I really need some advice...
MattNeed advice about depression and suicidal thoughts.?
Okay well maybe you should try some alternative medicine such as yoga or meditation to relieve these feelings.
You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn’t even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.
Now I want to tell you five things to think about.
1 You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.
2 Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, “I will wait 24 hours before I do anything.” Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesn’t mean that you have to actually do it right this minute. Put some distance between your suicidal feelings and suicidal action. Even if it’s just 24 hours. You have already done it for 5 minutes, just by reading my answer. You can do it for another 5 minutes by continuing to read my answer/ and maybe others. Keep going, and realize that while you still feel suicidal, you are not, at this moment, acting on it. That is very encouraging to me, and I hope it is to you.
3 People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.
4 Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.
5 Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a really good idea.
I'm sure you've probably heard this all before but the best medicine is a smile.
Smile at your friends.
Smile at yourself.
Smile at strangers.
Smile at everyone you meet.
You never know..
The person you smiled at, could be feeling the same way too.
Just a small smile, can turn someones day upside down.
Here's my smile to you.
=)
Be strong, I know you can!Need advice about depression and suicidal thoughts.?
in my opinion, i think the best way is to go to therapy, they really helps. if you have medical care or any other insurance, hopefully they will cover.
suicidal is never the way.
Get professional help, now. See a psychiatrist -- an M.D. Depression can be deadly. A psychiatrist can do more than a counselor, in my opinion.
see a counselor. no matter what you or others say or think, everyone has a place in this world. god made you for a reason, so don't make that reason impossible.
You are not alone, seek help people are waiting for you to reach out.
Hi Matt. You just haven't been to the right counselor. I know. It is very frustrating to see help and then you don't get it and it only intensifies the suicidal thoughts. there is a place for you in this world and you are standing in it right now. You have to make it what you want it to be. sounds trite I know, but it is true. So you had an abusive childhood. alot of us have. Alot of us had abusive adulthoods as well. How can your future be without promise? You have no clue what the future will bring!!! Yes, most people do not want to hear you are suicidal. they don't believe you or don't want the burden.
You are in college? Do you know how far along you are right there? You need to see a doctor. You need to get antidepressants that will help you quiet the thoughts so that you can get a handle on your life. First and foremost, what do you enjoy. Get that focused. You must find the career that will help you focus outside yourself. Life pretty much sucks, I won't lie to you, but if you are doing what you like, it helps alot. There is a good counselor out there, you must keep trying. Good luck to you Matt.
Hey !don't forget that there is no one for any one i m also facing the same situation n i came to know tht every on eisliving just for own if we ge a true life partner then every one is yours otherwie no on eis therei n life.my husband is notliving with me .i am living in my parents house facing all tht which i could not think even in my dreams.my mom dad loved me but now some one hs taken place i m nothing just becasuse ot that person who devastated my life.I M STILL IN THIS HOPE THAT ONE DAY HE WIL LCOME.Even u no tomorrow I didn't take food because my mom said me to u cleans ur utensils make ur food urself.u r a boy u can live any where can do any think but i m a girl i have no place to live.but what can be done.n even i m independent at that time i face so many things n living alone of a girl in this society u can understand.i also think to commit suicide but no we should fight struglle is another name of life,death is easy n life is difficult but we will have to live.l have also depresson due to all this, but what can be done.It's all our destiny.what god has written for us.A boy can live his life in any way.all the best!
I've been there. I didn't care that I had a family, a husband, a baby girl that needed me... killing myself seemed to be the only way to get away from all the BS I had to deal with in life. It was never-ending, and it was painful. Have you tried any anti-depressants? Sometimes you have to try a few different kinds to find the one that works for you.
Depression is most likely caused by anger you feel you do not have a right to have, and hopelessness. You said you are haunted by an abusive childhood; have you addressed this with any of the counselors you've talked to? That is the key to moving on in your life. As long as you feel hurt from that situation and hold on to it, you will never be able to move on and free yourself of that past hurt. You feel hopeless because you cannot move on from your past.
Tell yourself that you can be better than those people, you can overcome the limitations they seem to have put on you. YOU can create your life. You don't have to let other people, or certain events from your life, create you.
We cannot go back and change the past or the things that have happened to us. But we can tell ourselves that we are better than that, and that we want to take control of our lives back. Starting tomorrow, live your life the way you want to live it. Don't think about the things holding you back. One great suggestion I've read is, write down all the things from the past you feel you are holding on to, things that are holding you back from enjoying your life. Get a balloon for each one. Then go to a tall hill, cliff, whatever you've got close to you, or even just your back yard... release one balloon at a time, thinking of what you are letting go of, and trying to feel yourself physically letting go of that pain. Some things hurt us for a moment, and some things hurt us for decades. It takes time to get over that hurt, especially when you've been carrying it with you for so long. But believe that there is hope. Believe that you are here for a reason. What do you really want in life? What are you good at? Start making goals for yourself. Start small and gradually build yourself up to major changes... start by setting your alarm for a certain time each day, and then getting up. Start taking vitamins each morning. Drink 8 glasses of water. They may seem small, but by doing that you slowly start to take control of your life back.
I recommend the book ';You Can Heal Your Life'; by Louise L. Hay. If counselors aren't working for you (though you really do need to try a couple of them and find which one you feel comfortable with, as well as one that understands you) at least find someone who will truly LISTEN.
Don't think that people will think you're a suicidal wierdo. When I first told my husband I wanted to kill myself because I was so depressed, he told me that depression didn't exist and it was all something ';in my head.'; That really hurt. He was not supportive at all, and that's what made it so bad too. I had to find someone who actually knew what I was going through, and a doctor who wanted to help me.
Antidepressants are not the only answer, but they will help when you find the right one. The only thing left is to move on with your life. Feel free to talk to me if you can't talk to anyone else - I will listen and help you as much as I can. I know what that feels like, and I will help anyone that's feeling like life is just not worth living.
why in the world dont you tell someone? please do so, as you said no counselor helped maybe you just need to be much more open with someone around you, I understand the abusive childhood part but you have to think outside the box you've been through so much and have made it so far through it all what makes you think you have no purpose? if you are feeling like this then i can assure you that your whole life will seem pointless it will affect the way you feel towards yourself work or school...
suicide should be the last thin on your mind, once again get help maybe even online,,,
i suggest you find a way to forget what has been done to you, and by forget i don't mean erase out of your mind and life because to be truthful it's part of your past by telling you to forget i mean look at things from a careless point of view, find people to share friendships with,cry,write,walk,talk it out even if with yourself (facing a mirror), anything absolutely anything of this kind is a good way for you to let go of what you feel...
I hope you reply back at some point!
hold on to your life please
here i trust this page is of great help to you at least check it out:::: www.takethislife.com
there you will find other people going through similar if not the same problems as yours life is full of challenges and this may be one for you so don't let go and find someone who can help, stay positive,and think less about problems, alcohol is just another thing to add more problems and struggle to yourself, realize how it can damage you and bring you down completely you cant ask for help if you keep on being part of negative things that add bad effect on you so do your best to stay away from it
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