Need Advice About My Situation. Girls?

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Hey, thanks for reading this. But please read all of it. Okay, here's my situation:





聽聽 聽 I'm a male in high school and I had began to like one of my female friends. I've liked her for a long while. She's very kind, and we say hi once or twice everyday. I like being friends with her so much that I planned to not tell her about my feelings at all because I was afraid she will not see me the same way again and that our friendship will be ruined. I was working on not liking her anymore because I wasn't sure if a relationship would be good for our friendship.聽


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聽聽 聽 I am close with all of her female friends and I have been asking two of them for advice because I wasn't sure what to do. They said that I should keep trying to stop liking her if I thought it would be bad, but also said I should tell her how I feel if I can't control myself. I chose to keep trying to not like anymore. And then suddenly, she stopped saying hi to me for two weeks. When I tried to talk to her, she would answer and then shrug me off. Her signs of her avoiding me were so clear that I asked her on Facebook if I had done something wrong. She answered no, so I thought everything was normal. Then she continued to avoid me and I had asked her if something was wrong with me. She answered no again, and I started to think that i was over thinking it. 聽 聽 聽 聽 聽





聽聽 聽 But again, she would give the clearest signs that she didn't want to talk. Our mutual friends would always say hi to me, but she would keep quiet when they are in their groups. I became so frustrated about why she stopped talking to me and thougt about it a lot. Then one of my friends who I've been seeking advice from told me that the girl I liked knew I liked her. That was why she was avoiding me! Because she knew I liked her. I don't know how she found out, but I know our two friends didn't tell her anything. Maybe she somehow found out on her own, but I have no idea. Anyway, she now knows I like her and that was why she started to avoid me. All this time she knew and I didn't know that she knew. I told our mutual friend about it, and she said that I should talk to the girl about it myself. I'm not too sure of what to say to her. I've been thinking that i should just tell her that I never wanted her to know I like her and never wanted our friendship to decay.聽





聽聽 聽 It's ironic; I try my best for her not to know to preserve our friendship and she somehow finds out and our friendship is practically broken. Also, why is she avoiding me? Right now I think it is because she is afraid of me. I also can't tell if she likes me or not, but let's say she doesn't have an interest in me at all. I still love her, and I'm afraid that I will start loving her unconditionally. I don't want to love her because it is painful. Anything can help. Thank you.聽





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1. What should I say to her when I get her alone?


2. Why has she been avoiding me?聽


3. Do you know how she might feel? If you learned that one of your guy friends you talk to all time liked you but you have no interest in him, how would you feel? Females, you might be able to answer this.





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1. when u get her alone tell her its true that you like her, but your not sure if she likes you, and if she does like you, tell her that you dont want to end ur friendship if the relation ship goes wrong. and for that reason you are trying not to like her anymore.


2. its possible she has been avoiding her for the same reason that u are trying to not like her anymore. mabe because she likes you also but dosnt want the friendship to end. or mabe she dosnt like you.. im not sure but mabe the first one


3. i might know how she feels but because once i had a friend that liked me and he knew it was best if he stopped liking me because i didnt really like him and he didnt want our friendship to end so he stopped liking me and we are always talking on aim now just as friends. it was just really fustrating when he liked me, because i just wanted to have him as a friend and everyone was telling me i hsould go out with him..








i really hope i helped! good luck! (:Need Advice About My Situation. Girls?
You know that if a girl is all of a sudden avoiding you and you didnt do anything wrong probably means that they like you but they are shy.
ok, here is the deal, just let her cool off for a week maybe 2. She was probably shocked and needs time to react to it.





1. When u get her alone tell her ';why are you avoiding me so much, what did i do?'; If she says nothing keep asking her. Say ';I know somethings bothering you, just tell me.'; Then just keep asking her. She will eventually get tired and give you an answer, and if she doesn't tell her the truth, that you like her and you didnt want it to ruin your friendship. If shes really your friend she'll understand.





2. Shes probably avoiding you because as i said before, she might be shocked and needs more time to react.





3. And no sorry =( But trust my answer, even though i never experienced this i know really close friends who know exactly how she feels.
I'm not much help on this kinda stuff, but you should go to this website,


She gives great advice. I use it all the time.


Good Luck!


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hiya,


well im in this very situation,


me being the girl who found out a friend likes them. and to be honest its gunna help me out from a male point of view.





well,


no.1 : when your alone with her ask her whats wrong, act completely normal and try not to think about the fact that she knows, it will only make things more awkward. dont be too confrontational and put her on the spot, you may not get what your looking for.





no.2 : shes probably avoiding you because shes scared, or even because she doesnt know what to do with the information, give her time to think.





no.3 : somebody i least expected is crushing on me, and now i think he knows that i know. so if the girls anything like me she needs time, to adjust to the situation and figure out what she wants. if you pressure her the likely answer is to be no, unless she does like you.





what you really need to do is find out if she does like you or not, that way if she does, great! ask her out. but then sadly if not just try to shrug it off and keep that friendship that you want.





i hope it helps, sorry if it doesnt





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