate, then you are only torturing yourself for no reason.Hi ... i need some advice... about a guy?
Don't SCREW...not yet atleast!
Until you guys can have something a little more real.
If you guys do the nasty and he's another country, what makes him no have someboby else?
Long distance does not work!
i think u should kawa him . hehehehehe
Personally, I wouldn't have sex with him because if he gets the goodies and then leaves and finds someone else, I would feel played. Another reason is that I don't know what or who he has been doing. Just because he says one thing to you doesn't mean he won't say it to anyone else or that he means it. I would spend more time with him and get to know him better. On the other hand, many people have found their soul mates in situations like this. You need to think about the possibilities of your meeting someone else and his meeting someone else. In this situation you want to be fair to yourself and him as well. You should also talk to him about your concerns but only if the situation presents itself. You don't won't to bring it up if it doesn't because depending on what kind of guy he is, he may take it as that is all you think he wants and get offended. But be patient and the time will come. I can not tell you what to do but only give you my opinion. However, I will tell you this, when he speaks listen with your mind not your ears . Look at his actions with your spirit and soul not your eyes.Follow your heart not your body and it will show you the right way.
I need some leagal advice about my abusive 15yr.old niece.i'm 48.?
you can always take her to the middle east where she can be flogged. i think you'll have a hard time getting a entry visa because of the state warnings and all. you can always try mexicoI need some leagal advice about my abusive 15yr.old niece.i'm 48.?
i am not a lawyer and you need to contact one but there is bootcamp. she is a minor. send her to boot camp. to bad you cant kick her butt ';but she is only a child '; well she is grown enough to sas and hit but enyway that is only my opnion but seriously consult a lawyer and there is always bootcamp for the bad kids. good luck and God bless.I need some leagal advice about my abusive 15yr.old niece.i'm 48.?
I am not a lawyer, but I'd recommend thinking about this: Nobody is abusive for no good reason. Was she always this way? It could be a cumulative response to upbringing, in which case, some serious counseling is in order, for the whole family. Or, there could be other underlying factors - if this came on suddenly, you may want to consider the possibility of drug use or mental illness, and there's help for both. Often even teens will ';act out'; as well if they have been abused or molested. Additionally, if you need to, you can still get a restraining order - there's no age limit that I am aware of!
i am not a lawyer and you need to contact one but there is bootcamp. she is a minor. send her to boot camp. to bad you cant kick her butt ';but she is only a child '; well she is grown enough to sas and hit but enyway that is only my opnion but seriously consult a lawyer and there is always bootcamp for the bad kids. good luck and God bless.I need some leagal advice about my abusive 15yr.old niece.i'm 48.?
I am not a lawyer, but I'd recommend thinking about this: Nobody is abusive for no good reason. Was she always this way? It could be a cumulative response to upbringing, in which case, some serious counseling is in order, for the whole family. Or, there could be other underlying factors - if this came on suddenly, you may want to consider the possibility of drug use or mental illness, and there's help for both. Often even teens will ';act out'; as well if they have been abused or molested. Additionally, if you need to, you can still get a restraining order - there's no age limit that I am aware of!
Does anybody have any advice about....??
Ok so my gf and I have talked about having sex for the first time. (We are both virgins) and I was just wondering if anybody has any helpful advice (other than ';use protection'; please.)
Are there some things i should know about or how to make the first move.
thanks.Does anybody have any advice about....??
lol i like to hav a couple drinks...makes me frisky. other than that....um just go with the flow...it all starts with intimate kissing and slowly working your way down...............
but seriously think twice...if u are both virgins....it would be more special if u saved it for marriage that way you kno your with the right one..and to u they will be the best one out there....i wish i would hav.. :( thats one of my biggest regret for not waiting til i got married. Does anybody have any advice about....??
First of all, are you old enough to be making an informed decision here? Once you do this you cannot go back! I would say unless you love this person and are ready to make a committment to her you have not business having sex with her. Unless you are ready to be a father you have no business having sex with her. Unless you can afford to support her and a baby (even with birth control babies happen) don't have sex. Think about this seriously before you do it!
Okay this is a big step for you both so, first you have to relax and make sure she is also relaxed. I hope you both are old enough to have sex. If you are, as long as you know that you both love each other you will feel and know what your move should be. Just move with your heart.
wait...first...how old are you..? if the answer is under 18, then you need to wait. How long have you been dating? if the answer is less than a month then you need to wait. do you have a big wang? if the answer is no, do her a favor and dont have sex with her. Oh...important....make sure you shower on a regular basis..and what ever you do...do not...i repeat do not...ever, ever spray cologne on your johnson..sweat and cologne...yuck!
well ask her about her ';spot';, thats a place can get a girl h o r n y if you lick it at the right time! (my spot is between the legs and my neck)...but anyways when your doing your thing make sure you make it feel good.....(look at Por* for more info : ) lol)
P.S. if you can't talk to her about those things above i don't think ya'll should me doing it!
She will probably bleed because you will break her hyman or however you spell it and ask once in a while if your hurting her. Be gentle
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Do sex for a greater period of time as it will give u pleasure
its good to drink some water be4 you have sex drink a glass and it will be better while sex
i would before marriage because if u do and then u break up then you wasted it on someone that you wont be with forever.
Are there some things i should know about or how to make the first move.
thanks.Does anybody have any advice about....??
lol i like to hav a couple drinks...makes me frisky. other than that....um just go with the flow...it all starts with intimate kissing and slowly working your way down...............
but seriously think twice...if u are both virgins....it would be more special if u saved it for marriage that way you kno your with the right one..and to u they will be the best one out there....i wish i would hav.. :( thats one of my biggest regret for not waiting til i got married. Does anybody have any advice about....??
First of all, are you old enough to be making an informed decision here? Once you do this you cannot go back! I would say unless you love this person and are ready to make a committment to her you have not business having sex with her. Unless you are ready to be a father you have no business having sex with her. Unless you can afford to support her and a baby (even with birth control babies happen) don't have sex. Think about this seriously before you do it!
Okay this is a big step for you both so, first you have to relax and make sure she is also relaxed. I hope you both are old enough to have sex. If you are, as long as you know that you both love each other you will feel and know what your move should be. Just move with your heart.
wait...first...how old are you..? if the answer is under 18, then you need to wait. How long have you been dating? if the answer is less than a month then you need to wait. do you have a big wang? if the answer is no, do her a favor and dont have sex with her. Oh...important....make sure you shower on a regular basis..and what ever you do...do not...i repeat do not...ever, ever spray cologne on your johnson..sweat and cologne...yuck!
well ask her about her ';spot';, thats a place can get a girl h o r n y if you lick it at the right time! (my spot is between the legs and my neck)...but anyways when your doing your thing make sure you make it feel good.....(look at Por* for more info : ) lol)
P.S. if you can't talk to her about those things above i don't think ya'll should me doing it!
She will probably bleed because you will break her hyman or however you spell it and ask once in a while if your hurting her. Be gentle
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Do sex for a greater period of time as it will give u pleasure
its good to drink some water be4 you have sex drink a glass and it will be better while sex
i would before marriage because if u do and then u break up then you wasted it on someone that you wont be with forever.
I need some GOOD advice about this!!!?
my husband used to be a drug attic. i trusted him last night to take a couple of pills that would make him high. and when he woke up this morning he was definately acting not like himself in a really bad way. he has 2 of the pills left and i told him to get rid of them. he wouldnt so i told him that it is the pills or me. he knows i wont leave him so i told him that i will not talk to him or go around him untill he disposes of the pills. he still hasnt. what action should i take (besides leaving him, he is a wonderful husband and father)I need some GOOD advice about this!!!?
it's too bad you enabled him in the first place, especially since you knew he has had a problem in the past. try getting him to recognize that he has a problem that effects people other than himselfI need some GOOD advice about this!!!?
If he was a drug addict and has been clean, why would you condone him taking anything to get high? Why would you think it was OK to get stoned one day and not the next, and you have children in the home? Do you do drugs also?
I ask these questions because you two need to think about your poor kids and their welfare instead of the two of you getting high.
Keep letting things like that happen in your home and you may not need to worry about your kids, they will be the states problem
I think that you should talk to him and tell how much he means to you and tell him that you don't want him taking them pills. my husband use to drink all the time and i had to tell him it is either me or the beer and he dropped it and never picked it up again that has been 6 1/2 years ago. so good luck
I don't quite understand - how is he a good father and husband when he is choosing drugs over his family? I think the problem is that you threaten him with leaving or other things, but you don't fallow through with them. So knows this, so why should be be scared of anything you threaten him with?
You need to carry through with something, what ever you chose.
Drugs will take over a person if they don't get help, they wouldn't care about anything but what they can get to continue to keep them on the high. Maybe try getting him to get some counseling for himself before it turns out to be worst.
u go rehablition center.......
drugs are bad
WELL MAYBE YOU SHOULD THROW THE PILLS OUT...IF U REALLY LUV HIM U WOULD. AND TRY TAKING HIM TO A SPECIAL DOCTOR FOR PPLE WITH ADDICTIONS. THAT WAY U WOULDNT HAV 2 LEAVE HIM AND HE WILL STOP TAKING THE PILLS
Look, I'm only a teenager but I'm going to give you my BEST opinon. Try convincing him to go into counceling. If that doesn't work, you should probably divorce him. Because no kid wants a dad who is constantly taking and acting really stupid in front of them and being a bad influence for them. Also, if he keeps this up, he'll start caring more about his drugs and will start neglecting his entire family, and neither you nor your kids want that. So if nothing works, divorce is the best option.
i honestly think you should sit him down, and explain to him how you really feel, and that you admire him as a father and a husband, that you love him and dont want him to do any damage to himself, bc thats cheating away time with you and your kids. explain to him how it hurts you to see him like that, he needs to find a substitute, like you taking him somewhere to relax and put his mind at ease, not letting him think that the only way to feel good is to get high off pills. its more of a mind thing than an addiction. i think if it gets really bad you should seek help, but then again just ask him to be strong and you guys will pullthrough this, seeking help sometimes just gives you more medication to take to control your brain. i think if you guys have a nice long talk and express your feelings, things would be better. you just have to be his back brace when he thinks no one is there to catch him. %26lt;2 good luck
Where you have messed up here is by letting him know you will not leave him at any cost. There have to be expectations you have for him to meet or result in seperation. I do believe in always and forever, but he has to treat you right to earn the always and forever clause. I know you say he is a good husband and father but part of being that is not doing something self destructive.
OK sure he is a good husband and father and an attic. Your the one with the problem. You can do what would be the correct thing to do. Get a grip on yourself. Get help for you both. Do it for your kids. Stop making it sound like it is not bad. BECAUSE IT IS BAD.
if you say im not talking to you he wouldnt care. eventually you will talk or he'll will just ask a question. if you cover your hear when he ask the question he knows you noticed him if you walk away same thing if you start singing or something doesnt matter because you noticed him so really is impossible to ignore some one on less you stay a way where you cant see him or hear him.let him take the last to pills the effects will eventually go away. then seek for medical help.
Well, your sonderful husband and wonderful father is a DRUG ADDICT.....is that what you want your kids to aspire to...
First of all, a recovered addict should never ';use'; again, but since he already did... Just tell him, ';You're a wonderful husband and father. Those pills scare me because they make you act differently, would you consider getting rid of them?'; This way, you're not putting him down, you're blaming the pills...
This is like giving a suicidal person a gun with only two bullets and urged him to pull the trigger...but it didn't fire...now you don't want him to pull the trigger but are not willing to take the gun away from him...he will continue to play until he either realizes he will lose it all and quit or blow his brains out...you all ready admit and have allowed him to know you won't leave him...so he won't lose everything if he continues to get high...so he will continue this abuse...and you are allowing it....its got to be ..drugs or you...because if he chooses drugs your marriage as you know it is over anyway...because the more he uses the less a wonderful husband and father he will be or be capable of being...
You are the one that has seen the bahavior change so you will have to make the call. Never trust an addict around pills or alcohol, even if they think they can handle it that is not what ends up happening. It is also very important for an addict to let their doctor to know they have a problem with drugs to minimize the chance of waking a sleeping giant. NEVER let him take anything else on trust otherwise you will be what is called an enabler. Talk to him about this as sson as possible and make it clear that you will leave if he takes anything else and mean it. Just because it might have been just his manner this time addiction is a progressive diesease and will get worse.
If he is addicted to pills, I have a hard time believing that he is a wonderful husband and father. Addicts always put their addictions first, before anything and everyone else.
Contact your local Al-Anon group. You need some support and direction on how to stop enabling him. Good luck.
For one, it's addict, not attic. An attic is an area above your house that you store things in.
For two, how do you ';trust'; him to take a couple pills that would make him high? You SUPPORT his drug habit? If you trusted him to do that, you obviously support him, so the consequences are your own.
For three, he's a wonderful husband?! Man, I sure am glad my husband is truly wonderful without having to be a drug addict. A ';wonderful'; husband doesn't need drugs.
Well i was going to say leave him, but i guess you have to stick with him until he gets rid of them.
they never get over this, they are always recovering...u excepted that and u still love him..but obv this is bothering u and effecting your relationship together..I know you may feel obligated to help him out, and at times it may seem that no matter what you do it does not help. Well I think you might have heard this one before but if he really wanted the help, or if he really thinks he needs help then he would start helping himself. Basicly he is already making the choice, he prefers the pills to you. there is nothing u can do he has to help himself and u need to make him realize that u dont like this and it hurts u and u dont want to be with someone like that..u CANT change him HE needs to do this on his own
he's not that wonderful if he is using drugs-- if you are not willing to leave him - don't ask these questions
I have experience with being married to an addict. You continue to be an enabler, as evidenced by you saying ';you trusted him to take a couple of pills that would make him high.'; You cannot have it both ways. I found that getting on his case about it never helped. What did help was that I removed myself from the dramatics that always ensued - he didn't get yelling from me anymore or tears or even the suggestion that it moved me at all. One day I just sat him down and told him I had something to say and I told him very calmly that I knew I'd never change him, it was up to him, and that the choices he made would decide our future as a couple. I would stand by him if he tried to quit, but if he continued I would go my own way since I wasn't willing to sacrifice my own happiness for his addiction. I told him I would always love him, that would never change - but I would choose not to live like this in short order so he had a decision to make. It may not be the decision you are hoping for, but I got lucky. He's been straight now for 6 months. My biggest challenge will be when he has a setback and I still have to experience that, I can feel it coming like a bad storm. If you really love him, you cannot continue to enable him, it does nothing but hurt both of you. I wish you both the best of luck.
Yea, you love him alright, you know he has a problem, you don't ';let'; but are ok with him taking **** you know is going to screw him up, and now your whinning? Please, leave him and do him a favor, maybe he'll find someone who REALLY will love him and encourage him to cut the crap.
He needs help. You should find a way to get him into rehab, in the end it will be the best thing for him and he can get clean. If he doesn't kick this addiction now, he will lose everything. It's called ';tough love'; and he needs some right now.
If he is a wonderful husband %26amp; father, then he will get rid of them!! A wonderful husband %26amp; father, will show that he loves and wants to be with and take care of his family, because they are worth more too him then the love %26amp; want for disgusting drugs!!!!!! Drugs can only hurt %26amp; will never reward his life, his family will make his life tremendously happy %26amp; totally rewarding!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck!!!!!!
First of all, once a drug addict, always a drug addict. I don't mean that a drug addict will never stop using. I am a drug addict but I have been clean for 6 years. I will always be a drug addict. The expression ';1 is too many and a thousand is never enough'; is something I think about every day. I know I can't take any kind of mood altering drug because that will open that Pandora's box and I never want to go there again. If he's not going to get rid of them you not talking to him will be a blessing in his eyes cuz then you won't be bitching at him. If you won't go around him that will give him the freedom to go and do whatever he wants to do. If he knows you won't leave him - well you've given him carte blanche to do as he pleases and you'll be there to keep the household running. If he goes back to using drugs that wonderful husband and father image will be gone in a heartbeat. Your only recourse is to hit him where it hurts the most and the hardest. It's called tough love and it's the ONLY way to get through to a drug addict who doesn't see what he's doing to the people he loves. Drug addicts believe they are only hurting themselves so no harm done. If you give him an ultimatum you have to use the one thing that will hurt him the most and if that means leaving with the kids, then that is exactly what you have to do. If you don't the drug use will go on and just get worse. Someone else said go to an Al-Anon meeting and that was real good advice. Talk to other people in your shoes and see what advice they will give you. But the tough-love theory is what you will hear over and over again. It was done to me 6 years ago and I've had urges but I think about what I nearly lost and it scares me straight.
Trying using the pills as suppositories on him. Lose the guy for crying out loud. There is no such thing as a wonderful drug addict, husband and father.
have you tried to get the pills and take care of it??
i dont know what to tell you!
maybe you should call someone and talk to them,like someone who is really close to you and ask them for help. i am sorry that i cant really help you.
i hope things work out for you and i hope your husband can get it through his head that this is wrong and bad for him!
He is in love with the drugs not you. Time to wake up and realize that.
First off, its party your fault for allowing him to take the pills. Why would you let a recovering drug addict take some pills to get him ';high'; thats just dumb on your part. You cant blame him all on this because some of it was your fault. Maybe if you would have been a more responsible adult, your husband would still be drug free TODAY. good job. tell him to go to rehab, obviously he needs help.
it's too bad you enabled him in the first place, especially since you knew he has had a problem in the past. try getting him to recognize that he has a problem that effects people other than himselfI need some GOOD advice about this!!!?
If he was a drug addict and has been clean, why would you condone him taking anything to get high? Why would you think it was OK to get stoned one day and not the next, and you have children in the home? Do you do drugs also?
I ask these questions because you two need to think about your poor kids and their welfare instead of the two of you getting high.
Keep letting things like that happen in your home and you may not need to worry about your kids, they will be the states problem
I think that you should talk to him and tell how much he means to you and tell him that you don't want him taking them pills. my husband use to drink all the time and i had to tell him it is either me or the beer and he dropped it and never picked it up again that has been 6 1/2 years ago. so good luck
I don't quite understand - how is he a good father and husband when he is choosing drugs over his family? I think the problem is that you threaten him with leaving or other things, but you don't fallow through with them. So knows this, so why should be be scared of anything you threaten him with?
You need to carry through with something, what ever you chose.
Drugs will take over a person if they don't get help, they wouldn't care about anything but what they can get to continue to keep them on the high. Maybe try getting him to get some counseling for himself before it turns out to be worst.
u go rehablition center.......
drugs are bad
WELL MAYBE YOU SHOULD THROW THE PILLS OUT...IF U REALLY LUV HIM U WOULD. AND TRY TAKING HIM TO A SPECIAL DOCTOR FOR PPLE WITH ADDICTIONS. THAT WAY U WOULDNT HAV 2 LEAVE HIM AND HE WILL STOP TAKING THE PILLS
Look, I'm only a teenager but I'm going to give you my BEST opinon. Try convincing him to go into counceling. If that doesn't work, you should probably divorce him. Because no kid wants a dad who is constantly taking and acting really stupid in front of them and being a bad influence for them. Also, if he keeps this up, he'll start caring more about his drugs and will start neglecting his entire family, and neither you nor your kids want that. So if nothing works, divorce is the best option.
i honestly think you should sit him down, and explain to him how you really feel, and that you admire him as a father and a husband, that you love him and dont want him to do any damage to himself, bc thats cheating away time with you and your kids. explain to him how it hurts you to see him like that, he needs to find a substitute, like you taking him somewhere to relax and put his mind at ease, not letting him think that the only way to feel good is to get high off pills. its more of a mind thing than an addiction. i think if it gets really bad you should seek help, but then again just ask him to be strong and you guys will pullthrough this, seeking help sometimes just gives you more medication to take to control your brain. i think if you guys have a nice long talk and express your feelings, things would be better. you just have to be his back brace when he thinks no one is there to catch him. %26lt;2 good luck
Where you have messed up here is by letting him know you will not leave him at any cost. There have to be expectations you have for him to meet or result in seperation. I do believe in always and forever, but he has to treat you right to earn the always and forever clause. I know you say he is a good husband and father but part of being that is not doing something self destructive.
OK sure he is a good husband and father and an attic. Your the one with the problem. You can do what would be the correct thing to do. Get a grip on yourself. Get help for you both. Do it for your kids. Stop making it sound like it is not bad. BECAUSE IT IS BAD.
if you say im not talking to you he wouldnt care. eventually you will talk or he'll will just ask a question. if you cover your hear when he ask the question he knows you noticed him if you walk away same thing if you start singing or something doesnt matter because you noticed him so really is impossible to ignore some one on less you stay a way where you cant see him or hear him.let him take the last to pills the effects will eventually go away. then seek for medical help.
Well, your sonderful husband and wonderful father is a DRUG ADDICT.....is that what you want your kids to aspire to...
First of all, a recovered addict should never ';use'; again, but since he already did... Just tell him, ';You're a wonderful husband and father. Those pills scare me because they make you act differently, would you consider getting rid of them?'; This way, you're not putting him down, you're blaming the pills...
This is like giving a suicidal person a gun with only two bullets and urged him to pull the trigger...but it didn't fire...now you don't want him to pull the trigger but are not willing to take the gun away from him...he will continue to play until he either realizes he will lose it all and quit or blow his brains out...you all ready admit and have allowed him to know you won't leave him...so he won't lose everything if he continues to get high...so he will continue this abuse...and you are allowing it....its got to be ..drugs or you...because if he chooses drugs your marriage as you know it is over anyway...because the more he uses the less a wonderful husband and father he will be or be capable of being...
You are the one that has seen the bahavior change so you will have to make the call. Never trust an addict around pills or alcohol, even if they think they can handle it that is not what ends up happening. It is also very important for an addict to let their doctor to know they have a problem with drugs to minimize the chance of waking a sleeping giant. NEVER let him take anything else on trust otherwise you will be what is called an enabler. Talk to him about this as sson as possible and make it clear that you will leave if he takes anything else and mean it. Just because it might have been just his manner this time addiction is a progressive diesease and will get worse.
If he is addicted to pills, I have a hard time believing that he is a wonderful husband and father. Addicts always put their addictions first, before anything and everyone else.
Contact your local Al-Anon group. You need some support and direction on how to stop enabling him. Good luck.
For one, it's addict, not attic. An attic is an area above your house that you store things in.
For two, how do you ';trust'; him to take a couple pills that would make him high? You SUPPORT his drug habit? If you trusted him to do that, you obviously support him, so the consequences are your own.
For three, he's a wonderful husband?! Man, I sure am glad my husband is truly wonderful without having to be a drug addict. A ';wonderful'; husband doesn't need drugs.
Well i was going to say leave him, but i guess you have to stick with him until he gets rid of them.
they never get over this, they are always recovering...u excepted that and u still love him..but obv this is bothering u and effecting your relationship together..I know you may feel obligated to help him out, and at times it may seem that no matter what you do it does not help. Well I think you might have heard this one before but if he really wanted the help, or if he really thinks he needs help then he would start helping himself. Basicly he is already making the choice, he prefers the pills to you. there is nothing u can do he has to help himself and u need to make him realize that u dont like this and it hurts u and u dont want to be with someone like that..u CANT change him HE needs to do this on his own
he's not that wonderful if he is using drugs-- if you are not willing to leave him - don't ask these questions
I have experience with being married to an addict. You continue to be an enabler, as evidenced by you saying ';you trusted him to take a couple of pills that would make him high.'; You cannot have it both ways. I found that getting on his case about it never helped. What did help was that I removed myself from the dramatics that always ensued - he didn't get yelling from me anymore or tears or even the suggestion that it moved me at all. One day I just sat him down and told him I had something to say and I told him very calmly that I knew I'd never change him, it was up to him, and that the choices he made would decide our future as a couple. I would stand by him if he tried to quit, but if he continued I would go my own way since I wasn't willing to sacrifice my own happiness for his addiction. I told him I would always love him, that would never change - but I would choose not to live like this in short order so he had a decision to make. It may not be the decision you are hoping for, but I got lucky. He's been straight now for 6 months. My biggest challenge will be when he has a setback and I still have to experience that, I can feel it coming like a bad storm. If you really love him, you cannot continue to enable him, it does nothing but hurt both of you. I wish you both the best of luck.
Yea, you love him alright, you know he has a problem, you don't ';let'; but are ok with him taking **** you know is going to screw him up, and now your whinning? Please, leave him and do him a favor, maybe he'll find someone who REALLY will love him and encourage him to cut the crap.
He needs help. You should find a way to get him into rehab, in the end it will be the best thing for him and he can get clean. If he doesn't kick this addiction now, he will lose everything. It's called ';tough love'; and he needs some right now.
If he is a wonderful husband %26amp; father, then he will get rid of them!! A wonderful husband %26amp; father, will show that he loves and wants to be with and take care of his family, because they are worth more too him then the love %26amp; want for disgusting drugs!!!!!! Drugs can only hurt %26amp; will never reward his life, his family will make his life tremendously happy %26amp; totally rewarding!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck!!!!!!
First of all, once a drug addict, always a drug addict. I don't mean that a drug addict will never stop using. I am a drug addict but I have been clean for 6 years. I will always be a drug addict. The expression ';1 is too many and a thousand is never enough'; is something I think about every day. I know I can't take any kind of mood altering drug because that will open that Pandora's box and I never want to go there again. If he's not going to get rid of them you not talking to him will be a blessing in his eyes cuz then you won't be bitching at him. If you won't go around him that will give him the freedom to go and do whatever he wants to do. If he knows you won't leave him - well you've given him carte blanche to do as he pleases and you'll be there to keep the household running. If he goes back to using drugs that wonderful husband and father image will be gone in a heartbeat. Your only recourse is to hit him where it hurts the most and the hardest. It's called tough love and it's the ONLY way to get through to a drug addict who doesn't see what he's doing to the people he loves. Drug addicts believe they are only hurting themselves so no harm done. If you give him an ultimatum you have to use the one thing that will hurt him the most and if that means leaving with the kids, then that is exactly what you have to do. If you don't the drug use will go on and just get worse. Someone else said go to an Al-Anon meeting and that was real good advice. Talk to other people in your shoes and see what advice they will give you. But the tough-love theory is what you will hear over and over again. It was done to me 6 years ago and I've had urges but I think about what I nearly lost and it scares me straight.
Trying using the pills as suppositories on him. Lose the guy for crying out loud. There is no such thing as a wonderful drug addict, husband and father.
have you tried to get the pills and take care of it??
i dont know what to tell you!
maybe you should call someone and talk to them,like someone who is really close to you and ask them for help. i am sorry that i cant really help you.
i hope things work out for you and i hope your husband can get it through his head that this is wrong and bad for him!
He is in love with the drugs not you. Time to wake up and realize that.
First off, its party your fault for allowing him to take the pills. Why would you let a recovering drug addict take some pills to get him ';high'; thats just dumb on your part. You cant blame him all on this because some of it was your fault. Maybe if you would have been a more responsible adult, your husband would still be drug free TODAY. good job. tell him to go to rehab, obviously he needs help.
Does anybody have any advice about....??
Ok so my gf and I have talked about having sex for the first time. (We are both virgins) and I was just wondering if anybody has any helpful advice (other than ';use protection'; please.)
Are there some things i should know about or how to make the first move.
thanks.Does anybody have any advice about....??
lol i like to hav a couple drinks...makes me frisky. other than that....um just go with the flow...it all starts with intimate kissing and slowly working your way down...............
but seriously think twice...if u are both virgins....it would be more special if u saved it for marriage that way you kno your with the right one..and to u they will be the best one out there....i wish i would hav.. :( thats one of my biggest regret for not waiting til i got married. Does anybody have any advice about....??
First of all, are you old enough to be making an informed decision here? Once you do this you cannot go back! I would say unless you love this person and are ready to make a committment to her you have not business having sex with her. Unless you are ready to be a father you have no business having sex with her. Unless you can afford to support her and a baby (even with birth control babies happen) don't have sex. Think about this seriously before you do it!
Okay this is a big step for you both so, first you have to relax and make sure she is also relaxed. I hope you both are old enough to have sex. If you are, as long as you know that you both love each other you will feel and know what your move should be. Just move with your heart.
wait...first...how old are you..? if the answer is under 18, then you need to wait. How long have you been dating? if the answer is less than a month then you need to wait. do you have a big wang? if the answer is no, do her a favor and dont have sex with her. Oh...important....make sure you shower on a regular basis..and what ever you do...do not...i repeat do not...ever, ever spray cologne on your johnson..sweat and cologne...yuck!
well ask her about her ';spot';, thats a place can get a girl h o r n y if you lick it at the right time! (my spot is between the legs and my neck)...but anyways when your doing your thing make sure you make it feel good.....(look at Por* for more info : ) lol)
P.S. if you can't talk to her about those things above i don't think ya'll should me doing it!
She will probably bleed because you will break her hyman or however you spell it and ask once in a while if your hurting her. Be gentle
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Do sex for a greater period of time as it will give u pleasure
its good to drink some water be4 you have sex drink a glass and it will be better while sex
i would before marriage because if u do and then u break up then you wasted it on someone that you wont be with forever.remedies blackheads
Are there some things i should know about or how to make the first move.
thanks.Does anybody have any advice about....??
lol i like to hav a couple drinks...makes me frisky. other than that....um just go with the flow...it all starts with intimate kissing and slowly working your way down...............
but seriously think twice...if u are both virgins....it would be more special if u saved it for marriage that way you kno your with the right one..and to u they will be the best one out there....i wish i would hav.. :( thats one of my biggest regret for not waiting til i got married. Does anybody have any advice about....??
First of all, are you old enough to be making an informed decision here? Once you do this you cannot go back! I would say unless you love this person and are ready to make a committment to her you have not business having sex with her. Unless you are ready to be a father you have no business having sex with her. Unless you can afford to support her and a baby (even with birth control babies happen) don't have sex. Think about this seriously before you do it!
Okay this is a big step for you both so, first you have to relax and make sure she is also relaxed. I hope you both are old enough to have sex. If you are, as long as you know that you both love each other you will feel and know what your move should be. Just move with your heart.
wait...first...how old are you..? if the answer is under 18, then you need to wait. How long have you been dating? if the answer is less than a month then you need to wait. do you have a big wang? if the answer is no, do her a favor and dont have sex with her. Oh...important....make sure you shower on a regular basis..and what ever you do...do not...i repeat do not...ever, ever spray cologne on your johnson..sweat and cologne...yuck!
well ask her about her ';spot';, thats a place can get a girl h o r n y if you lick it at the right time! (my spot is between the legs and my neck)...but anyways when your doing your thing make sure you make it feel good.....(look at Por* for more info : ) lol)
P.S. if you can't talk to her about those things above i don't think ya'll should me doing it!
She will probably bleed because you will break her hyman or however you spell it and ask once in a while if your hurting her. Be gentle
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Do sex for a greater period of time as it will give u pleasure
its good to drink some water be4 you have sex drink a glass and it will be better while sex
i would before marriage because if u do and then u break up then you wasted it on someone that you wont be with forever.
I need some good advice about this girl..?
shes 13...and im 15...im the first guy to ever hit on her...and she used to be all over me.. but when she found out i liked her...she backd off ..i mean b4 we would flirt like crazy..and talk all the time...now i think shes just scared and duznt know what to do...i talked to her about it, and she said she was busy and really stressed but in kno that that is bs..it was like a month ago when i asked her out..and since she has been really distant..but when i talk to other girls......she seems to take more notice..or every once in a while ill see her sneak a glance at me.........what should i think..do u think she's just scared and doesnt' know what to do or what?? i like her a lto please help??I need some good advice about this girl..?
Dude.... ask her out. She likes you she is just scared.
Dude.... ask her out. She likes you she is just scared.
Does anyone have any advice about guys for me???
i've been having some guy troubles i mean guys like me sometimes but they wont go out with me...i mean im still young but i've only had one real boyfriend...and that only lasted two months...helppppDoes anyone have any advice about guys for me???
The age of the people involved has a lot to do with it. Until guys are 16 or more, they usually are more focused on themselves, being kids, hanging with their friends...girls are just being discovered and are NOT the first priority (at least not for very long). If you're 17 or more then it's just the choice of guys.Does anyone have any advice about guys for me???
Why not watch your attitude. The way you react might turning guys away from you. Learn from your friend.
If boys don't go out with u it mean u can't impress them. if the boys get impress from u they will go before u like mad dogs.
Hey.. Its alrite you havnt had a boyfriend in 2 months.. people go longer than that.. Enjoy your single life while you can.. because when u get a boyfriend all the guys are a no no.. and when u fall in love you wont be looking any more.. i used to check out guys ALL the time , me and my girlfriends.. and then i started dating my boyfriend.. now guys dont even interest me ne more.. So go out, be free.. all while you still can hunnie.. Enjoy Single Life! Katie*
Are u old enough to have a boyfriend? If so, maybe u are more of a pal to them than a love.
www.catchhimandkeephim.com
First,don't let guys be your number one aim
in life or most important thing to you!!!
have your own life and enjoy this wonderful
freedom while it lasts because alot of men
will take it all from you if they can!!!
Enjoy yourself and embrace your life.
Remember,men are like dessert,but they are
not the main course!!! They are delicious %26amp;
sometimes sooooo sweet and very tempting,
yet they are not everything!!! Live life for you
and then you'll find some great guys to be
with. It happens alot faster than you think too!
You should just date and not be trying to get serious.
depends on your age... forget guys, start dating girls... :D
Read about how guys think. We are so different that you may just not understand what your boyfriends want.
judging by ur name id say u have a major attitude and that ur stuck up. nobody wants a girl who thinks shes all that when shes not.
If you are serious, and wish to chat....drop me a line!!!
Have a great day,
Lonnie
i don't know what to say cause i can't even brake up with mine i don't know why i think its because i haven't dated in 2 years
how old are you? enough to maintain a relationship?
The age of the people involved has a lot to do with it. Until guys are 16 or more, they usually are more focused on themselves, being kids, hanging with their friends...girls are just being discovered and are NOT the first priority (at least not for very long). If you're 17 or more then it's just the choice of guys.Does anyone have any advice about guys for me???
Why not watch your attitude. The way you react might turning guys away from you. Learn from your friend.
If boys don't go out with u it mean u can't impress them. if the boys get impress from u they will go before u like mad dogs.
Hey.. Its alrite you havnt had a boyfriend in 2 months.. people go longer than that.. Enjoy your single life while you can.. because when u get a boyfriend all the guys are a no no.. and when u fall in love you wont be looking any more.. i used to check out guys ALL the time , me and my girlfriends.. and then i started dating my boyfriend.. now guys dont even interest me ne more.. So go out, be free.. all while you still can hunnie.. Enjoy Single Life! Katie*
Are u old enough to have a boyfriend? If so, maybe u are more of a pal to them than a love.
www.catchhimandkeephim.com
First,don't let guys be your number one aim
in life or most important thing to you!!!
have your own life and enjoy this wonderful
freedom while it lasts because alot of men
will take it all from you if they can!!!
Enjoy yourself and embrace your life.
Remember,men are like dessert,but they are
not the main course!!! They are delicious %26amp;
sometimes sooooo sweet and very tempting,
yet they are not everything!!! Live life for you
and then you'll find some great guys to be
with. It happens alot faster than you think too!
You should just date and not be trying to get serious.
depends on your age... forget guys, start dating girls... :D
Read about how guys think. We are so different that you may just not understand what your boyfriends want.
judging by ur name id say u have a major attitude and that ur stuck up. nobody wants a girl who thinks shes all that when shes not.
If you are serious, and wish to chat....drop me a line!!!
Have a great day,
Lonnie
i don't know what to say cause i can't even brake up with mine i don't know why i think its because i haven't dated in 2 years
how old are you? enough to maintain a relationship?
Hey give me your advice about this???/?
hey I have been with this guy for 2 years and we are so happy together But I want to do new things in our alone time (if you know what I mean)Can ya'll help me and give me some suggestions on this?Hey give me your advice about this???/?
Guys are all about the freaky stuff in the bedroom department. Tell him what you want to do. He'll be all for it. Food, Toys, diff positions,If you want to get real freaky, Candle wax dripping, ohhh.lol he won't get enough of it. Have fun.Hey give me your advice about this???/?
try sex toys...they are fun for both.
Pureromance.com
has a lot of great girl and guy things. check it out and surprise him ;)
Monopoly and Scrabble are about the two best games to get involved in.
try tying him down and blindfold,tickling with feather,maybe he can do to you also,lots of fun!
Read community guidelines.. This is thoroughly boring.
Away and do your homework and get off this website.
would have to know what you do in your alone time now to offer any NEW things to do!!!
you want to cheat - leave him or make your relationship and open one!
what kinda things are you wanting to do? if its messeing around or just wanting to see somebody else, ide be careful it may cause you to loose what you already have good luck hun
Guys are all about the freaky stuff in the bedroom department. Tell him what you want to do. He'll be all for it. Food, Toys, diff positions,If you want to get real freaky, Candle wax dripping, ohhh.lol he won't get enough of it. Have fun.Hey give me your advice about this???/?
try sex toys...they are fun for both.
Pureromance.com
has a lot of great girl and guy things. check it out and surprise him ;)
Monopoly and Scrabble are about the two best games to get involved in.
try tying him down and blindfold,tickling with feather,maybe he can do to you also,lots of fun!
Read community guidelines.. This is thoroughly boring.
Away and do your homework and get off this website.
would have to know what you do in your alone time now to offer any NEW things to do!!!
you want to cheat - leave him or make your relationship and open one!
what kinda things are you wanting to do? if its messeing around or just wanting to see somebody else, ide be careful it may cause you to loose what you already have good luck hun
I need some serious advice about a life changing decision...HELP.?
My girlfriend is selfish ,she's also a taker more than a giver, she has the worst mood swings, and she's never wrong. I now ,break up with her right. She just told me she's pregnant. Any advice on how i should with handle this or maybe the best way to handle a situation like this one. Should i stay or should i go?I need some serious advice about a life changing decision...HELP.?
staying isn't good for you, her or the baby. none of you need a stressful, unhappy relationship. standing by her doesn't mean staying with her.I need some serious advice about a life changing decision...HELP.?
DO NOT, i repeat, DO NOT get married. Support the kid, but for the love of god, please do not marry a selfish person.
1). Has she been tested, and you know for sure she is?
2). If so, what type of childhood would your son / daughter have.
Are you willing to compromise, to make a happy home for your child or would you talk to your ex-girlfriend about keeping a open friendship for the sake of your child's mental health?
I would totally be there for her pregnancy and the birth and definitely in the baby's life forever...BUT i would also talk to her about her personality. Tell her that you cannot be with someone like that, and if she doesnt change...just tell her you want to be friends. If you cant see yourself marrying something, don't date them.
been through the same situation. move on with ur life, if she was good enuf to be a baby mama, u wont be in this situation.
make sure she is pregnant, don't continue having sex with her until you know for sure...if she is plan on being a dad...and decide if your want to be bf or not.
As soon as you're able, I'd hope that you're not the daddy...
..........with a paternity test!
You may have already made a 21 year decision!
If thats going to make you happy, leave. You can still help out without yall being together. dont let her make you feel guilty
First of all, have you talked to her about any of this. Talk to her about how she feels. Then tell her it's your turn to talk, tell her that you have to get a few things off your chest and dont want feedback right away. Let her know how you feel. Also women are wrong 50% of the time, the rest your wrong, just remember that.
Why are you asking this question NOW that she is pregnant? Why did you stay with this woman in the first place long enough to get her pregnant if you knew that you didn't want to be with her? Okay, the past can't be undone....
Well, you wouldn't be doing the kid any favors by staying with someone you can't stand. More kids are screwed up by 2 parents that constantly fight and are not in love than you can imagine! All of that tension will rub off on your child, and he/she won't be better for it. The best thing you can do is to step up to the plate and be a good father for this child, but I'd think twice about marrying this woman just because you feel obligated to. You'll need to maintain a friendship with her for the sake of your child, and will need to communicate regularly. This can get tricky, depending on how cooperative your girlfriend is. Hopefully she is mature enough to work it out with you. I would come clean about how you feel about her, but make it clear to her that you are there to support her and will be by her side to help her raise the child, you just won't be romanticly involved.
If you feel like you love her and can work with her on your issues together, then by all means marry her.
Good luck!
stay with her, talk to her....tell her how you feel, and if the talking didnt help threaten her and maybe that would work but you should stay with her because she's pregnant or you can break up with her but stay with the baby still take care of your child
Hi, Well so far all you told us was about her..what about you?..do you love her?..maybe one thing to consider maybe she was acting crazy cause she is preggo..she was having the symptoms of pregnancy. I know during my pregnancies i was like a bi polar maniac (not really but you know)..one minute i was laughing the next i was crying for no reason.
I would try and stick it out especially if you love her. Someday you two may laugh about it. And stay with her because you truly love her not just for the baby.
If you don't stick it out then at least be there for the pregnancy and baby.
If marriage is not an option, then support her through the pregnancy. (Last 8 weeks are rough.)
Discuss a shared parenting plan. Go online and look at the shared parenting planners. (A calendar should serve the same purpose.) Decide at what age it would be appropriate for the baby to begin alternating parents.
Start shopping for: 2 cribs, 2 carseats, 2 changing tables, etc....
Wish you luck...and Congratulations!
Sounds like your mind is already made up??
It all sounds a little bit convenient for her to be preggers... but if she is then you should definitly be there during the pregnancy, and for you child, but it you are unhappy, then you should not go back to her! You will only make yourself more depressed, and down.
Thats no way to live your life.
Good luck
Go to your doctor and get tested to find out if you really are the father. If you were using protection then most likely she isn't pregnant. But there is always the possibility. Protection isn't always 100%.
If you weren't using protection, then you can start worrying. You may have to wait nine months to find out. Not exactly sure how that works. But you can find that out from you doc.
All said and done, if you are the father of the baby that doesn't mean you have to marry her. She sounds like she's unstable in regardings to her mood swings. Just me on this, she needs to see a professional about the mood swings. It's very treatable and she'll be a happier person. She not only makes you misserable, but will do the same to others along with herself.
I'm not saying this is a reason for not marrying her. You both sound very young (could be wrong) and it takes money to take care of a babies needs. It also takes a lot of patience and sacrifice. If you're not willing to take on those kinds of responsibilities, then I would have to say no.
Altimately the decision is up to you. The babies welfare comes first before anything else.
What every happens ... the best of luck.
Hi!
I think I can understand your problem....
Dear! I m too a girl and being a girl I would say u should carry on with this relationship...... But this is a life time decision you have to spend your whole life with the the girl you chose to marry with....
So! talk to your girlfriend about your problem because each and every person have to adjust a bit continue a relationship........... AS ';TO MAKE A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT A BIG DEAL BUT TO MAINTAIN IT WITH JOY IS A BIG DEAL';
All the very best for your decision..... and don't worry much have a Chill Pill...........
Lord, you really need advise on this? Come on man do some thinking here. Is she pregnant? Doubt it had many friends get scammed like this back into relationships. Have her take a test at your home, and have her show you the results. Odds are she is full of it.
If she is, then freaking man up. You chose to have sex, and by doing so chose what could happen. So take it in stride, and man up and take care of your kid. (Disclaimer: I would have a blood test done on the child before signing any papers). Love and cheerish the child but dump the mother. She sounds like a whack job.
staying isn't good for you, her or the baby. none of you need a stressful, unhappy relationship. standing by her doesn't mean staying with her.I need some serious advice about a life changing decision...HELP.?
DO NOT, i repeat, DO NOT get married. Support the kid, but for the love of god, please do not marry a selfish person.
1). Has she been tested, and you know for sure she is?
2). If so, what type of childhood would your son / daughter have.
Are you willing to compromise, to make a happy home for your child or would you talk to your ex-girlfriend about keeping a open friendship for the sake of your child's mental health?
I would totally be there for her pregnancy and the birth and definitely in the baby's life forever...BUT i would also talk to her about her personality. Tell her that you cannot be with someone like that, and if she doesnt change...just tell her you want to be friends. If you cant see yourself marrying something, don't date them.
been through the same situation. move on with ur life, if she was good enuf to be a baby mama, u wont be in this situation.
make sure she is pregnant, don't continue having sex with her until you know for sure...if she is plan on being a dad...and decide if your want to be bf or not.
As soon as you're able, I'd hope that you're not the daddy...
..........with a paternity test!
You may have already made a 21 year decision!
If thats going to make you happy, leave. You can still help out without yall being together. dont let her make you feel guilty
First of all, have you talked to her about any of this. Talk to her about how she feels. Then tell her it's your turn to talk, tell her that you have to get a few things off your chest and dont want feedback right away. Let her know how you feel. Also women are wrong 50% of the time, the rest your wrong, just remember that.
Why are you asking this question NOW that she is pregnant? Why did you stay with this woman in the first place long enough to get her pregnant if you knew that you didn't want to be with her? Okay, the past can't be undone....
Well, you wouldn't be doing the kid any favors by staying with someone you can't stand. More kids are screwed up by 2 parents that constantly fight and are not in love than you can imagine! All of that tension will rub off on your child, and he/she won't be better for it. The best thing you can do is to step up to the plate and be a good father for this child, but I'd think twice about marrying this woman just because you feel obligated to. You'll need to maintain a friendship with her for the sake of your child, and will need to communicate regularly. This can get tricky, depending on how cooperative your girlfriend is. Hopefully she is mature enough to work it out with you. I would come clean about how you feel about her, but make it clear to her that you are there to support her and will be by her side to help her raise the child, you just won't be romanticly involved.
If you feel like you love her and can work with her on your issues together, then by all means marry her.
Good luck!
stay with her, talk to her....tell her how you feel, and if the talking didnt help threaten her and maybe that would work but you should stay with her because she's pregnant or you can break up with her but stay with the baby still take care of your child
Hi, Well so far all you told us was about her..what about you?..do you love her?..maybe one thing to consider maybe she was acting crazy cause she is preggo..she was having the symptoms of pregnancy. I know during my pregnancies i was like a bi polar maniac (not really but you know)..one minute i was laughing the next i was crying for no reason.
I would try and stick it out especially if you love her. Someday you two may laugh about it. And stay with her because you truly love her not just for the baby.
If you don't stick it out then at least be there for the pregnancy and baby.
If marriage is not an option, then support her through the pregnancy. (Last 8 weeks are rough.)
Discuss a shared parenting plan. Go online and look at the shared parenting planners. (A calendar should serve the same purpose.) Decide at what age it would be appropriate for the baby to begin alternating parents.
Start shopping for: 2 cribs, 2 carseats, 2 changing tables, etc....
Wish you luck...and Congratulations!
Sounds like your mind is already made up??
It all sounds a little bit convenient for her to be preggers... but if she is then you should definitly be there during the pregnancy, and for you child, but it you are unhappy, then you should not go back to her! You will only make yourself more depressed, and down.
Thats no way to live your life.
Good luck
Go to your doctor and get tested to find out if you really are the father. If you were using protection then most likely she isn't pregnant. But there is always the possibility. Protection isn't always 100%.
If you weren't using protection, then you can start worrying. You may have to wait nine months to find out. Not exactly sure how that works. But you can find that out from you doc.
All said and done, if you are the father of the baby that doesn't mean you have to marry her. She sounds like she's unstable in regardings to her mood swings. Just me on this, she needs to see a professional about the mood swings. It's very treatable and she'll be a happier person. She not only makes you misserable, but will do the same to others along with herself.
I'm not saying this is a reason for not marrying her. You both sound very young (could be wrong) and it takes money to take care of a babies needs. It also takes a lot of patience and sacrifice. If you're not willing to take on those kinds of responsibilities, then I would have to say no.
Altimately the decision is up to you. The babies welfare comes first before anything else.
What every happens ... the best of luck.
Hi!
I think I can understand your problem....
Dear! I m too a girl and being a girl I would say u should carry on with this relationship...... But this is a life time decision you have to spend your whole life with the the girl you chose to marry with....
So! talk to your girlfriend about your problem because each and every person have to adjust a bit continue a relationship........... AS ';TO MAKE A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT A BIG DEAL BUT TO MAINTAIN IT WITH JOY IS A BIG DEAL';
All the very best for your decision..... and don't worry much have a Chill Pill...........
Lord, you really need advise on this? Come on man do some thinking here. Is she pregnant? Doubt it had many friends get scammed like this back into relationships. Have her take a test at your home, and have her show you the results. Odds are she is full of it.
If she is, then freaking man up. You chose to have sex, and by doing so chose what could happen. So take it in stride, and man up and take care of your kid. (Disclaimer: I would have a blood test done on the child before signing any papers). Love and cheerish the child but dump the mother. She sounds like a whack job.
Thank you for the advice about this last week. Will he stop calling or get worse? Read bellow:?
Should I be carefull?
I'm torn. I have been dating this man for about two months now.Lately he has been telling me that he wants me to go to Arizona in November to meet his family,friends,everyone.H... and I live here in California and he wants to move to New York with him next year.He asked me last weekend if I can have children.I'm a little hesitant because he has a really BADDD temper.He got mad at me and punched the wall.We went on an outing to the park. I told him that I needed to go to the bathroom.When I got back from the bathroom he showed me his camera.He had followed me and took pictures of me as I went to the bathroom aal the way until I went inside.I remember stopping to talk to a lady about her dog,he took pictures of that too.Am I jumping to conclusions or should I be careful :
I decided Saturday that I would never talk to him again.He has called 60 times today 80 times yesterday.I feel like a horrible person!!!But I know that I can NEVER talk to or see him again.Thank you for the advice about this last week. Will he stop calling or get worse? Read bellow:?
I saw your last question and this is kind of scary. You did the right thing but he sounds like a major stalker. Please be careful - I hope he doesn't know where you live.Thank you for the advice about this last week. Will he stop calling or get worse? Read bellow:?
wow......scarry....sound like his a psycho....lol
but to be honest my bf when i barely know him his just like that...but AS SOON AS we start dating....and i guess he already know that his with me so he doesnt need to show off....he start calling/texting less u know what i mean??
I'm torn. I have been dating this man for about two months now.Lately he has been telling me that he wants me to go to Arizona in November to meet his family,friends,everyone.H... and I live here in California and he wants to move to New York with him next year.He asked me last weekend if I can have children.I'm a little hesitant because he has a really BADDD temper.He got mad at me and punched the wall.We went on an outing to the park. I told him that I needed to go to the bathroom.When I got back from the bathroom he showed me his camera.He had followed me and took pictures of me as I went to the bathroom aal the way until I went inside.I remember stopping to talk to a lady about her dog,he took pictures of that too.Am I jumping to conclusions or should I be careful :
I decided Saturday that I would never talk to him again.He has called 60 times today 80 times yesterday.I feel like a horrible person!!!But I know that I can NEVER talk to or see him again.Thank you for the advice about this last week. Will he stop calling or get worse? Read bellow:?
I saw your last question and this is kind of scary. You did the right thing but he sounds like a major stalker. Please be careful - I hope he doesn't know where you live.Thank you for the advice about this last week. Will he stop calling or get worse? Read bellow:?
wow......scarry....sound like his a psycho....lol
but to be honest my bf when i barely know him his just like that...but AS SOON AS we start dating....and i guess he already know that his with me so he doesnt need to show off....he start calling/texting less u know what i mean??
PLEASE HELP. I need advice about a girl.?
I'm in grade 12 and I have really, really liked this grade 11 girl for three years. I can't even explain it. I only just got to know her these past 2 months. She's really nice and seems comfortable around me. She never minds talking to me or anything. Anyways I'm pretty shy and I never asked anyone out before but I eventually built up the courage to ask her to prom with me. I think I caught her a bit by surprise but she seemed really flattered that I asked. She told me that she would let me know the next day. So the next day she came over to talk to me and she thanked me but she said no. I was cool with it, at least on the outside but I went against my better judgement and asked her why. She said it wasn't me but that was it. I decided to let her know how I really felt. I hadn't done that the day before and I told her I still wanted to be friends.
I was wondering, if she didn't say no right away is there a chance that she might like me anyway? What if I just ask her out casually?PLEASE HELP. I need advice about a girl.?
i am sorry to hear about ur sitaution, that's a tough one, but the thing is by being friends with her ur just asking for more heart break, are u ready for that??? that's ur personal deicison, n prerogative. I say move on, n find another girl that has the same qualities that she does, y don't u ask a different girl to the prom just to make her jealous. Good luckPLEASE HELP. I need advice about a girl.?
i think that you should talk to her see how she feels about you. if you just apperantly ask her out, she might not be prepared. wait untill you really know her better... good luck there is always a chance for something so dont loose hope
No means no. Sorry. Your feelings are so strong for her...how can you expect to just be friends???
Well it seems she has a bit of a sweet spot for you. But she jus might have her eye on another guy. And honestly jus like a lot of guys do she wants to keep you as a friend but get to know someone else in that way you'd like to know her. And jus by the answer she gave you that's what it sounds like. She knows you'll be a good friend and might not want to mess that up. So build a good friendship and if things designed to go your way. Then they will. And you second question. I could see her hanging out with you just as friends. It'll give you a chance to really know her and more about her life. But it won't seem like you're pushing her to date you. So jus take it slow. Cuz it sucks to lose a good friend because you can't be one!remedies blackheads
I was wondering, if she didn't say no right away is there a chance that she might like me anyway? What if I just ask her out casually?PLEASE HELP. I need advice about a girl.?
i am sorry to hear about ur sitaution, that's a tough one, but the thing is by being friends with her ur just asking for more heart break, are u ready for that??? that's ur personal deicison, n prerogative. I say move on, n find another girl that has the same qualities that she does, y don't u ask a different girl to the prom just to make her jealous. Good luckPLEASE HELP. I need advice about a girl.?
i think that you should talk to her see how she feels about you. if you just apperantly ask her out, she might not be prepared. wait untill you really know her better... good luck there is always a chance for something so dont loose hope
No means no. Sorry. Your feelings are so strong for her...how can you expect to just be friends???
Well it seems she has a bit of a sweet spot for you. But she jus might have her eye on another guy. And honestly jus like a lot of guys do she wants to keep you as a friend but get to know someone else in that way you'd like to know her. And jus by the answer she gave you that's what it sounds like. She knows you'll be a good friend and might not want to mess that up. So build a good friendship and if things designed to go your way. Then they will. And you second question. I could see her hanging out with you just as friends. It'll give you a chance to really know her and more about her life. But it won't seem like you're pushing her to date you. So jus take it slow. Cuz it sucks to lose a good friend because you can't be one!
Hey I need some advice about this Italian, man she kills me. I hate hippocritical relationships.?
As previously mentioned, (click on myprofile on ti amo etc etc). I met this Italian belladonna, we went on famously. Then she says ok I cant see u because of etc. I says Ok (I'm cut up). Then after six months she 'made a mistake. I love you, want to marry u. etc'. Man I really liked this girl, Man i really love this girl, I goes and sees her family italy, I'm a poet see. I leave everything and fly to see her, its only proper to see her father, (family takes to me). We had the best time. Then she brings this tia amo voglio bene stuff on me. 'lets be special friends, i love u but our differences etc etc we have a special bond.' crap. I'm kinda gutted but i'm a man see. So I post her some gifts and wrote my last letter to her saying that i wish her all the best all the best to fams.I havent written back its been three weeks. I promised my self I wouldnt. What the hell should do? Write back? am i less of a man? What she doing? Should I leave the door ajar? Patience/run? confused..manHey I need some advice about this Italian, man she kills me. I hate hippocritical relationships.?
She's playing you like a fool. She is nothing but trouble and heartache. The only future with her is more misery. Run like hell and do not look back. Don't let her back into your life for ANY reason.Hey I need some advice about this Italian, man she kills me. I hate hippocritical relationships.?
It sounds like she knows how you feel and if she doesn`t feel the same then you should let her go in your heart.That is where you are holding her because other wise she is already gone.
She's playing you like a fool. She is nothing but trouble and heartache. The only future with her is more misery. Run like hell and do not look back. Don't let her back into your life for ANY reason.Hey I need some advice about this Italian, man she kills me. I hate hippocritical relationships.?
It sounds like she knows how you feel and if she doesn`t feel the same then you should let her go in your heart.That is where you are holding her because other wise she is already gone.
Help me out! need advice about type of girl?
alrite cant believe im this forum writing this up but ive like this girl for a while and i c her every now n then at parties etc but im helpless when i c her n its driving me nuts shes beautiful n smart they say i have a chance but i dont know myself. what yall think?Help me out! need advice about type of girl?
Grow Some BALLS and talk to her. There are millions of fish in the sea and if she doesn't work out you can keep trying. You aren't loosing the love of your life if you don't get her. But if you never try you are always going to think about how you might have had a chance. GOOD LUCKHelp me out! need advice about type of girl?
she probably knows already.
thanks for the 2 points
u need to just be cool and then go 4 it.
First of all, learn proper English and grammar, and you're possibilities for love are boundless!
go up to her and talk to her....be funny...girls like that....idk just dont be nervous...just be urself....if she likes u...she'll wanna date u.
Ask her out. What do you have to lose?
Get over your shyness. Go introduce yourself and hope she likes you. This the only true way of finding out. Be real no pick up lines.
just be yourself. show her that you care. be happy. ask her out (go on a picnic, movie, or just walk along the beach).. impress her that you're worth a boyfriend to keep. if she really likes you, then nothing can stop her from liking you. looks/appearances can be deceiving, but happiness is everything. =) good luck!!
I think you could have a chance if you would just talk to her. But, seeing you haven't spoke to her yet鈥?take it slow. Start off with an introduction next time you see her and work it on from there.
Don't go with a bang in the first meeting. Gradually develop your repo with the girl. Convince her that you are sincere towards her %26amp; then hope for the best
Get to know who you are and what you want, if you want her then get her before someone else does.
Grow Some BALLS and talk to her. There are millions of fish in the sea and if she doesn't work out you can keep trying. You aren't loosing the love of your life if you don't get her. But if you never try you are always going to think about how you might have had a chance. GOOD LUCKHelp me out! need advice about type of girl?
she probably knows already.
thanks for the 2 points
u need to just be cool and then go 4 it.
First of all, learn proper English and grammar, and you're possibilities for love are boundless!
go up to her and talk to her....be funny...girls like that....idk just dont be nervous...just be urself....if she likes u...she'll wanna date u.
Ask her out. What do you have to lose?
Get over your shyness. Go introduce yourself and hope she likes you. This the only true way of finding out. Be real no pick up lines.
just be yourself. show her that you care. be happy. ask her out (go on a picnic, movie, or just walk along the beach).. impress her that you're worth a boyfriend to keep. if she really likes you, then nothing can stop her from liking you. looks/appearances can be deceiving, but happiness is everything. =) good luck!!
I think you could have a chance if you would just talk to her. But, seeing you haven't spoke to her yet鈥?take it slow. Start off with an introduction next time you see her and work it on from there.
Don't go with a bang in the first meeting. Gradually develop your repo with the girl. Convince her that you are sincere towards her %26amp; then hope for the best
Get to know who you are and what you want, if you want her then get her before someone else does.
I need some serious advice about family problem, badly needed. please help me???
I am caught in the middle between my mom and cousins and my aunt. My mom is the type of person who's very very frank, she doesn't think other people's feelings, and i have confronted that attitude of her, but she just got mad. Okay, the issue became big when my cousins celebrate their birthday last April without inviting us, mom was pissed. So what she did was she confronted my cousins about the bday party, plus the hurtful words she said, which is very wrong. My cousins got hurt ,and they tell their parents about it. My mom's reason was she just released her anger and i hate it cos she couldn't admit her faults. Right now, everyone in our family hates her and lost respect. I took the word ';sorry'; for my mom. Im mad at my mom and somehow i pity her. what am i going to do?I need some serious advice about family problem, badly needed. please help me???
I understand that it is hard to talk to someone like this heart to heart. Those who have a strong voice, and speak their mind, often dont see your side. I think in this case, your mom was wrong to be so blunt and put her anger off on your cousins. However, I do see her side in being upset that they did not invite you. You have every right to be embarrassed by your mothers behavior. It sounds to me that you and I are a like, in the sense that you really dont like to cause conflict, and you try to be the peacemaker...it's not a bad thing. =) Maybe you should approach your mother in her terms, meaning tell her your feelings without sugar coating them. Tell her that her reactions and outburts of anger are really upsetting to you. Then you can back down, and let her know that you understand she speaks her mind, but there has to be a better way of doing it without being mean and rude. I hope this helps.I need some serious advice about family problem, badly needed. please help me???
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This one is kinda tough with no more information that you gave. From what you said it appears that your mom was hurt by your cousins not inviting her to their birthday party and your mom is pretty open about her hurtfulness. Maybe your mom's attitude is why she wasn't invited to the party or maybe your cousins and aunt treat your mom bad is why she has the attitude. Kinda the chicken or the egg question.
Not knowing any more about the situation....the best I can tell you is that nobody is ever gonna love you like your mom. She may have some messed up thoughts in her head and she may not treat others or even you like she should at times but like I said...ain't nobody ever gonna love you like your mom. Sounds like your mom might just need someone to love her back. And maybe...without getting all confrontational with your cousins and your aunt you could let them know that they hurt your mom's feelings by not inviting you and her to their birthday party.
Nobody can blame your mother for feeling like outcasts in the family clan. You did not mention the reason why you were not invited, don't you have any idea? Your mother is at the age when everything is black or white. No amount of cajoling and reaching out can overcome your differences. Let her talk and talk till she all grows feathers. You just have to keep on being her daughter.
Of course your family and relatives mean well to you and only have best interest in mind. Be the bridge, plan activities like out of town or outdoor or indoor small family gathering to make them feel good and patch up their differences. It's not the healthy option but do it, if only to give your life a semblance of normalcy.
In the long run and in the event that they hear from your family, they might even respect you for having the breeding and class not to create a family feud.
I understand that it is hard to talk to someone like this heart to heart. Those who have a strong voice, and speak their mind, often dont see your side. I think in this case, your mom was wrong to be so blunt and put her anger off on your cousins. However, I do see her side in being upset that they did not invite you. You have every right to be embarrassed by your mothers behavior. It sounds to me that you and I are a like, in the sense that you really dont like to cause conflict, and you try to be the peacemaker...it's not a bad thing. =) Maybe you should approach your mother in her terms, meaning tell her your feelings without sugar coating them. Tell her that her reactions and outburts of anger are really upsetting to you. Then you can back down, and let her know that you understand she speaks her mind, but there has to be a better way of doing it without being mean and rude. I hope this helps.I need some serious advice about family problem, badly needed. please help me???
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This one is kinda tough with no more information that you gave. From what you said it appears that your mom was hurt by your cousins not inviting her to their birthday party and your mom is pretty open about her hurtfulness. Maybe your mom's attitude is why she wasn't invited to the party or maybe your cousins and aunt treat your mom bad is why she has the attitude. Kinda the chicken or the egg question.
Not knowing any more about the situation....the best I can tell you is that nobody is ever gonna love you like your mom. She may have some messed up thoughts in her head and she may not treat others or even you like she should at times but like I said...ain't nobody ever gonna love you like your mom. Sounds like your mom might just need someone to love her back. And maybe...without getting all confrontational with your cousins and your aunt you could let them know that they hurt your mom's feelings by not inviting you and her to their birthday party.
Nobody can blame your mother for feeling like outcasts in the family clan. You did not mention the reason why you were not invited, don't you have any idea? Your mother is at the age when everything is black or white. No amount of cajoling and reaching out can overcome your differences. Let her talk and talk till she all grows feathers. You just have to keep on being her daughter.
Of course your family and relatives mean well to you and only have best interest in mind. Be the bridge, plan activities like out of town or outdoor or indoor small family gathering to make them feel good and patch up their differences. It's not the healthy option but do it, if only to give your life a semblance of normalcy.
In the long run and in the event that they hear from your family, they might even respect you for having the breeding and class not to create a family feud.
Advice about moving..need help!:D?
So my parents separated years ago, and they currently live about 5 minutes apart, so i switch back and forth for a week at a time. But my mom just got a new job about 3 hours away and that starts in around 3 weeks.
I want to go with her, and i told my dad that and he said that i could do what i think is best, since then i would spend the summer with him. But now he is saying that i am not going anywhere until the end of the school year, while my mom is telling me that i can move with her in 3 weeks. What should i do? I don't want my dad to think that i dont want to live with him, but i want to try moving.Advice about moving..need help!:D?
Oh let your poor father have a bit more time with you.
I want to go with her, and i told my dad that and he said that i could do what i think is best, since then i would spend the summer with him. But now he is saying that i am not going anywhere until the end of the school year, while my mom is telling me that i can move with her in 3 weeks. What should i do? I don't want my dad to think that i dont want to live with him, but i want to try moving.Advice about moving..need help!:D?
Oh let your poor father have a bit more time with you.
Advice about my girlfriend?
Been together for 1 year. We have been fighting every 2 weeks. Mainly because she has been flaky, unavailable, and spends more time with her friends than with me - particularly on weekends. We got mad because she hs been gone for a while and decided to go to a club with her girlfriends on Saturday night (didn't tell me until Friday night, but had planed it for a while, she always does this!!I) We had an argument over this. She didn't call me and didn't call her at all. Now, she has done what she always does. After the weekend is over, she texts me and tells me she knows we are fighting, but she has a problem with the credit card and needs my advise. She always does the same: doesn't call me during the weekend, and calls me or texts me either Monday or Tuesday and wants everything resolve. I am really, really tired of this person and I am seriously considering leaving her for good. This is a woman I treat very well.Advice about my girlfriend?
i think you have your answer already.
from what you said, you didnt show any feelings that you still have toward her. it sounds like she is just using you.
so if you dont have any feelings for her anymore and as you said, tired of her, then leave her.
i think you have your answer already.
from what you said, you didnt show any feelings that you still have toward her. it sounds like she is just using you.
so if you dont have any feelings for her anymore and as you said, tired of her, then leave her.
Advice about unwanted feelings for another guy?
I have been with my partner for several years and we have a beautiful little girl together. I love him very much and we plan on getting married within the next year.
However, this past month I have been 'thinking' of his cousin as a little more than a friend. I can't get him out of my head and everytime I see him, I get butterflies in my stomach and am really nervous around him.
He is a big part of my daughters life and he is always over to visit.
I have never cheated, nor do I intend to, but this cousin makes me think I want to. Just thinking of him that way makes feel like I am cheating.
I tried ignoring the feelings, but they only seem to get stronger. I know there is no future together and that my future lies with my fiance. He is the one I want to grow old with. He is the one to father a couple more kids and he is the one I want to go to sleep with and wake up beside.
How do I make these feelings go away for his cousin????Advice about unwanted feelings for another guy?
When our mind plays the ';what if?'; game it does so to entertain and please us, it's not about facts and reality. You already know this, you know that your future is with your fianc茅 and what you think/feel for the cousin isn't real it's just thoughts. It's possible that the decision to marry within the next year has triggered your mind to do the ';what if'; game since a marriage is a very serious thing. Luckily you are mature enough to see it for what it is, there are many women that hurt their men and ruin their relationships over a dream that's never meant to become real.
Try to see these feeling as a game that your mind is playing to see how mature you are. (You are doing fine by the way. *smiles*) The feelings are a part of a fantasy and if you had been younger then it would have been about your main interest at the time, perhaps about owning your own pony or being famous or... you know, but now you are getting married so now it's about a man.
And, when you get over this it's still not over. Now and the when you least expect it your mind can play games on you again, but the next time you'll know what it's all about. This usually happens when life is very boring or when there are life changes.
Me, I had a crush on one of my husbands friends (before we got married) and I think it was simply because he was not the marrying kind and I was worried about how marriage would change my life. I got over it after a while and I've had no regrets. Today I resort to writing romantic short stories when I feel like playing ';what if'; games. =)remedies blackheads
However, this past month I have been 'thinking' of his cousin as a little more than a friend. I can't get him out of my head and everytime I see him, I get butterflies in my stomach and am really nervous around him.
He is a big part of my daughters life and he is always over to visit.
I have never cheated, nor do I intend to, but this cousin makes me think I want to. Just thinking of him that way makes feel like I am cheating.
I tried ignoring the feelings, but they only seem to get stronger. I know there is no future together and that my future lies with my fiance. He is the one I want to grow old with. He is the one to father a couple more kids and he is the one I want to go to sleep with and wake up beside.
How do I make these feelings go away for his cousin????Advice about unwanted feelings for another guy?
When our mind plays the ';what if?'; game it does so to entertain and please us, it's not about facts and reality. You already know this, you know that your future is with your fianc茅 and what you think/feel for the cousin isn't real it's just thoughts. It's possible that the decision to marry within the next year has triggered your mind to do the ';what if'; game since a marriage is a very serious thing. Luckily you are mature enough to see it for what it is, there are many women that hurt their men and ruin their relationships over a dream that's never meant to become real.
Try to see these feeling as a game that your mind is playing to see how mature you are. (You are doing fine by the way. *smiles*) The feelings are a part of a fantasy and if you had been younger then it would have been about your main interest at the time, perhaps about owning your own pony or being famous or... you know, but now you are getting married so now it's about a man.
And, when you get over this it's still not over. Now and the when you least expect it your mind can play games on you again, but the next time you'll know what it's all about. This usually happens when life is very boring or when there are life changes.
Me, I had a crush on one of my husbands friends (before we got married) and I think it was simply because he was not the marrying kind and I was worried about how marriage would change my life. I got over it after a while and I've had no regrets. Today I resort to writing romantic short stories when I feel like playing ';what if'; games. =)
Advice about ejaculation, the pill and if I could be pregnant?
Hi - first, I am not a stupid, young girl who has unprotected sex and isn't careful. I just had a situation last night that wasn't completely normal, and I just want some REAL advice (not people telling me I am ';stupid';) My boyfriend and I were having sex last night, and I am on the pill so we sometimes/sometimes don't wear a condom, but he NEVER finishes inside of me. If he isn't wearing a condom, he ejaculates on my stomach. But the position we were having sex in last night kinda of aimed his penis right at my vagina and he ';fired'; toward the outer lips of my vagina (he wasn't inside me anymore) so I tried to catch most of it with my hand, and lead the rest on my stomach but I know some got on the outer lips. Now, I am on the pill and have been for several years, and I am very particular about never missing a day and take them exactly 24 hrs between each, or at least within the hour. This ';incident'; happened yesterday at about 4pm, so should I consider the ';morning after'; pill? I know it loses effectiveness the longer you wait and is no longer effective after 72 hours, but do you think this should even be an option? I have just never had sperm that close to my vagina before. Please only helpful answers, and quick! It will be 48 hours tomorrow and I would need to know soon! Thank youAdvice about ejaculation, the pill and if I could be pregnant?
You're paranoid! The pill is more than 99% effective. Taking it properly (which you say you are) is protection enough. Your chances of being pregnant now are pretty much the same as when he doesn't come on the out lips of your vagina, because you still get plenty of sperm in you during sex because of pre-***. Pulling out isn't even as effective as you think.
Anyway! I would highly recommend NOT getting the morning after pill because it will likely just mess with your BCP. You are very very very likely NOT pregnant!!Advice about ejaculation, the pill and if I could be pregnant?
No need. That is why you are on the pill. When taken correctly (an it certainly sounds like you are) than the pill is about 99% effective all month long even if he ejaculates inside of you.
Oh, and the 1% chance of you being pregnant is not 1% each time you have sex but only about 1 in 100 women will get pregnant in an entire year using birthcontrol pills.
It IS possible to get pregnant from this, but it is a very slim chance. If this happens again, make sure to wash the exterior of your vagina as soon as possible with water and a mild soap. If your on the pill and this happened, I highly doubt that your pregnant. But, there is always a chance, as you know. I wouldn't fret too much about it.
Um no morning after pill, the pill is around 99% effective. If it didn't even reach the inside your fine im sure. And if some did...im sure your fine too, thats what the pill is for. So couples can have sex without condoms and the woman wont get pregnate even if he cums inside. There is that 1% chance yes... but thats really rare. I'm sure youll be fine and have nothing to worry about.
what kind of pill are you on?, do you take it everyday same time?
By the way your not a stupid girl, alright so just answer the questions and ill be gladly to help
Take it just in case.
Better to do it than be sorry later on! Just take the pill now!
You don't need the morning after pill.
You have been taking your pills regularly for several years. You're safe from pregnancy even if the buggers from your boyfriend got inside you.
The pill is protected sex.
I was on the pill for fourteen years. I started having sex six months after I started them and it was always without a condom. I never got pregnant.
Being on the pill, the odds of you getting pregnant are significantly reduced. If you have not gotten pregnant yet, then it is unlikely that you will just from that. Have you heard of pre-***? It is ejaculated as lubricant before/during sex and it can get you pregnant, so although your boyfriend has never ejaculated inside of you, his pre-*** has probably been released inside you before which means you are at risk of pregnancy every time you don't use a condom. I would not be so worried, the pill is a good form of contraceptive and the fact that you do use condoms sometimes is also good. Hope this helped put your mind at ease a little that you aren't going to get pregnant from a one time thing, and you're not stupid at all. ;D
Sweetie I am a mother of two.. BC is great it works 100% no nothing does..
Anyway if you have been on it for 2 years and not always use condom and he comes etc. it doesn't matter etither way he ejaculates in you..it's call pre ***.
Once a guy e-jacks and its on your thigh leg stomach vajaja lips etc it doesnt matter it needs certain temps to live... I think personally you are all set.. I wouldn't worry and if you stress you will make yourself miss your next period.. also what section of the pill are you at right now week one two etc etc
dont stress
You're paranoid! The pill is more than 99% effective. Taking it properly (which you say you are) is protection enough. Your chances of being pregnant now are pretty much the same as when he doesn't come on the out lips of your vagina, because you still get plenty of sperm in you during sex because of pre-***. Pulling out isn't even as effective as you think.
Anyway! I would highly recommend NOT getting the morning after pill because it will likely just mess with your BCP. You are very very very likely NOT pregnant!!Advice about ejaculation, the pill and if I could be pregnant?
No need. That is why you are on the pill. When taken correctly (an it certainly sounds like you are) than the pill is about 99% effective all month long even if he ejaculates inside of you.
Oh, and the 1% chance of you being pregnant is not 1% each time you have sex but only about 1 in 100 women will get pregnant in an entire year using birthcontrol pills.
It IS possible to get pregnant from this, but it is a very slim chance. If this happens again, make sure to wash the exterior of your vagina as soon as possible with water and a mild soap. If your on the pill and this happened, I highly doubt that your pregnant. But, there is always a chance, as you know. I wouldn't fret too much about it.
Um no morning after pill, the pill is around 99% effective. If it didn't even reach the inside your fine im sure. And if some did...im sure your fine too, thats what the pill is for. So couples can have sex without condoms and the woman wont get pregnate even if he cums inside. There is that 1% chance yes... but thats really rare. I'm sure youll be fine and have nothing to worry about.
what kind of pill are you on?, do you take it everyday same time?
By the way your not a stupid girl, alright so just answer the questions and ill be gladly to help
Take it just in case.
Better to do it than be sorry later on! Just take the pill now!
You don't need the morning after pill.
You have been taking your pills regularly for several years. You're safe from pregnancy even if the buggers from your boyfriend got inside you.
The pill is protected sex.
I was on the pill for fourteen years. I started having sex six months after I started them and it was always without a condom. I never got pregnant.
Being on the pill, the odds of you getting pregnant are significantly reduced. If you have not gotten pregnant yet, then it is unlikely that you will just from that. Have you heard of pre-***? It is ejaculated as lubricant before/during sex and it can get you pregnant, so although your boyfriend has never ejaculated inside of you, his pre-*** has probably been released inside you before which means you are at risk of pregnancy every time you don't use a condom. I would not be so worried, the pill is a good form of contraceptive and the fact that you do use condoms sometimes is also good. Hope this helped put your mind at ease a little that you aren't going to get pregnant from a one time thing, and you're not stupid at all. ;D
Sweetie I am a mother of two.. BC is great it works 100% no nothing does..
Anyway if you have been on it for 2 years and not always use condom and he comes etc. it doesn't matter etither way he ejaculates in you..it's call pre ***.
Once a guy e-jacks and its on your thigh leg stomach vajaja lips etc it doesnt matter it needs certain temps to live... I think personally you are all set.. I wouldn't worry and if you stress you will make yourself miss your next period.. also what section of the pill are you at right now week one two etc etc
dont stress
Advice about a crush?
the guy i like is a sophmore at the school i go to. he plays football and basketball, also he is popular at my school and is the students body president. i'm a freshman and the class president. he knows me because i take five classes with him. i'm really shy so i studder or embarrse myself in front of him. in all the classes i take with him he sits one seat away from me. the school i go to junior high and high school are conbined.i reamember last year when i was in 8th grade and he was in 9th grade, i took u.s. history and he didnt. i like getting to class early so every 4th hour he would come in a sake my hand and i never knew why....does this mean he likes me?Advice about a crush?
No, it doesn't mean he likes you. However, why don't you try to talk to him. Maybe get involved with a class assignment. Ask him if he knows the answer to something you can't figure out. If you watch a movie in class, try to sit next to him, talk about the movie. If you talk to him, friendship could form, and maybe more.Advice about a crush?
no sorry... tell me how the story ends though...
...a hand shake doesnt seem to mean anything
No, it doesn't mean he likes you. However, why don't you try to talk to him. Maybe get involved with a class assignment. Ask him if he knows the answer to something you can't figure out. If you watch a movie in class, try to sit next to him, talk about the movie. If you talk to him, friendship could form, and maybe more.Advice about a crush?
no sorry... tell me how the story ends though...
...a hand shake doesnt seem to mean anything
Advice about how I should spread out college classes?
I plan on taking Physics(cal based), Calculus 2, and Organic Chem this Fall.
I currently have physics w/ lab(lab on Tuesday) and o-chem w/ lab(lab on thursday) every Tuesday and Thursday. I have cal 2 scheduled on every MWF, but I just found out the professor I wanted is teaching at night every Tuesday and Thursday.
Should I just cram all of these classes into Tuesday and Thursday or leave it spread out so I would have to go to class 5 days a week instead of 2?Advice about how I should spread out college classes?
That is totally up to you. This upcoming semester I have all my classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays. That it alot easier for me with my job and seeing as if gas prices are so high it is much better just to drive to school twice and week rather than four or five days. If you take classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays, then you will have Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays to do homework and/or have a job. Hope this helps! :)
I currently have physics w/ lab(lab on Tuesday) and o-chem w/ lab(lab on thursday) every Tuesday and Thursday. I have cal 2 scheduled on every MWF, but I just found out the professor I wanted is teaching at night every Tuesday and Thursday.
Should I just cram all of these classes into Tuesday and Thursday or leave it spread out so I would have to go to class 5 days a week instead of 2?Advice about how I should spread out college classes?
That is totally up to you. This upcoming semester I have all my classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays. That it alot easier for me with my job and seeing as if gas prices are so high it is much better just to drive to school twice and week rather than four or five days. If you take classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays, then you will have Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays to do homework and/or have a job. Hope this helps! :)
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