Advice about my gf!!!!?

ok, me and my gf have been together for 1 month, i know her for 3 yrs. it was mutual passion from the start. it felt like it was true love.. but its been a week of drama, and arguing for dumb stuff like me talking to a girl from my work. or her talkin to guys on myspace (i hate it) and i was honest with her. i told her. ive known you forever.. before anything we're friends. so i want to be honest with you. i dont think we're that compatible for a relationship because were so different. (i work towards my future. work hard, have plans.. she sleeps all day and doesnt do anything and we cant reach common ground on alot of things) but besides that i have alota fun with her, i can be myself with her 100% (even though i dont think she understands me) well its been a few days.. she cried alot in front of me when i told her that, but i feel that its different now.. i dont know how what to do, it feel like the spark is gone, but i realized i love her :( what should i do?!!!!!Advice about my gf!!!!?
Love requires the ability to let go and work for what's best for the two of you. I'm pretty sure you feel the spark is gone, but at the same time you say you love her.. One thing is enjoying her company and another is being with her out of pity. My opinion is this.. break it off for a while, and just give things time to 'heal' and maybe she will realize that she really overlooked what you two had at one point and maybe she'll try to change for the better.. IF she really wants to save your relationship. Maybe with a little break the spark can ignite once again if its meant to be, relationships should always be 50/50, she should be trying to put in as much effort into it as you are.





I know that this sounds selfish, but in the situation you're in, you need to think a bit MORE about yourself and YOUR future and not let a few tears tie you down to a situation you are NOT HAPPY with any longer. Either that or try helping her change a bit for the better, it will help HER in the long run and at the same time make things a bit better and a little more tolerable for yourself.





By the way you describe things, I see there's nothing left to salvage, you guys HAVE a great chemistry on a friendship level.. but romantically I don't think you guys will make it far.. Relationships don't really work out when only one person is working hard to maintain it. I wish you the best, and even though you might not think this at the moment, YOU deserve better.Advice about my gf!!!!?
i understand what you mean, me and my gurl was friends 4 two years before we got together and things were kind of rocky at first but we gave it a 2nd chance and it worked out, (we been together 4 years no)
You're dating. You can still love her without being together. Just don't make it a double deal.
I LOOKS LIKE YOUR BETTER OFF SOLO!!!!
Just talk with her talk about everything that you are feeling and everything that she is feeling hopefully everything will work out for the best. Good luck to both you and your girlfriend.
That was d best thing u did ....u have to be honest in ur relationship...Make her realise u really love her and u dont like her talking to guys like dat ...i hope she'll understand ..but dont force it on her ..it'll create a rift amongst u .....be cool and calm ..talk things out ..maybe it'll help ..and for god sake dont get so possessive ..c'mon just because u love her ..it doesnt mean she shudnt talk to other guys...be a sport ..if u know u love her and she loves u too ...der's no point on worrying ......Chillax !
The drama issue- Have both of you been used to the single life? It's a big step working out the bugs of jealousy and etc. When you develope a mutual trust these things will subside.





Sleeping all day- This is close to a deal breaker for me, it could be a sign of laziness, lack of ambition or depression. Just because she is not very motivated doesn't mean that she doesn't have hopes and dreams that she really wants to happen.





Understanding- Communication, you need to convey your concerns to her more so that you can work out your problems. People online cannot work out your problems, you have to!! Most of your problems are a result of you and your GF not sharing the visions and expectations of each other.
Get rid of the lazy B
look you have to do what feels right you can't just stay with a girl because she cries go with the flow if it is meant to be with her you Will end up back together!
well it's up to you my friend you can either break up with her and moveon with your life or you can work through it maybe she was just having a bad week
You're probably just have regrets. But it sounds like you made the right decision. It's important to find someone who has similar goals and values. I would let you both cool off before hanging out. If you still feel this way after a while, you can always get back together.
you need to apologize to her for saying what you said that's make her upset, and tell her you realized she means a lot to you.





and no matter what, apologize and dont get mad at anything she says or does.
well.....to me it doesnt sound like it would make a good long term relationship..it sounds like she doesnt trust you and she is becoming a drama queen..does she love you?? She should understand you and love and want do dream with you and be there for you through everything...if she is not really willing to do that even though you love her...maybe you should find someone else who will always be there for you and appreciate you
ah bud same prob with my pals...