Need advice about this guy!!!?

I just started a new trimester and there is this really sweet and attractive guy who鈥檚 from Slovakia in my class...and recently he sat next to me and started talking to me...He was such a gentleman he introduced himself and shook my hand ...and I know it may seem conceited but I think he likes me...his body language gives it away ...he鈥檚 always smiling and im always smiling because he is just soo handsome and sweet ...and the other day I was leaving class early and as I was leaving he walks up to me and in his sexy accent he asks where I was going and when he asked me ...it seemed as if he was going to hug or kiss me ...Id so love to get to know him be friends maybe down the line b/f ...g/f type thing ya know ..WHAT DO I DO?Need advice about this guy!!!?
well dnt jump to b/f g/f get to know him become best friends then ask him out,go to the movies or just hang out and instead of a hand shake hug him when u feel like u know him he will get a feeling that u like him and if he hugs back then u know that hes making a effort in being friends or even b/f g/f try it trust me it'll work

scars

Advice advice advice, I need advice!! :) about boys.. la la la la la laaaa?

K, well I am your typical 13 year old girl, I like the Jonas Brothers, I am girly, and I like boys! The problem is I like this guy, and I am afraid I seem invisible. I am a funny,nice, and friendly girl, and I don't know what happens but whenever I am around this guy, I get nervous and shy.





So I just barley started liking him, We talk, not a ton, but like once a week :( I want him to notice me and talk to me... All girls should know what I am feeling. The thing is, do you girls ever feel like you have to dress slutty to get a guys attention? Or act fake, or stupid? I know I do, I feel like I am a preppy annoying girl, and the guy of my dreams would never take a chance on me. If it helps here is a picture of me:





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I'm on the left.


Please no rude comments...











I need advice, before Christmas break ends. Shanks! :DAdvice advice advice, I need advice!! :) about boys.. la la la la la laaaa?
wow


IM REALLY DIFFERENT THAN U~


Im a cute regular girl who wants to be a doctor!


PS. just turned 16 today!


WHOO





And also dont try to act like someone your not


act like your self!


Or else your turn out like my class mate aniah! ( shes a *****!)


She ugly! ( your not trust me!)


Boring


spends to much money on clothes


and is not her slef!


Dont be lke her!Advice advice advice, I need advice!! :) about boys.. la la la la la laaaa?
Idk. Just don't act like a ignorate bitchy asswhole. And you should be good.


Oh and act fake, slutty, and stupid. God Likes that.


lawlz. I preteen 2!

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Wow, your really gorgeous. I think that you should try to get his attention just by walking by and smiling, or saying hi in the hallways at school.





I know exactly how you feel about that! Like look at me:


http://s74.photobucket.com/albums/i251/yeadawg0777/sweet%2016/?action=view%26amp;current=003.jpg


in the middle.





I have been told I am pretty, but whenever a guy likes me, it's like only for the looks? It's hard to know. But I really think your pretty. If this guy isn't the right guy, then life will provide you will the right one :)

Need advice about this girl?

There's this girl I know who seems to like me but in early August she stated how she wants to have 2 summer flings, I'm not sure how much she likes me but she broke up with her on-again, off-again relationship with her idiot b/f in June and says she still loves him, she cares about him %26amp; respects him, yet she said she won't go back wit him...Is she lying? and when it comes to me. She always seems to be in denial? I dun compliment at all really...only here and there *in a small manner* %26amp; if i say something like *wow, you looks pretty in that shirt, she'll get mad'; I've told her personally that I like her, I'm doing my part as a guy to be normal and 2 be there for her....But is it really worth it? Does she seem like she has low-self esteem? Is she confused? Does she seem immature? by the way...Shes 15, I'm not sure if that matters or notNeed advice about this girl?
She sounds very emotionally confused.


She's probably used to being used for her body, and therefore expects only that, hence the ';summer flings'; thing.


She also might think that she's not worthy of a normal relationship, but it seems a bit like she wants one with you, because emotionally you're there for her... if you compliment her body too much, she might think you only want her body, and that would upset her.





She is, very confused- from what I can gather. You have to figure out if you like her emotionally or physically.


If you like her emotionally, tell her that. Tell her that you love her personality, tell her what it is about her that you adore.





At the least, let her know she's worthy of a good relationship.





Take care, best of luck!Need advice about this girl?
I would stays friends for now. She might need more time to work out her feelings for her boyfriend. Her planned summer flings might have been planned to help her rebound from her b/f. If you care about her, I'd be patient and wait until she can be clear about her feelings. Otherwise, you might be in for some unneeded drama.
Well from my point of view I think she's Very confused, She seems like she still has feelings for his ex but don't want to get back with him, As for you she might be just trying to forget her Ex Boyfriend with you! I think she's confused with herself she's either thinking of getting back with her Ex or it's too scared to start a new relation with you because what she feels about her ex. The only way to know it's to let her know! Ask her if she likes you back and want something serious! She might get mad but trust me it's better if you know the truth from her and what she's feeling! I wish you luck on that!
This could mean 'puppy love'. A little immature on her side but given sufficient time, you'll be able to tell whether she's serious with you. Based on what you've described, she's not that into you yet. It's just a way of she getting over her ex. Girls won't usually get mad if the guys that they're interested in compliment them but she's totally different. I don't see any signs of liking for you from her although she talks to you despite tiredness. I don't think it's worth pursuing this relationship after all at this moment. Time will tell...
It's obvious that either she doesn't know what she wants. Or, she wants to have her cake and eat it too. Don't waste anymore of your time on her. You'll only end up hurt. Like she said she wants 2 flings. You might just be one of them.
The fact of the matter is she likes male attention. She does not seem very emotionally connected to any of the guys she is dating but likes keeping them around to give her attention. Picking fights usually means she wants the thrill of you groveling to get back in her good graces. I would say that you should ask yourself - Are you looking for a relationship with this girl? If so, I anticipate hardship and more drama than you're like. But if you're in for fun (and you know you won't get your heart broken), then go for it.





Honestly though, I don't think she likes you any more than any of the other guys. And you are right - it is very likely that it has to do with poor self esteem and insecurity. Not uncommon in 15 year olds.





I also suspect her parents are divorced or somehow has an absent father.
call her bf an ahole and degrade him infront of her...and make yourself look like a real big man. and then she will see your sexuall potential and she will bang you
I think this girl is trying to have her cake and eat it too. She obviously enjoys the attention that you give her - what girl would. But that is not the same as liking you or being in love with you. If she was she would not have treated you in the flippent way that she seems to be doing.





We cannot help who we fall in love with. But be careful not to dwell on this girl. She has lots of unresolved issues re her ex. It would be very risky to get involved with someone who is still emotionally attached to a previous relationship. By talking about having at least two flings she is showing that she is not ready for another steady relationship. She is going to break your heart.
ok

Need Advice about g/f?

Ok I am seeing this female for about 7 months now. She says her ex-was abusive towards her, which I do kind of believe. But she still talks to him, and on his myspace account he just updated his picture to be w/ him and her in it. Now in her deffense she has not seen it yet, but is she still w/ this dude? She has hung out w/ him because they still have mutual friends. But she nevers tells me when he is going to be around, and now the whole myspace picture deal, I am kind of worried.Need Advice about g/f?
women who have been abused either physical or mental for some reason fell attached to this person. Its werid, its almost like they have a hold on you and no matter what they can always bring you back in.





She needs to break away from him or she may wind up going back with him.





She may want to be with you but those guys make you feel bad about who you are, they tell you that your worthless and no one will ever want them and then, you start to beleive it, and you go back to them. Please, talk to her. She may even need help from a counseler or therapist.Need Advice about g/f?
Hes probably trying to get her back. But dont judge her by his actions. Ask her if she knows whats going on with him.
don't sound like he abused her to me
Hm.


Well, abusive or not why is she still talking to an ex if she is with you.


If he was abusive he should be in jail.


If he was abusive she should NOT be talkng to him at all.





You either have to have a major heart to heart with her or call this off now because it's not going to get better...
do you see that big red flag waving in front of your face....pay attention to it...good luck
You need to break up with her. She's treating you like a chump. Once you break up with her, the truth will work its way back to you.
You should talk to her about it I mean maybe they are just friends but you never know honestly if a guy was ever abusive towards me i would never even speak to him but you probably should talk to her and she pry wont say that she is cheating but you can tell when someone is lying and then also you can sometimes tell if someone is cheating because their kiss is different or so i have heard on the tyra show lol well hope i helped
aright dude you need to figure out what is going through this chicks head. like she's obv still got something going with this guy so you needa talk to her and be like it's her or me and figure out if she's a good girlfriend to you. she's obv got something going with this dude cause if he was really an *** like that then she wouldn't be talking to him. and since she just put her pic of of her and her ex BADD IDEA ! is she like stupid aright dude get your stuff straight talk to her and be like yo we gotta talk about this ****!
yeah ask her about it and be like whats going on. because if she is with him that would be awful. and if she just says shes friends then.. tell her how u feel
ask her what she thinks about it and tell her how you feel. be honest.
well. you need to check up on her. you should ask her straight out. is she still with him. was he abusive and make sure that she noes that you know when she is lying she needs to take this stuff seriously. but on the other hand if she still sees them she might just be joking around. just get her story straight. if he does ever become abusive and u see the physical change with her you should take it to the police.
talk to her about this situation....tell her it makes you uncomfortable tell her that you care about her and what to know why she wants to be around a guy who hurt her. she might still have feelings for him.....but she obviously has feelings for you too.








good luck
Ask her
They are boning, and she made up getting beat by him or is one of those women who like to be knocked around. Lose her
Sometimes in an abusive relationship the female feels responsible for why she is being abused. She may feel she can help him, or change him, however she has brought you into the situation, which means in a sense you are now being abused mentally. By seeing her getting hurt and you are with her may seem to make you feel out of place. She may need counseling, she must stay away from this man at all cost, and you are putting yourself in danger being with her. He may try to hurt you for being with her. Tell her your feelings, and mostly look at your safety.

Need advice about this guy?

ok it seems like little kid stuff but its just flirty..me and this one guy talked on facebook IM till 4 at night being really cute, etc. the next day i messaged him with my number, which i shouldnt have but i did..and this is what happend :





ME:


facebook is kinda lame so I think you should text me insteadd ;)





(my number )





Him:





did u jus insult facebook? take it bak take it bak











but he never texted me?? should i message back or notNeed advice about this guy?
You should msg him back. If you do, ask him if what you said was ok to him, or ask him if you hurt him in any way whatsoeverrr.Need advice about this guy?
DARLIN'! I think you've got yourself a boyfriend--or at least the beginning of one. Haha.





He's probably just as nervous as you are about texting. Let him know that you really want him to text you sometimes; that way, he'll feel like he has insurance (if, as he is worried about, you don't 'like him like that', he'll know he can say that you TOLD him to text you).





Haha, have fun with your new tease!
Oh yes. Definitely message him back.


But make sure that you be cutesy about it. Pretend you're like extremely sorry. For example: Omg, I'm sorry! I didn't know that you liked Facebook that much. I take it back =(


Something to that extent. If you make the guy feel bad, they in return will be flirty back.


Good Luck!
Sugar, he's teasing you. Give him a really overdone, flowery, sarcastic apology (like as a joke) and see what happens.


Good luck.
Lol pretty sure he's just being a flirt, text him back %26amp; see, your not gunna find out if you dont try :)
Message him back..


I'd just be like ';would you rather facebook instead? I just thought texting would be easier. But if you don't want to then that's cool';.





That's what I'd do.
Don't message him back!! That could just plainly mean he's a fat ugly dude thats a computer addict. and never give ur phone number

Quick Advice, About Girls?

Ok, i am interested in someone, havnt know her forawhile but we get along really well, i think theyre is potential, so, what can i do to speed up the proocess, she doesnt pick up on subtle hints, and isnt that into gestures.Quick Advice, About Girls?
They understand subtle hints and gestures, when she doesn't pick up on them, it means she is ignoring them because she doesn't want a relationship with you.Quick Advice, About Girls?
Buy her rosses, it will give her all the gsture she needs to respond.
Ask her if she'd like to hang out sometime.
There is no way.





Just forget her.
tell her and be real straight forward.. why are you scared? jeez its just a woman!!
well be upfront...n ask her if she likes u or not...if she wud tell u NO...tell her not to bother her again anymore........well take chances
Don't speed up the process. Don't be hurry. Girls always need time to realize and decided, but sometimes they are suspicious. The girl will think that someone doesn't love her if he less care to her. So, the best advice is to keep close to her naturally, don't insult her with your aggressive and make her fed off. Keep calm but still aware.





Good luck.
Hit her with your club and drag her back to your cave..God i miss the cave man days.

Need Advice about a shy guy!!!!?

There is this guy who works at a casino, and every now and then when me and my sister go there, we see him. But lately he has been acting weird, he seems shy but he still seems to make that effort to be around us, yet he never does anything to talk to us. A couple nights ago one of the guys that work there told my sister that one of the staff members liked her and I'm thinking its him but my sister says if it was him then why isn't he trying to talk to her...How can I help this situation???..... my sister doens't want to be the one to go up to him first, she thinks he might freak out or something!!! I want to help.Need Advice about a shy guy!!!!?
Personally I think you might need to intervene, because it sounds like he's really shy and your sister is kinda shy but maybe alitte insecure too. I had that same problem with a guy, he was shy and yes he acted annoyingly weird, he always seemed to be where I was but he never ever tried to talk to me until I got my friend to give him my number. So maybe that sounds alittle upfront but trust me sometimes with these shy guys a first step is always better than waiting and waitng.... Do you have a good feeling about your sister and this guy ??? If yes then my advice is: try to get them together!!! Have fun playing Cupid.Need Advice about a shy guy!!!!?
I would agree with what Rhiannon said, except that I think you should approach him if you like him. I always say don't leave love to chance. Not all relationships started with the guy coming forward.
just wait for sometime i think he'll come up. u juz try to show tht u r ignoring him then he'll come automatically. hy dear thts the rule *MORE U IGNORE PEOPLE MORE THEY COME CLOSER* just apply this rule and see te result. gud luck....
Well my opinon is if a guy likes a girl enough then he will overcome his shyness and confront the girl himself.
Just wait it out. If he is thinking about her and talking about her sooner or later he will approach her.

scars

Need advice about guy, need to help friend?

http://uta.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=317634%26amp;l=3d3c1%26amp;id=756670439


does this guy seem ok to youNeed advice about guy, need to help friend?
How would anyone be able to answer that question from only a picture? Don't be ridiculous.Need advice about guy, need to help friend?
.ln which way.lf you mean regards looks.Yes he seems ok and he's got his hands full

Thinking about moving to NYC, need advice.?

I just recently graduated from college. I'm thinking about moving from LA to NYC and pursue a career in advertising. I always wanted to live in the big city but it's scary thinking about leaving behind all my family/friends and having to find a job and place to live. I don't even know how to start planning such a move. How much money I will need? What area to move to? How to go about looking for roommates? Any advice will be greatly appreciated.Thinking about moving to NYC, need advice.?
Hi Anna





I know someone in your same position who found a great apartment, and a roomate, in Astoria (Queens) Its only 2 or 3 subway stops from Manhattan and much cheaper. People are friendly. You'll probably like areas such as Union Squre, the East Village, or similar areas, to hang out. It's never easy movong and, even if you want a sublet, just to look around, try Craigs list, it works. I actually know people who found apart,enmt, roomates, and good jobs using Crag's ;ist





Hope things work out. Any questions, ask.





Fred

Okay i need ADVICE about talking to a guy about something;; best answer gets 10 pts.?

okay so basically i went out with a guy like last year;; and i broke up with him well since then he hasnt seem to even talk to me. well recently he started talking again and thats all good but now i like him ALOT and i dont want to be stupid and ruin this all again, so what do you think i should say to him? a joke or something funny, a good question or something just tell me what i should do PLLLLLLEEEEEEAAAAAASSSSSSEEE~Okay i need ADVICE about talking to a guy about something;; best answer gets 10 pts.?
be upfront and honest..tell him the truthOkay i need ADVICE about talking to a guy about something;; best answer gets 10 pts.?
Tell him you made a mistake in breaking up with him. And next time you break up it can


be his turn to do the break up thing.
How about you ask him and see what he says, thats the best advise when he answers you
You should post this question on singles and dating. Not here! There is nothing but a bunch of racist hillbillies in this section.
Just ask him out already and stop whining.
First, wait a little while to try and figure out how he feels.





Then, be honest. It's the easiest way and you can be sure he understands what you're saying. While jokes and witticisms are appealing, they're not only hard to come up with, they leave a lot of room for interpretation.





If you think the feeling is mutual, then go for it. First be sure he's in the right kind of mood, ideally neutral. If he's in exceptionally high spirits, tired, distracted, et cetera he might not be the most receptive. If he's in exceptionally high spirits he could easily end up seeing everything as a joke. I would recommend getting him alone and then telling him. I'd probably say, ';We've been spending more time together lately, and that's made me realize that I still have real feelings for you. Could we give it another shot?'; BUT. Your situation is different, and depending on your personalities different phrasing may be needed.





Something like that should work though.

Any advice about this girl?

I am a junior in high school and she is a freshmen. We hung out once at my friends house and she told her friend after that she thought i was cute and stuff. I kinda liked her so we hung out like 3 days later but, I was so shy I barely talked to her we were watching a movie and she sat next to me she left the room and came back and sat really close to me but i was too shy to do or say anything, i didnt even get her number from her. I asked her friend if i should txt her and she said yeah so i texted her. I have texted her both times first do you think she still likes me I gave her a day in between? I asked her if she wanted to hang out again she said yea but, she asked me if i had anything in mind and i said no and that was like the end of that. Should I text her first again, where should we hang out, do i ask her again, in a group or alone ,any tips on how to start conversation with her and i want to ask her out soon how can i progress stuff or does she even still like me?Any advice about this girl?
you must really like her if you took that long to write something like thisAny advice about this girl?
right take her out someone you enjoy you can be yourself i no its hard to be yourself round her but it gets eaiser trust me. just take it slow if she moves close to you when your sittin put your arm round her. if she moves away nothiing lost nor gained you no where you stand yeh?.








talking...........hard to say unless you no her......ask her what she did last week girls have rarther intresting stoires that you can make them talk about for hours.
Either call or text her. Just say like ';so yeah, about us going out again, you got ideas yet? I was thinking about the cinema...'; and take it from there. or say something along those lines, and if you don't wana go cinema suggest sumin else :) hope it works out good fx
girls like the guy to do the work, ask her again and think of a place to go, cinema or something
It doesn't hurt to try.

Some advice about running please...?

Hi





I am not overweight but I am trying to tone up a bit and get more healthy, my diet is fine now and I drink plenty of water but I would like some advice about exercise.





I am at college 5 days a week and at weekends have a lot of work, so I am trying to fit in a run in the early morning about 6:30 which seems to work ok.





I am managing to run for about 20mins around my local area (city) I only stop about 3 times. But I would like to know how I should build up my running and how many minutes would be good to do a day?





When will I start noticing a difference? I am also trying to do about 10-20 sit ups after running, how should I build this up?





(there are no hills or slops in my area so I am running on flat residential streets, thats all I really have in the middle of the city, but the streets are empty)





Thanks xxxxSome advice about running please...?
Hi There -





I have been a runner off and on for many years and here are some of the things that have helped me:





1. Take a calcium supplement every day (you can buy at grocery store) this helps to avoid shin splints


2. Run as long as you can and stop when you need to, try to increase the amount of time you run by 30 seconds or 1 minute each day if it is possible, this will help you to build up endurance


3. You should run at a pace that you are not out of breath, you should be able to talk to another person while running, this is what your breath should be


4. If you have itunes / ipod / mp3 player, etc. it helps to use your music as sort motivation, like you have a warm up song as the first sone, then the next song, maybe more fast paced, then the next, a little slower to recover, then the next a little faster (you get the picture)


5. Run slow if you have to, eventually you build up endurance


6. Most important wear good running shoes, you should replace every 300 miles





Hope this helps!





the w8losschickSome advice about running please...?
Hi


Sounds as though you are doing just fine - the only advice i would give is rather than stopping try slowing down but keep going as this will build your stamina. Also make sure you have some proper running shoes as if you are running this regularly and you dont have proper shoes you will damage the arches of your feet.





Good luck :-)
Seems ok but you shouldn't be stopping, you should be continuously running/jogging. If you have to stop in 20mins then you should lower your pace. You should be keeping your heart rate at a constant beat, instead of going from a high rate to a low rate to a high rate to a low rate.......... The best way to improve is to keep it at a constant. Like the guy above me says you should'nt really be running on the streets 7 days a week, you might find you end up with an injury such as jumper's knee. So you need to give your body time to repair. You do also need a pair of decent running shoes. Try just 5 days a week, you'll still see a huge difference.





After a week or so you will find yourself being able to go for longer or faster. After a month you'll see a huge difference. As for sit ups just add an extra 5 or so every week.





You shouldn't be able to talk to someone like the guy below me says, by the end of your run you should out of breath and finding it hard to talk. You need to push yourself in every run, it's the best way to build your endurance.
Ok, what you need to do is run every other day. Don't run everyday because it will cause stress fractures and your body needs to rest up and heal.


As for a running routine, try walking and running at the same time. I see that you stop 3 times during your 20 min runs. Try walking for 5 mins, then jogging for 3 mins.


Do each 7 times each, which will be a total of 21 mins jogging and 35 mins of walking, which comes out to be a total of 56 mins of walking/jogging. Not bad huh?


Trust me, I was out of shape bad, until I started doing this and it helped get me into kickass shape


As for the sit-ups, do them every other day as well.


Do 4 sets of 50 sit-ups and 4 sets of 50 crunches.


If you have anymore questions feel free to ask!


Hoped this helped and best of luck to you!

Need advice about a horrible salon experience..?

got my hair highlighted yesterday, i asked for a partial highlight, I told the stylist i wanted it dark blond, it turned out much lighter than i asked for, . when i got home, i saw that from the root to the ends there were two different colors,, it started out almost platinum blonde near the roots, and changed to a golden blonde on the ends. it was hideous,,, so as soon as i get home, i call back to schedule appointment to have her fix her obvious mistake. I asked her to dye it light brown all over, and it turned out great. I then leave w/out paying, i was under the assumption that if a stylist screws up your hair, it is their job to fix it at no cost.. 2 hours later i get a call from them asking why I left without paying..then i was told that the stylist actually did a 3/4 highlight instead of a partial, which i did NOT ask for...so now they are wanting to charge me for her re-dying my hair that she screwed up, as well as doing the 3/4 highlight. should I be expected to pay for this?Need advice about a horrible salon experience..?
No way, She didn't do what you wanted so you shouldnt pay for her mistake.Thats like if you get a manicure and She mixes up the colors, They redo it without you having to pay twice, since it was there Fault. Say Theres no way ur paying for her mistake make up. She made the Mistake take it Outta her Paycheck. no offense to her or anything. But tell them that =] Goodluck!

scars

Need advice about this woman???

Yesterday, I went on a date with a woman who I've been talking to for several days now. It wasn't the greatest but only b/c of technical problems like me forgetting the directions to this one place, my car dying at the beginning of the date, and seeing the worst movie of all time. We were suppose to go see a concert tonight but her Grandmother was just admitted to the hospital. She said her parents won't be back until 6 and the concert was at 7. I really don't think she would lie about something like that just to get out of seeing me a second time, that would be out of her character. She has texted me a few times this morning telling me whats going on. I pray that her grandmother will be alright. What can I do or say right now??? Also, what should I do about the tickets...I can't sell them at this point.Need advice about this woman???
just make sure you ask about her grandmother sometimes to show your concern and support and let her know that you are here for her and that if she needs anything she can ask you. The tickets...hmm maybe you can talk to the box office and work out some kinda trade. You might can sale them on craigslist really fast.Need advice about this woman???
Since she is texting you, she still seems interested.





I'd go to the concert, alone or with a friend. If your new friend doesn't understand then it's best you know now.





So tell her you hope everything works out well with her grandmother and you'll hope she'll understand that you are still going to the concert as your tickets are non-refundable. (You also might mention that you hope you can hook up after the ';emergency'; is handled). As I said, if she doesn't understand then you may want to know that now. It's too early in the relationship for a ';commitment'; or for her to expect that you would cancel these types of plans because she can't make the date.





Good luck.





Peace.
Just out of curiosity, what band were you going to see?





Just go with someone else...music is a GIFT, use it:)


If she's got a good heart like you think she does, she won't mind you doing it.


I don't think she's blowing you off, especially if she continues to text you. That means that she very obviously wants to keep contact.





Good luck!


Don't forget to smile!
WELL DONT WAIT BREAK UP WITH HER BEFORE SHE DOES WITH YOU
I hope her grandmother will be ok, as far as the date things happen but dont necessrily mean anything.... I know this since on my wedding day a tornado came thru our town, a tree came down which totally blocked the road making it impossible for me to keep going to get to my own wedding when low and behold I sucked it up got brave and took a chance on driving around it in the mudd praying I would not get stuck, I did and made it time to get married! Things happen! Give her grandmother some time to get better and when things quiet down ask her out on a 2nd date and make it something special since the 1st date was not what you had anticipated... For now I would be there for your friend with an open ear and your support..... Good luck to you!
keep the tickets because when the band is gone then you can sell them as an antique. Dont ask her about her grandma but if she dont say anything for a couple weeks or so maybe you should ask. so all you can probably do is wait!
Circumstances pop up. Can you go to the concert with a friend so you won't waste the tickets? Just be kind %26amp; understanding. Sometimes, when things start out bad, they end up good :)
Take a family member with you She might be upset if you take another woman with you
Take someone else. You have only been on one date with this woman and she may be blowing you off.


Go and have fun!
Maybe her stories are legit.Give her a few days to straighten her self out. As for the concert, take someone else.
Be wary of the sick grandma excuse. But give her a chance.. it could be true. Do continue to ask how the grandma is, and console her. Just tell her that if she needs anything to call. That will show your compassion. Then wait and see how she reacts. This could be the telling moment of this relationship; or, if there is to be one at all. Get a friend to go to the concert and have fun!
You have only been on one date with this woman and she may be blowing you off
take someone eolse if she can't come but also ask her how she and her grama are doing , comfirt her

Need advice about a guy. guys and girls please answer this for me?

i like my neighbor hes like 23 there's not too big of an age diff. between us. hes single and never has girls over. he lives by himself. we make very very tiny small talk when im outside with out my parents and were always laughing too. how do i get him to really notice me. i want him to invite me over. i want to flirt with out trying hard, i don't want him to know im trying to get attentionNeed advice about a guy. guys and girls please answer this for me?
Well you should care cause a 15 year old and 23 year old is something non-pedophiles called illegal. But good luck with your decision on someone who is 8 years older than you.





Yea married meaning they are of legal age. If you like him that much, stay away from him, cause if your parents find out, guess who is going to jail? oh yea him.

Need Advice about my 2 yr old!!?

She will be 3 yrs this June... She DONT listen AT ALL! Only when its me and her but if her dad,grandma is around she Wont listen to me at all! she pulls hair punches everything you cant think of except for biting! I need serious help here She heard the word Bit*h word 1 time and now when she gets mad at ppl thats what she calls them! and sticks her tounge out at them or makes faces... I sit her in time out that dont work! when i pat her hand( witch isnt hard at all) she smiles and laughs back at me! um i need help!Need Advice about my 2 yr old!!?
I'm not a mom or an expert, but I helped with my sister's kids, 3 of whom are still at this stage, even at 5 years old!





I think she's just testing her limits, keep putting her in time out and be as patient as you can be. I suppose its just the ';terrible twos';, but it doesn't really stop after that unless you keep up with standing your ground.Need Advice about my 2 yr old!!?
I feel your frustration because I was there. I can tell you it does get better. You have to find punishments that she absolutely hates and stick to them every single time she does something wrong. It is so tiring and frustrating but it will eventually pay off. This stage is going to feel like it will never end. For my kid, now 4, I put him in his bedroom and put a gate over the door. I also make loud noises such as clapping my hands to get his attention. He absolutely hates both. Only spank as a last resort and not out of anger.
I can see its frustrating for you, what catches my attention is that she acts up when dad and grandma are around, you discipline her with a tap, try sitting with her at time out, without paying her any attention, also the dad and grandma need to support you, and discipline her as well. as far as her saying that b word, try some Tabasco sauce, terrible twos doesn't mean she's in charge, also when you too are alone ,talk to her and remind her of her behavior, she's smart enough to understand. good luck
it depends how you react to her bad behaviour. It is probably just attention seeking and pushing boundries and if she gets a reaction out of you she'll keep doing it. ingnore her behaviour that you don't like and give over the top praise for behaviour that you do want, she will soon get the idea. Time out can work if they realise it's a time when she will get no attention from you. It can be tough but you must be consistent with what you do.
its terrible twos!! dont worry we all go through it shell grow out of it just be patient!!
My 2 yr old daughter laughs when i tap her hand too! its never worked for me. She too repeats swear words. the only 2 she repeats is sh*t and f*ck. Everytime she says them words I keep telling her its naughty words and shes not to say them. she has only said them once or twice.


I think you cant really tell her off for saying it because she is only repeating it but if she does know its a naughty word and deliberatly uses it then she should be told off.


My daughter never listens to me, even when were on our own. I normally give her till the count of 3 to stop what she is doing other wise i remove her from the situation. Ive very rarely had to get to 3 and once i did smack her bum (with nappy on) and she was very shocked. it didnt hurt and it was only a tap and it was only once but since then she has started listening when i count to 3 because she realises there are consequences. I know smaking isnt for everyone and definitely dont agree with it all the time but just once should do it. It sounds like youve tried everything else.
stop ';patting her hand'; and smack her hind end. you dont have to hurt you you only have to get her attention, for this kind of behavior time out just doesnt cut it. as im sure you have noticed.but after you spank always be sure she knows why. sit down and explain to her and make sure she knows what it was for and that it will happen again if she doesnt behave.
So she learned the word bi tch after an ADULT used it. She is a toddler it's not HER fault the adults in her home can't control their language. She needs consistency and not being hit because obviously she is learning to hit from you. Children learn to behave by the way you treat them. At home get a child gate and put in the doorway of her room. When she starts a tantrum put her in her bedroom and let her stay there until her tantrum is over.
she has upper hand at moment.i think you need to ignore her as long as she getting a reaction she will keep this up.when she is being or doing something good praise her all kids long for attention but the thing is to give her attention for good behaviour rather then bad.say what you have to say once then ignore her get down to her level and tell her to stop then ignore her and or remove her from situation.she will soon learn this behaviour is getting her no where she not gettin attention for it.as for bad words believe me ignore this too she is not aware of the meaning of word just that it gets attention.maybe sites below might help
do nothing, stop trying to make her stop, do not show any interest, maybe then she would get bored and she automatically stop doing that stuff. i said ';maybe';. kids! oh God, good luck ma'm!
If you tried time out and tapping her hand and it doesn't work,I think the only other choices are smacking her,yelling or taking her to go for a walk in the park or something to calm her nerves.You have to put your foot down somewhere.I mean enough is enough.

Please advice about my brother Abusing his girlfriend how can i help her? an stop him from doing it?

this question is about my brother he is verbally an physically abusive to his girlfriend, even when she is 3 months pregnant. I don鈥檛 know how to help her or who to tell, I鈥檝e seen him push her an me an my brother got into a fight I told him that he shouldn鈥檛 do that stuff to her. He just said to mind my own business, should I ? I care about her a lot, I鈥檓 scared he might hurt her, an she will lose the baby. I hate that he is like that to her, how could any guy do that, how could my brother yet that鈥檚 not how our family is. He doesn鈥檛 have a job or money she gives him everything money bought him a new truck. Why are they together? Should I tell the police? My brother an his girlfriend are 21 an I鈥檓 16 My parents live in the country its far away from the city, I know they don鈥檛 know anything about this I only started to see it when I moved in with the to go to school. Her parents an family live in another country. I really don鈥檛 understand how a guy can do that an call him self a man. It makes me sad to know that there are a lot of women going throw the same thing, I鈥檇 never do that to my girlfriend. by the way i've asked this question in the Pregnancy place but i think its more family questionPlease advice about my brother Abusing his girlfriend how can i help her? an stop him from doing it?
Bravo -- you sound more like a man than your brother does. Warn him that you won't just stand idly by and let stuff like that go on. Tell him you ARE minding your own business -- he is family and you will not let him screw around like that. You need to let your parents know and see what they can do to help you. If he gets physical again you are going to have to call the authorities (regardless of her protests, which I'm sure she will make). Do not be intimidated, you will be doing what is best for her and the baby. Good luck.Please advice about my brother Abusing his girlfriend how can i help her? an stop him from doing it?
well, you've spoken to him, as the others suggested, try saying:


I've approached you about this, given you a chance to change your ways, but you didn't take the opportunity to do so, as a result I am going to do what I think is best for this baby.


you need to stay calm, if he wants a fight, don't give it to him,


you need to go down to the police station and tell them about what's happening, if you want to give him another chance then contact your parents, or talk to somebody you trust at your school, this needs to be sorted, this man could harm his girlfriend, or her baby, it is obvious that you, a 16 year old, care far more about this baby and about his girlfriend than he does, if you do want to talk to the girlfriend before hand search online for what abuse to a pregnant woman can do to the baby, or read about it in a book, get some information about it and talk to the girlfriend about why she needs to get as far away from him as possible, to ensure her baby is healthy, if he is abusing her full on, then imagine what he could do to the child once he/she has been born, when they get older he could abuse them in the same way that he abused the girlfriend, also, go down to the refuge and talk to them, tell them what's happening, they will probably give you better advice than we can because they are trained to do so.


good luck, you seem like a lovely person!
Try talking to him first before you tell others or get the police involved. It needs to be stopped before he hurts her or the baby. When you talk to him let him know what you are planning to do if you see or hear anything about the abuse again. If you feel you can't talk to him show him this question you posted unless you think he might get mad at you and hurt you. If none of the above works or you feel like you'd be putting yourself in danger then you really need to tell someone else. Do it quickly because something bad might happen to her if you don't. I hope everything will be okay.
It's best that you don't try to handle this whole situation by yourself. This has to be handled by the police. She needs a restraining order against him.





It's very hard for her to leave him. She is living in fear. The probable reason she is still with him is because she has nobody else. Maybe she can stay with someone like a friend or someone. Look up sites on abusive relationships. You'll learn that it is a cycle and the victims feel trapped. Your brother also needs counseling and anger management.





I really hope the best for your brother, his girlfriend, and your future nephew/niece. Also, I want to say that you are very brave for seeking help.

Need advice about chest pain!?

i was working out and when i did a bent over row with a dumbbell my chest started to hurt. i thought it was hurting because i was hitting my chest with the dumbbell and i was going kind of fast too. it has been 4 days now and my chest hurts when i stretch my arms or body. also if i put pressure on my chest. so does anyone have any ideas on whats wrong with my chest? i worked out about a year now and i quit about 2 months and started again a month ago.


o yea one more thing it hurts in the middle of my chest and it feels like i might of cracked something. and when i breath in a lot of air at once it hurts. Need advice about chest pain!?
Go to the doctor, this is not yahoo med.Need advice about chest pain!?
It doesn't sound cardiac; I would suggest getting a chest x-ray but suspect you overexerted yourself and strained a muscle.
You could have a fractured Sturmen.My Son had these same symptoms and they did an ex ray and it was fractured,cause by lifting heavy things.
It's possible that you tore a muscle or cracked a rib. Have your dr. check it out.

Need advice about forgetting the ex!?

A little background-I am 29 I met him when I was 18 and married him when I was 20. He was the only one I had ever been with. We have 1 child together. He went away for something with his work for 5 months. He came back and wanted a divorce...and yes, he did cheat on me, but he says that the other woman is not the reason for the divorce. We have since separated and I have moved with my child to California and he lives on the East coast..because it is closer to my family. I know we have to be civil and polite because of our child but how do I keep it only on that level? I am so used to telling him things and emailing him and all that other stuff. It is really hard to restrain myself from doing this....and I DON'T want to be one of those stalker ex's you always read about....but I find it very difficult to separate emotionally from him. Anybody else have or having this same problem? Any good advice?Need advice about forgetting the ex!?
join a self help therapy group where u will meet others who have already experienced this, and can be supportive to u. its not easy to be married one day and the next he is gone, he was a big part of your life, and its painful to loose someone u love still. when my ex left me and its always due to interference from another woman no matter what they say, i was devastated, but the best thing is to make yourself meet new people, form new ways in life, as u don't have a choice here. just keep it about the child when u speak to him, and remember what he did to u, if u can do that your halfway there.Need advice about forgetting the ex!?
It sounds like you are not ';over him';. Is there a chance at reconciliation?


He was unfaithful to you. Is there a chance that you were unfaithful to him at least in spirit ? A child's best chance is with both parents. If there is a chance that you might find it in your heart to forgive and reconcile, maybe that is the best thing. You sound like you still love him. Does he still love you ? Just something to think about.
Make some new friends and take it slow. I think you married to young. People in their 20s tend to me emotionally unfaithful sooo easy. This is what happened to your husband. Or you can move back to be closer with your family.


Good luck
Best thing you can do is meet new people. They will occupy your mind and keep you busy. Before you know it he won't be so important.
had the same problem. i was married at 21 and divorced a year later. find someone else really quick and you will be over him.
time is the only thing that will solve it, find a passion in life [hobby, sport] anything that isn't him might help as well
just wish if it was all a dream and think about some other stuff ya dig
You'll just have to break the habit. There's nothing wrong with being pleasant though. You don't have to be cold %26amp; to the point. You can ask how he's doing or whatever. If he remarries or you do I think it's best to be friends really. My husband's ex asks him what he's up to etc. all the time %26amp; that doesn't bother me. All you need to worry about is what is okay for the both of you. Obviously if he's asking you to leave him alone then you need to, but if your communication is welcomed then I don't see the problem. It's hard to separate yourself from someone you've been that close to.
stop completely. only be civil for your child. since you live so far away you really don't have to deal with that many dramas. just keep busy, and think of what he did to you and that he did not honor you as his wife, you deserve much better. you will find someone better, and that will honor you. if you cant help writing him emails. then write them and send them to a friend or family member. write a note for yourself every day that you are better then that and that its his loss.
It is not as there is a choice. There is the divorce,and the separation, that sounds so final. That is what it means, you will not be sharing conversations or e mailing, the relationship has come to an end. Is there some kind of child settlement, and or visitation rights? That is where you have communications left, about the child. That is often a tug and pull unless you are both concerned for the good of your child.


Distancing yourself emotionally will come, as you accept and learn to deal with the rejection. That is the pain you may feel, he is divorcing you and the child. This being a learning experience many go trough, you are not allone 50% of the marriages end up in divorce. You are fortunate that you have your family close by, share your sorrow with them, and your faith in God.






Hey... I'm kinda/was in a similar situation as you. I was with my Ex since I was 17, I'm 23 he was my first love, first everything... I was attached to him deeply. The only thing you can do is realize that he's bad for you... and he wasn't the type of person that you wanted to be with, because he's not, he hurt you when you trusted him. Keep reminding yourself this. You need to become stronger and you need to protect your feelings. Avoid all contact with him unless it is something important and that you have to do. You need to detach yourself from him and the only way to do this is avoiding all contact. Keep getting support from your family and friends and keep talking about this to them and how he's not good for you if he's in your life and have them remind you this everytime your having a hard time, that's what helped me. I would call my friend up and talk about how I need to talk to him or want to say something and she would remind that he wasn't worth my time and that I deserve better and now I don't need that, I remind myself that everytime I feel the need to talk to him. You don't need him, that's what you need to realize, you are ur own person and you can be happy alone. You need to learn to be alone and you need to get stronger which is something that slowly happens once you start living without him, you start learning to love yourself more and realize that you don't need him as much as you thought you did. But to get there, you need to stop talking to him unless it is about your child and is something that can't be avoided.
It's going to be hard to get out or that habit as he has been in your life for a long, long time. Don't be so hard on yourself. To want to talk to him and share your feelings is natural. However, you're going to have to try not to do that and make a life of your own with your child.





When you talk to him, keep it about your child only. Call him when you only have a bit of time so you don't get off track and try to take him down memory lane. Rely on your family. Spend time with them. Make some new friends and a new routine.





You'll make it through this. I am sorry for your sadness. Good luck.
there has to more to this story. you guys were together for a long time. you have a child...but there had to be other issues in the marriage. did you change....where you focused more on the child and less on nurturing your marriage and home? has he always seemed disconnected? i believe that there are warning signs prior to the hubby getting out there. well...think about the part you played in him leaving and obviously it takes 2 for anything to work. pray about it. ask God to help you see what you need to see and understand. if you all remain friends, be friends. do not try and reconcile...that to me is the man's job not the woman's. be strong...get involved with family and other activities to occupy your thoughts and of course journal. if he was unfaithful in the marriage he can not be trusted...but he can be forgiven. keep your head up...but i know it is hard and probably a little lonely.... :(
Yeah, I have gone through the same thing. I was emotionally attached. The best thing that I did was talk to my friends and family about emotions that I would normally share with her. Once you cut off the connection, day by day it starts to get easier not talking to that person. You deserve to love someone that loves you back. I know the heart wants what the heart wants (this really sucks!!!), but cut the ties and you will be able to move on faster. It is not healthy to be in a place where a person can make you feel good or bad. Try to take control of your own emotions.
You need to find a hobby join community groups, get involved in a mommy and me class, or even just join a gym. Do whatever it takes to keep you out of the house and your mind off him. I went through the same thing with my x of 5 years and its hard, but the more you fill your time the less you will think of him and eventually the urge to call him, email him, or even talk to him will be gone.





Also, If your active in your community you will be more exposed to new friends, and potential new lovers, especially out here in cali there are so many people it wont be long before you forget his name :)





stay strong, everything will work out.

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Need advice about in home daycare?

I am in desperate need of a at home job. I have a 22 month old son. I live in a rental house on a small farm. I have horses, dogs, cats. My dogs are pitbulls. All are outdoor animals.





The house I live in is huge 2200 sq foot. It is not super nice but it works for us. I would feel comfortable keeping 2 other kids around my sons age. I just do not know where to start or how much to charge or what to feed and do with them all day.





I just need advice on where to start and any other advice you may have. do you think i will have trouble since my dogs are pitbulls? does it matter if i rent or own?Need advice about in home daycare?
taking care of other kids besides ur own is alot of responsibility. some parents may be weary to leave their child with someone who owns pitbulls. next, in some states u may need to obtain a license to operate an in home daycare, so you should check your state laws. as far as what to charge is entirely up to you but being that were in a recession , i would consider the circumstances and be reasonable. its always best to have the child bring their own breakfast, lunch or dinner, depending how long u plan on watching the other kids, most kids are very picky when it comes to foods so its best to leave that responsibility up to the parent, but you can serve snacks like applesauce, chips, yogurt, crackers, cookies, drinks, etc. and whatever activities you do with ur own child , you can do with the other kids like read them books, take them to a park (if one is around), sing songs, etc. so good luckNeed advice about in home daycare?
Our 11 month old is at a home daycare provider, licensed by the state.


My wife, when we had our child, considered it and filled out most of the paperwork. Talk to your local department of human and family service. They will give you the steps to become licensed (basically free to do) and great ideas on writing a contract, pricing, and free assistance.





In some states, they will even purchase the food you use at your daycare.





http://nrc.uchsc.edu/STATES/states.htm is a good start.
You have to aks your landlord first. Then put an ad in the paper. It shouldn't matter about your dogs just as long as they are really good with strangers and kids. My friend has a pitbull and she is awesome with kids. My friend has a baby and a 4 year old. Just make sure your house is child proof with locks on everythign and baby gates . You need to have a schedule for the kids as far as what will be done and at what time. You are unlicensed so you can't charge much but I would definately suggest taking a infant/child CPR class to be certified and make sure your home is super clean. Now if your house isn't nice i don't know how thats gonna work cause parents are picky but super clean, safe, and uncluttered would be a help. Maybe if you were willing to have a late pickup like after 6pm or a early dropoff like before 7am that might get moms interested. You need refrences and to think about what kind of environment you would want your son in if you were looking for child care. Good Luck!

Advice about neighbours puppy?

the puppy is always crying and barking outside,i have 3 dogs myself and i know that when they go out to the back garden naturally they bark at any noises. but this puppy is always outside,i never see them walking the dog.my children tell me that there is a kennel for the pup,but its freezing out there and she is just a pup. from the moment i get up,take the kids to school to the moment i go to bed the poor thing is out there.they are constantly shouting at it to shut up,should i report it to the rspca?Advice about neighbours puppy?
Absolutely! poor dog, I will never be able to understand why people have little animals if they won't take care of them.Advice about neighbours puppy?
Yes. Leaving a dog or puppy out in this cold is abuse. See about adopting this puppy. It knows you and your dogs, so an adjustment won't be so hard on the puppy.
well done for reporting these horrible people to the rspca
Oh poor thing!!! Honestly what's wrong with people??!!?? I'd definitely report it to the SPCA - get some video or pictures for proof. Have you thought about discussing it with the neighbor? Maybe they'd surrender the puppy to you??? Sounds like you'd give the puppy a good home! How sad.
defo report it thats horrible if they cant b bothered to look after a pet they shouldnt have one, after all they wouldnt like it if they were shut out allday with no exercise. if it were my neighbours dog i would just take it and if they had ewt to say id give them a piece of my mind and a b..ch slap
definitely, if you don't this pup may not make it through the winter.
you to seem to care a lot so make peace with your neighbor . offer to help with the puppy.maybe dog sit.just be a positive friend.educate and be a good influence . they could make good dog owners with some help.
Well that depends on what type of dog it is. If the dog has a shelter, water and food, most likely they won't be able to do much. But if you report that the dog is barking all the time then maybe your city/county animal control can do something about it.


Some people might just debark the dog, in that case, you don't hear it much anymore but the problem essentially is still there.


I feel bad but not much you can do about it unless you can rehome the dog.
Yes.
please report it! That is really sad -- poor thing! its so cold outside! :(
yes!!! if the neighbor gets the puppy takin away u should adopt it
Yes, asap!
First, consider this, does this dog have any of the five freedoms provided for it? Such as:





Freedom from Hunger and Thirst


Freedom from pain and discomfort


Freedom for injury and disease


Freedom from fear and distress


Freedom to express normal behaviour?





If not, definatley get in touch with the RSPCA. Those above /\ are guidelines the RSPCA made for responsible pet ownership, but if it is outside I am sure the dog is not comfy, happy, or able to express normal behaviour. Please at least report it!!!





Good luck!
Well done for taking this puppy's welfare into consideration. I hope all goes well for it in the future.

Advice about the industry and mixing engineers (I need anwers please!)?

Hi guys, I'm just now getting my equipment and I feel I've wasted a lot of time over the years smoking weed. I'm 22 now and I want to get into the industry and start getting my name out but I don't have an engineer to mix my music. I originally planned to save up from ages 22.5-24 for going to engineering school. From 24-25 will be spent in school and then finally at age 25 beginning to go out, do open mics, and get my name out etc. I feel this is too much time passed to begin at age 25. Theoretically it could still take a few years to build a fanbase and 'blow up'. Do you guys think I should skip engineering school and find a good mixing engineer?


I'm doing it indie, and I want my own label, so I feel it'd be nicer to take care of everything on the production end myself so I can produce myself and artists on my label.Advice about the industry and mixing engineers (I need anwers please!)?
it's easy, go out and live music, go to school, and at the same time, at night go out and play, and don't worry about making it, nobody ever does unless you know a couple other things about the industry

Advice about going home for the holidays with a totally new look to see the family?

I am going home for the holidays to see the family. I, however am nervous of how I will be received. I have lost over a 100lbs since they last saw me and I now have many tattoos and piercings (ears). The tatts will be pretty much covered by a t-shirt and jeans. However, the piercings are still too fresh to take out. I just worry someone will try to bait me into a little battle or something silly.





I just worry that they will see that and not see the real me that they know. I mean, they are a pretty open crew about tatts but are kinda weird about piercings. To me, it is funny bc most of my friends say the total opposite about theirs in which flies easier. I was just wondering how to go about it. I just want to be me, but not to the extent to where I am viewed as being freaky or a wierdo. I mean, I dress well and have a bit of a skater look to me, but I am not a goth or totally out there. I also cut my hair from a skater/shaggy look to a military short style.Advice about going home for the holidays with a totally new look to see the family?
Dont sweat it they are your family if they cant accept you dont go around them!Advice about going home for the holidays with a totally new look to see the family?
Go home have a good time, and know that no matter what your family says about your appearance they still love you. They may be shocked at first but once they get to talking to you, you'll become the same person they've always known.


My daughter got a tattoo, and I totally freaked but when I saw it it is one of the most beautiful pieces of skin art I have ever seen.





I'm not opposed to tattoos I just didn't want them on my daughter.

Advice about my situation?

So here鈥檚 the deal. I鈥檝e been talking with this girl online for鈥?let鈥檚 see鈥?about 8 months, and we鈥檙e pretty good friends now. She has admitted to me that she likes me (and I get the feeling that she either does or has REALLY liked me), and she鈥檚 a nice person that I like, but we鈥檙e both unsure how to treat the situation seeing as we never get the chance to meet face to face, because we go to different high schools. However, my best friend goes to her school and is one of her best friends. Because we don鈥檛 meet that often, there is a lot we don鈥檛 know about each other. Any advice about the situation?Advice about my situation?
Im a girl so listen!


I would never date someone online!


Because they can get all you info and do anything to you!


But if you think it is okay then Give it a shot!


Tell her you want to meet at a restaurant our something and then take her home in your room and she if she kisses you and then you are meant to be together!Advice about my situation?
Call her up, get her number from your friend.

Advice about husband?

Ok me and my husband have been seperated for 2 weeks now. I made a big mistake yesterday I found out where he was staying and i followed him. he got so mad. I asked him if we were over and he said he has hope. I took of my ring and gave it to him yesterday. Big mistake. he hollered at me cursed at me. told me to leave him the f*** alone.I made a big mistake. He said last night when u are looking for something u never find it but when u quit looking u find it. What does he mean by this? He said he has a little bit of hope. does this mean we have a little chance. He is still calling. and he is still coming over on the weekend to watch the kids. He said I know yr number I know where u live let me come to u . Is there a chance at all for us. or have I totally messed up any chance at all for us . when I tell him i love him sometimes he tells me back and sometimes he dont. I need some honest advice here can u help me.Advice about husband?
Games. How old are you two.


Get to talk to him and get your answers, and go onAdvice about husband?
Sounds like the emotions and tensions are running high. You both would probably do well to slow down and think about how you really feel about things. While thinking, stop baiting each other. It's not hard to push each others buttons, and its not helping the situation.





The best conclusions are reached from a calm and rational standpoint, even in matters of love.
I think he's telling you not to contact him, so that he can play and have fun. ie: messing with other females. I think you need to stop all contact, except for him seeing the kids. Don't call him or contact him in any way. Move on with your life. If he truly loved you, he wouldn't be putting you through this. You aren't just his wife, you are also the mother of his kids, and this is how he treats you? Forget about him, he sounds like a dog!
Sometimes seperation makes the heart grow fonder. I would give him some space. Let him be for a bit and just go about your life. Take a break from each other and see what happens. Sometimes that's all it takes, just some time apart. Hope this helps. :)
He wants you to back off. ';Let him come to you'; Guys are pursuers. Ugh, this is why our generation has it all wrong. Let him be the man, let him follow you, let him look for you. He may or may not come back but he wants to be the man.
my husband and i went through something like that not long ago. i quite calling him, and quite trying to get him to come home. he started calling me every day. and asked to come by to see our kids. i didn't push him, but i did tell him i still love.


we were separated for over a month. i finally told him that if he really loves me, and wants our marriage to work, then he would come home.


two day later he did. we are now in counseling and working on things.


just give your husband time alone. dont call him or bother him. if he really loves you, he will come home. good luck
Before starting to panic about the thought of losing your husband - think about how life was prior to the separation. Obviously, there is/was something VERY serious going on.





Sometimes the reasons get clouded when you think about all the ways life might change. And change is a very scary thought for most of us.





My guess is that you weren't very happy... Not genuinely. I would say just by the responses you listed that he's had - I would be willing to guess he isn't the most caring, attentive, responsible husband and I bet you've secretly wished for someone very different - more loving, more genuine... If this is true - all of this may be a good thing. A blessing in disguise.





When he said that sometimes you never find it until you quit looking - An example would be a desperate woman searching for love, dating every guy she meets trying to find the one - time after time it's wrong - and then she finally gives up and thinks she will never find him - then on the way to the store she runs into a guy and they meet and then bam, fall instantly in love and live happily ever after. It means you can't force something - that when it's meant to be it will be... Things happen when you least expect.





So stop trying to win him back or save the marriage - let the pieces fall into place and maybe it will work - maybe it won't. There is always room for hope but you need to give him the space he is wanting. Smothering him and following him will only push him away more.





I'd be willing to bet you're better off without him, but I know that in your current state of mind, you probably can't see that right now.





I wish you the best!
You have not made any mistakes here. He is making the mistakes by reacting the way hes reacting to each situation. By him telling you to let him come to you, is very selfish. He only wants you at his convenience. Why would you settle for emotional abuse like this? Honey its time for you to pick yourself up dust yourself off and get over this man. The best revenge is to go on with your life and make yourself happy. Leave him behind and move forward. Hes not worthy and you deserve better, but you wont know this until you stop settling for this kind of abuse. If you stay you are just teaching him that to treat you this way is ok. Its not. There is life after divorce, its just what you decide to make of it

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Advice about continuing education...?

Alright, so here is my dilemma. Ive tried college twice, first in 07 and then again in 08 - The first year I took an Art course that I thought I would enjoy and make a living out of, in the end it turned out to be an entire waste of money. I ended up dropping out two months in. I worked the rest of that year, and then decided to try again. This time I enrolled for an Esthetics course... it was mostly just filler, and to please my parents - and also I was worried that I wouldnt get another chance at college. So I enrolled, and was in the course for about three months, and I started having family trouble (got kicked out of my parents house) and then got into a car accident which took my transportation options away (school was about an hour away from where i lived). Anyways, I had no choice but to drop out yet again, which totally turned my life upside down in the way that I felt like I couldnt accomplish anything.


I am now living with my boyfriend (we've been together for a year now), and I am looking for a job, but Im also thinking about school again for the future. I really want to go to University but I have no idea what to take! Ive been wracking my brain for months trying to figure this out.. I just cant seem to get ANYTHING!


Its so frustrating.. does any one else know what this is like? Or have any advice?








Extra Information:


I absolutely love art, writing, and photography.


I need a course that has substance, like theory, history and lectures.. (weird I know)


I need something that I can make a living out of.





Any helpful comments are very welcome! Thanks guys :)Advice about continuing education...?
Well I cant really help you with this question, but I wanna motivate you. You answered a question of mine and you seem so nice and caring. Remember your life is not to please your parents or anyone else. Do what you want to do. I fully encourage you to go back to school and get an education that you want. Pursue what you want. You want a job you love doing. And thank you for answering my question. It helped al ot. Congrats on your engagement. Feel free to email me.Advice about continuing education...?
Media Arts, Animation, Graphic Design?





You can take online courses
There is a lot of information on the web that can help . Different schools offer different programs and many people change concentrations or majors. http://www.goodinternetdeals.com/Art-School.html

Advice about Ex boyfriend?

I am in love with a guy who broke up with me in September. We dated 7 months.Since we lived in different towns we saw eachother about once a week and on holidays. We broke up cause he did not want a girlfreind at the time. We stayed close and continued talking. We hung out in December. We lost contact in January. I started talking to him again in Febuary, since I can drive now. When I call he only stays on the phone 5 minutes or less. I call about once a week. To get his attention, I put on my facebook i was in a relationship with this guy. He messaged me, the first time he initiated a conversation, and after some small talk he said,'' i see you got a guy good for you.'' This was Tuesday. I called him last night. He told me he was on the phone with someone. I asked if I can call back. He said he was going to be on the phone with this person a long time. (If it's a girlfreind, he could have told me). He's such an amazing person, I just want him to be my friend. I want to see him.ADVICE?Advice about Ex boyfriend?
After a breakup there are always going to be feelings lingering. And it will only cause more pain if you try to make things work out if the other person is ';playing'; with you or looking for someone else. I would move on and not put too much effort in it. If he truly cared, he would talk to you, otherwise you are being played and it will just end up hurting.Advice about Ex boyfriend?
Guys often love the chase, it seems like you are the one doing the chase here.


Put yourself on the line but dont over do it. e.g. you could tell him you are celebrating something- could be anything worth celebrating then invite him, prepare yourself and just put yourself out there. if he likes u he will see your beauty and make the chase. but you have to let him do the chase not you.
It seems to me he wants you to be his friend, but you seem to be pushing the boundaires of friendship. I understand how hard it is to be friends with someone you have or have had feeling for, but trust me, friends is not the end of the world. In most cases it is actually a lot better. If I was him I would think you were still interested. The best thing you can do is just explain yourself to him and wish for the best. Life is far too short to waste your time. Good luck and I wish you all the best.

Advice about a pitbull.. please?

my neighbor bought an 8 month old pitbull, and he really is the cutest thing. the problem is i have a yorkie who is very terriotorial, and this pitbull is jumping over our 4 1/2ft fence that divides the yards. My dog tried to bite him and the pitbulls master came over and spanked him with her shoe. It happend several times after that to the point where the dog was in my house. Yet again the poor pitbull was beat instead of getting him a leash or training him. Her response was you have to beat the pitbulls to get the meaness out of him!! what!! is that right?? i said no way that will make him more aggressive!! and he isnt even mean he just wants to play! i asked them where is the leash and she said he ate it!! oh my god! they are looking at me like im crazy! he is in MY yard and could eat MY dog!! im very close to calling the cops. i dont know what to do... i feel like beating her. advice please??Advice about a pitbull.. please?
No it is not right. She is going to end up with a mean, uncontrollable dog. Then the breed will be blamed instead of the abusive training technics. These dogs need a firm, not mean, trainer. They need an experienced trainer, not some idiot that hits dogs. Sorry, but stuff like this really gets me angry. Find out who to report her to in your area before she ruins a good dog!Advice about a pitbull.. please?
Beating a dog with a shoe will NOT ';get the meanness out of them';. This woman is a moron and doesn't deserve to own this dog.





You have every right to call Animal Control since the dog keeps coming into your yard (and especially your house). You should also mention that the owner is beating the dog -- perhaps they will refuse to give it back.
Report them to animal control next time the dog is in your yard. Pets must be contained, or it's against the law. You can also report the poor treatment at the same time, but chances are, the only thing you can really hope to do is have the dog collected for being out of it's yard.
Dont EVER EVER EVER hit or beat ur dog!! That is how u get them meaner and if u go to far they can be scarred for life...what i would do is tell the pit bull owner to get a bigger leash, one that allows the puppy to run oround but NOT into ur yard. Tell the owner to train the puppy, or u can call the cops 4 animal abuse.


Hope it works out :)
You need to call your local animal control people and the police! What she is doing is almost guaranteed to make that dog into a very dangerous animal! Until this is settled -- and I think her dog needs a new home NOW -- keep your dog inside when the neighbor dog is outside.
No. That is animal abuse. She should NOT be hitting her dog. Please call the animal police.





It is because of people like her, that pit bulls get their bad rep.





please call! Best of luck!
The beating will cause the dog to become mean, particularly around people.





Call the police and the humane society, both.
You can report them but try talking to them first, if it doesn't work call Animal Control and let them talk some sense into them.
A pit or any dog should NEVER be beaten withanything but a hand. and even then not too much. The best way to stop a bad behavior with any dog is deprivation. tie them up with food and water and ignore them when they are naughty. reward them heavily for good behavior. This is reinforcement training. Your neib is going to get bitten by this dog sooner or later. a pit will eventually get enough abuse and turn on his owner. Like any dog a simple NO! usually suffices. beating the dog will make it more aggressive. Unfortunatly its the dog that will pay, usually by getting hauled off and put down when it is the owner that should be hauled off and put down!.. Pits need to be put on a chain. no ordinary chain will do, it has to be bottle chain, the hardware store knows what that is. its 10 times stronger than normal link chain... You do need to report this person if they won't listen to reason. There's a book that really helped me with my pit. its called ';NO BAD DOGS'; there are no bad dogs, there are bad owners. you have a bad owner. he needs to be schooled before some thing heinous happens.
Its absolutely time to call animal control on that psycho unless you want to let it continue to the point that the dog is mistrustful of all human beings, and whenever it comes into contact with one turns defensive.





There are no 'meanness' in dogs. Thats like beating the flowers out of the sun- nonexistent and damn near impossible.





Call animal control, tell them that you fear this dog is being seriously abused INSIDE the home as well as outside. Tell them that you've witnessed the owner beating the dog on several separate occasions, and that you've tried talking to this person but its escalated to the point that you fear for the dog.





THIS is why so many dogs bite people. Ugh.

Advice about my parents?

my mom is constantly yelling at me about the dumbest things and my dad just goes along with it all. the only thing she does is work 12 hrs, come home and watch t.v. the entire night and sleep. she has no hobbies no friends, shes just so bored that the only thing she can possibly think to do is yell at people, its like she just had kids to release stress and i am not her toy to squeeze! i mean seriously she never really had a childhood since she was born in china and nobody had education and she tries to but in my life at random points in time when she doesn't try to understand or even care she just says things and i hate it because i've always been fine on my own and it just pissed me off when she tries to talk to me when she's really just bored and needs to yell at somebody for some really gay reason. im constantly telling her to not think about my life and she says thats fine with her but when she has nothing better to do she just goes crazy its like having mother that never gets out of her period. and sometimes she tries to talk to me about how i cut my hair and the clothes that i wear which are completely casual and starts making the biggest deal out of it like im dropping out of college or something! it just makes me so frustrated and i've decided for a long time that these people that live in the same house as me are just to provide for schooling and money which they dont even my mom just gets mad at me when i tell her i need new clothes or school supplies even though i just about never use their money since i have a part time job but the few times i need cash she just goes crazy and says somethin like just wear those when there like 3 sizes too small but when it comes to my sister its 300 dollar recipts every weekend at the mall! okay im using this as a stress releaser kind of thing and i have one more thing to say both my parents cant handle the fact that their child(me) can accomplish or be good for anything even when i graduated valedictorian out of hs in a class of like 2000 students and if me or anyone tells compliments me on anything they'll just be like our son no way! i dont believe it and trust me im usually really modest but this is for stress release so they get so many compliments on my athletics(i play play football), my friends and looks(im pretty popular with the women) and my education(im currently a med student at nyu) and they just refuse to believe their son has any good traits! i mean seriously please tell me if im wrong about this?!!?Advice about my parents?
Lets see, im going to try to give the best advice that i can. i use zero money from my parents directly. BUT since they make too much money, i would not get financial aid from school, so as of now, they accepted the bigger loan until I can pay them back. They havent bought me clothes since i was 15, before i had a job. I get christmas and birthday gifts, which are usually great. i buy my own school supplies (different colored scrubs every semester included) i pay to go to the gym myself, i pay for my own car, gas, and phone. yet i still feel lucky that my parents are paying for that loan at this point. when i start feeling down about my life, i take a glimpse into someone elses. you said yourself they pay for education (which has been awhile if youre now a med student), they pay for clothes (which arent cheap at all im sure), they pay for school supplies!(books alone are at least 500 im sure, ive never spent less). To put it in perspective? I have an OLDER brother who is now on his 3rd school. my parents foot the bill each time, each time he fails out or stops showing up. they bought him a car, they pay for part of his rent, they send him care packages every week with his favorite foods, they buy him snowboards, clothes, etc. Sometimes parents believe that one child is more capable of handling themselves and let that child (well adult really) so just that. find a better paying job, take on your own responsibilities and maybe youll feel a bit better about yourself. I really thought you were about 15 reading this until you said you were a med student. that means youre at least 21 or so. grow up, and stop being selfish. your parents are proud-im sure of it.








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since you sent me an email that you were being whiny about my honest answer, ill have to add a bit. number one, dont call someone names for giving an honest opinion. number two, dont lie! you said in your question you work part time, you emailed me saying you work hard full time. also, you said your parents give you money, school supplies, new clothes in your question. when you emailed me you said you never ask for money except to pay for your loan. in your question you said your parents pay for your school. also, i have never heard of a student having to pay back a loan prior to graduation unless it was by choice, which is still discouraged. if you actually had a loan(which you at first claimed you didnt) you would not be paying it unless you are no longer a full time student. I know this because i had to go to part time due to financial trouble and pay mine monthly. get a life and grow up hunny. your life isnt that bad. the lies wont help either ; )Advice about my parents?
just tell here way you feel
You are not wrong about this. Unfortunately your parents have a problem. I just hope you continue doing what you are doing. You are an exceptional person from what I read. Some kids would have used that and done some really negative things. You've stayed focused and achieved some really things. Stay strong and vent. Venting is good. Keeping things inside will drive you crazy. Keep up the good work.

Need objective advice about giving advice?

I am the one that people come to when they have a problem.. whether it be about guys, school, work, other friends.. you name it. I am like the effing counselor.





I am starting to get overwhelmed because everyone comes to me to spill problems with other friends. (You know that stupid teenage girl drama that NEVER ends) They always want advice or whatever...





but how am I supposed to give it when the story changes each time?


I have tried to deflect the conversations and such... but it hasn't proven effective.





I am unsure of what to say and do, because with all the different stories, I don't know what is true and what isn't.





I have contemplated telling them to talk to someone else.. but that seems much too selfish and I would be incredibly guilt ridden.





So I need some advice for advice?Need objective advice about giving advice?
Advice, set definite limits, I know you know this. you're letting compassion and empathy kill you, and I do mean that literally. One day you're going to be so frazzled by this you're just not going to care and start to spout platitudes that any radio talk show host can do. If you even have a pinch of feeling for these souls, a pinch about yourself, tell them to f-off. You can apologize later.Need objective advice about giving advice?
it's not selfish to tell people to shut up about their problems, even if they are your friends.





would you expect your friends to allow you to blabber on and on about your various complaints and emotional issues every time you guys hang out and expect them to fix it all for you? i sure wouldn't.





just be like, guys, can we not talk about this today? i'm feeling really tired/upset/confused myself.


and if they let you, they're a good friend. if not, well... 'nuff said.





don't let people make you feel guilty for trying to live your life as you want to live it, not catering to other people's neediness.

Need advice about Son's girlfriend's mother. Will you please help?

My son is a 20 year old college student. He has a wonderful fiance who we love very much. My problem is her mother. Her mother is not the evil mother-in-law to be, she just won't let go. JM (my son) and JD (his fiance) have to drive about an hour to see each other. JD usually prefers to come here because she says our family is much more relaxed than her family. She enjoys the joking and laughter (no our family is no sit-com, we have our full share of bad days), but she told me we are at least vocal and don't keep it all inside. Please believe these are good people. I guess for the purpose of this question I'm only stating the bad.





To the problem. JM and JD asked me to call and ask if JD could spend the night one night because she was really tired and it was raining. When I asked her mother she said ';ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! What would people say? I will never allow her to damage her reputation that way'; I was hurt and now I don't know what to do or what to or say to her. Plz hlp!Need advice about Son's girlfriend's mother. Will you please help?
Well being in your shoes there isn't much you can do. If you want to create more heat among your family and theirs then say something. The best thing for you to do in this situation is to have JD deal with it on her own. Saying something may make it even more of a difficult time for JD. Your best bet is to stay out of it. Eventually they will be married and living on their own. Just count the days till then. I really hope this helpsNeed advice about Son's girlfriend's mother. Will you please help?
I would respect her for that decision. Put yourself in her shoes, and you'll probably do the same thing. She is just trying to protect her reputation. This should not in anyway hurt you. Because you are for sure that your son's fiance came from a good family. They may be a little uptight but I think you should learn to set and respect our boundaries.
Sound like her mother is a bit neurotic!!! I mean they ARE engaged........... And we all know her little angel is more than likely, not a virgin!! ;o)





Is she like Amy's parents on ';Everyone loves Raymond';, by any chance????





The solution----introduce her to alcohol!!!





Mr Happy


:o)
I understand that you think she should have been able to spend the night, but if more mothers were like her mother, there might not be so many single parents out there. They are engaged, once they are married I am sure it will not be an issue. I would apologize to the mother and realize she is doing what a good mother does to protect her daughter, whether it hurts you or not, that is her right.
Hello there, I think that you have a very interested question. I could cry by just reading your question. I think that maybe JD's mother does not appreciate you guys. I think that you should try communicating with her. Maybe you might know if she likes your family. I think that if she had appreciate your family, she will give her daughter a chance to have a night with your son and his family.





Bye bye


Good luck!
She just has a different view on it than you might. Dont be offended, she may have thought it was odd that you called and asked her, why didnt her daughter call and ask her own mother. She didnt mean it as an insult but maybe wasnt comfortable with it.
First of all, if they're engaged, then it should not matter what everyone else thinks. Secondly, how is ';EVERYONE'; gonna know if no one tells them. She is grown now and should be able to, especially since you are going to be there. Then there may not be any getting to her mother. Like she said, her family is not relaxed which sounds like they're very boozie! I wouldn't let it get to you.

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Need advice about this girl please help???? Long story but please help?

We are coworkers and I gave her a nice compliment saying I enjoy being around her. She said ';that's so sweet.'; So as I left she went and asked one of my coworker friends if I had a cursh on her. My friend said yes. She said well I think he's cute. My friend told me she thinks i'm cute so I went and told her that I have a crush on her. She said ';that's so sweet. She gave me a hug and after we hug I told her I would of told her sooner, but she you have a boyfriend. She didn't say anything about that really. So the next day she starts to flirt a lilttle. I didn't flirt back because she has a boyfriend.I gave this girl this letter well here's what it said When we first talk and after the conversation was over I started to like you. So everytime when you talk to me I get butterflies and feel tigly inside. Also when we make eye contact I get nervous. That's why you see me not making too much eye contact with you. I enjoy your company. I still have a crush on you.When you told me you might get another job I was sad. You're such a sweet,kind, and caring person. Your very pretty.You have such a beautiful smile and it makes me smile too. You have pretty blue eyes. I can't stop thinking about you. Your always on my mind. If you don't like me the way I like you. I'll understand and we can just be friends.


I gave it to her yesterday and I saw her today and she didn't say anything about it. I didn't asked her about it. I was kinda down today and really didn't feel like talking. Anyways I didn't tease her back or flirt with her back because she has a boyfriend. I played it cool and kinda ignore her I just wasn't in the mood to talk. And she knew that. Anyways she thought I lost interest in her so she said ';You don't like me anymore'; and walk away fast and look back at me and smile at me. She knows I still like her, but she has a boyfriend. We are co-workers and her boyfriend makes her come into work crying sometimes. I don't know why she stays with him, but she does. Anyways she didn't say anything about the letter still. She show all her co-worker friends the letter and told them I like her. She never told them that she likes me. Sometimes she flirts with me. I didn't flirt back I played it cool. Today I gave her a christmas present. It was a glass angel. Well she like it, but she didn't want it because her boyfriend would be so mad at her for accepting it. She didn't give it back to me, she left it in the front office and told the manager about the situation. She told him that I like her and treat her different than other girl employees. And she also said to him that she just wants to be friends with me. So did I screw up? I thought she like me. I don't know, i'm kinda sad right now. Any advice?Need advice about this girl please help???? Long story but please help?
She may like you, but it seems 99% likely that she's playing games. It doesn't seem like she's got any intention on leaving her boyfriend, so for now just keep your space from her.





It's an awkward situation, but you really were sweet for putting yourself out there... and braver than most of the people on these boards. Don't let this girl take you down a peg, they'res plenty of fish in the sea.Need advice about this girl please help???? Long story but please help?
Hate to say it but with current harrassment laws start looking for another job.
You ramble on and on and on like a chick. Are you gay?


Take the glass angel back and buy a pair of man size balls.
WELL I DONT THINK U SCREWED UP.WITH HER HAVING A BOYFRIEND SHE PROBABLY DOESNT WANT U 2 GET 2 DEEP.ITS PROBABLY BEST SINCE IT DOESNT SEEM LIKE SHE'S LEAVING HER BOYFRIEND.N U DONT WANT 2 B HURT....DO?
if she has a boyfriend then dont try 2 flrit with her around her boy friend.keep trying until you get your true girl.well if she is your true girl

Need Advice about this Girl!?

OK why do girls ';not all'; if they like a guy play him off, act like she doesn't like him, act different when she talks to him, and then acts rude with the guy she likes with other girls she hangs around with, like I'm lost...I swear to god, i would never act different with girls I know if I'm around my guy friends, I find that insulting to the girl I like, and it makes me look fake in public...and I'm not, I'm a very straight up individual. Reason why I'm asking this, this girl likes me, and she gives me all the signs where she wants to be my g/f but then she does this...So if anyone can gimme advice, plz do. I don't care if ur a guy or girl.Need Advice about this Girl!?
I would guess that she has not had a whole lot of experience with guys,especially with guys who like her and treat her with respect.dont change your behavoir,u are perfect just the way u are with girls.maybe its just not the right girl or the right time for her.it seems she has some growing up to do yet.what do u think?Need Advice about this Girl!?
i think the reason why us ';females'; act this way is so we don't feel vulnerable to getting hurt, like if the guy doesnt like you back you dont wanna practically show your throwing yourself at him...so yeah..
its the company and not her that bothers you, if you really like her am sure you will ignore her when she is with her friend, the only thing that will matter is when you are just the 2 of you, most girls want to be noticed in the company of their friends
i think this girl doesn't know how to make her mind up or is just bipolar.....lol.
Ignore her. and if she asks you why tell her you don't have time for games, either she is in or she is out. If she doesn't ask you she didn't like you that much in the first place.