Monday, August 23, 2010

Advice about this man... what do I do next? Please.?

I'm sorry it's a long story. but neeeeed help on what to do next.


I know this is a mouthful,I'm sorry.


Been talking to this guy online for a couple of months now.We're really close, and we tell each other everything.


About 6 weeks ago we were on the phone, and we were just about to go to bed and he came out with ';i don't know what to do';, so i responded with ';about what?';


He didn't respond to that, he just said ';i've got so much work to do and i cant concentrate';


I said ';what are you getting at?'; And he responded with ';its you... you've taken over... i dunno'; I said ';well, taken over what??'; and he said ';well... you've not officially taken over...!'; and i asked him to start making sense and he kept avoiding it and said goodnight to me (after practically crying down the phone caus' he didn't want me to go!)


And he keeps giving me lovely compliments, calling me ';wonderful'; and ';lovely'; and saying how much I mean to him and saying how much he misses me if we don't speak for a day...


he also wrote me a song and sent it to me as a gift.:) and sent 'lean on me'; to me (the lyrics and the music video)


we used to sit up and talk for hours, and hours, hes asked me to go on holiday with him, he helps me plan easter egg hunts for the kids at a childrens centre i run, he helped me write my fundraising speech for my charity and we were even planning on studying together for our exams. not only that, we talked every day, without fail. He even said ';You know I love you.'; (after I said he hated me, as a joke! we do it all the time.) i replied with ';lies!'; and he said ';only when there's a Q in the month!'; so I said ';well... i love you too!'; and he said ';good to know!';


I uploaded some pictures of a day out me and my ex had, and then i uploaded some pictures of a night out me and my friend went on where i'd took some pictures of the random men we met. Then, all of a sudden, though, he seemed to stop talking to me.


The day after uploading the pictures of my ex, i text him like normal and he was barely even there. He stopped texting me halfway through the conversation, which isnt like him. It waslike he didn't even want to talk to me.


Then, he didnt speak to.me the day after. Or the day after. Then I text him, wondering if he was okay... and he didnt respond.


Then we didn't talk again for about 6 days, but then he spoke to me on Facebook chat. I asked him why i got no response and he said he'd responded (which is unusual, since ive never *not received* anything he sent me before. But not only that, he was really clipped and cut off... not his usual self.


I sent him a joke yesterday and he didn't reply for 5 and a half hours, and even then it was barely anything, and when i replied he didn't reply to that, either. Then, I found out (from his facebook profile, no less) that he had a new girlfriend (7 years younger than him), that he'd met in a bar and known for a week. He didnt tell me about her (even though i was his 'best friend' (or so he said) and i was so upset, so i messaged him and told him i loved him but had to delete him and not talk to him for a while, to get over him.


I blocked him everywhere so he had no chance to reply.


I don't understand why he's done this - i'm devastated.


The photo's uploaded weren't there to hurt him - it was an accident that they appeared to. Me and my ex are friends - him and I have discussed our exes before and we both know we are friends with our respective exes (for example, he's still an emotional crutch to his ex girlfriend and regards her in very high esteem).


I unblocked him a while ago (about a week after I blocked him, which was 2 months ago) and recently sent him a message asking him about his results, which he ignored. I'm back with my ex now and we recently went on holiday. Although he's not on my list, my best friend commented on my pictures and he will probably have been able to see them and he'll probably know I'm back with him.


He's still with the random girl; he's changed his mobile number so I can't contact him and he's ignoring every attempt at me trying to contact him.


I dunno what else to do, or what I can do. I still love him very very much.Advice about this man... what do I do next? Please.?
The pictures with the random men probably hurt him alot, you need to send him an email telling him exactly how you feel because if you try to talk to him on an instant chat he might jsut not reply, in an email he can read it all in one and then he can decide what to do, he will understand and then hell know his the one that you love and maybe you can do somthign about it/Advice about this man... what do I do next? Please.?
You have done all you can, and that has to be enough for you. Sometime you just have to let go. If your ';friend'; really was a friend then it time he will call on you and if he does not then he was never a friend to begin with.
Gon on a place where he can see and then write : The pictures I uploaded were not a sign that I didn't want to talk to u anymore or thaT I have a new boyfriend. There is still only one person who has my heart and that is you _____. But if u have moved on and dont even like me a friend anymore I wont harrass you, i just wanted you to know that I love you so very much and will be heartbroken if u choose to let me just drift away..ill probably never recover :'(....





Hope it helped
poor thing ur story is very sad,i dn't know what to tell,may b it will better 4 u to forget him and try to b happy wiz ur actual bfrd
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