Advice about my Mother in Law.?

Last year my MIL met this really nice guy. He asked her to marry him but she said not unless he loses 100lbs. Her boyfriend is big but he is also 6 foot 4. He is built like a football player. My Mil is not skinny either. Her boyfriend is really sweet and kind, very polite and a total gentlemen. My heart aches when I hear her say this,do I have a right to say anything or should I just stay out.Advice about my Mother in Law.?
You wouldn't want her interfering in your business, so you need to mind your own business and keep out of hers. Its between him and her.Advice about my Mother in Law.?
Sure, I'd tell her...that ';he'd'; (the boyfriend) would marry ';her'; as soon as she stopped being a **********... So, looks like no one will have to worry about making any wedding plans,,,soon.....
Don't do it otherwise you may receive the typical mother in from hell. It seems you have a good relationship, keep it that way.


However you may like to suggest this to your husband, have him tell her, at least they will always make up if she does get offended, furthermore she will be more inclined to take it on the chin/cheek lol, from her own son.


Good luck to your Mother in law !
I agree with you, that your MIL started dating this guy at the size he is and now that he has asked her to marry him she is wanting to change him.... NEVER should anyone want to do this..


And she is putting conditions on him to meet or she will not marry him..


Hopefully he will see for himself that she is a controlling individual and if he does what she asks of him that their life together will continue to be her controlling everything in his life..





But you should stay out of this..





Best of Luck
Typical Mother-in-law
Yep...butt out.





In the first place, if the guy does this for her, then that is his problem, not yours or even your MIL's.





I'm not clear on why if you loved someone you would make an ultimatum about losing weight - but that is between the two of them.
I guess it would depend on how good of a relationship you have with your MIL. Could you just say something like ';he's such a sweet man, you don't want to loose the chance to marry him do you?!'; Loosing 100 lbs is quite a request - if it were that easy to do none of us would be over weight. If I were him I'd be hurt and most likely reconsider the proposal!
Wow.. I love the person for what they are not for what they look like. Yes . health could be an issue for the OVERWEIGHT person and maybe this is HER way of showing that she loves them. IN my book I would BOTH stay out of his world. HE has his own mind.. he is a big boy.. he doesnt need a babysitter. maybe he has glandular issues or is on meds that cause weight issues.. Something he cant control. Also .. I wouldnt want my MIL to put her mouth in my affairs. So I would stay out of it.


best of luck
Stay out of it. And you MIL is heading for trouble if she thinks she has the power to actually change him.
sounds like he is better of without her. Let her live her life alone/lonely without a companion.
You do not state whether your MIL is a widow or divorcee. I would assume divorcee for her attitude is what brings most to divorce.


Intolerance.


Also, when people get older they realize that they don't need to beat around the bush with inference and innuendo - you just say what you want to say.


She set the boundary and it's now up to him to comply or walk.


If he's smart, he'll walk. For if it's not the weight, it'll be something else tomorrow.


The only thing you need to say is about her intolerance.


Know that it won't make a lick of difference. She has to learn that on her own.