Advice about a weird friend.?

Ok my bf has this friend (lets call him Tom) that doesnt really like me all that much (and to be honest I really dont like him either). Well the other day Tom calls my bf and asks if he will come over to give him advice on a job that he was looking at (my bf had just got in from work and it was 11 at night). My bf turns to me and tells me nicely that he is going to go over for a few minutes and I agree but ask him to try and make it quick, well Tom overhears my bf say this to me and throws a fit over the phone telling my bf that when he gets his life in order to give Tom a call and then hangs up. Well a few days before we had sent Tom some food because he was running really low and wouldnt be able to get any for a while, well after Tom hangs up he walks over (he lives right across the street) and bangs on our door startling us and then leaves the food we gave him on the door step. I thought this tempertantrum was a little too much. (see more)Advice about a weird friend.?
any friend of a guy is gonna feel this way. guys never wanna see there guy friend get into a relationship because they lose all that time with their friend. but he sounds like he is immature and he needs to lay it out with him, that yeah, you are more important, you are practically family and his friend is just a friend. ya know. history shows that men tend to flock towards a woman anyway, that is how we reproduce, we put family first. if all guys only hung with their dudes and never settled down can u imagine what this world would be, our birth rate would be so low.Advice about a weird friend.?
you were disrespected even the ocean has boundaries
Sounds like your guy is decent and kind. Sounds like you're patient and trusting. Sounds like Tom is single, lonely, miserable, and needs your guy's friendship. I'd say he's downright jealous of you, but not in a sexual way.





He needs to let Tom know who comes first in his life and set some boundaries. Also, your guy shouldn't apologize for anything.
Your bf's friend finds you to be insignificant.


It's up to your bf to set him straight. (that is if your bf has enough respect for you to do so)
Did Tom just escape from the local loony bin? ANY of my friends disrespect the woman I love and they're gone.
ok, well ur in a bit of a pickle. this is a tricky situation. i dont no u so there could be two possible answers for ur question.





possiblity#1 dont take this personally but maybe u r trying to control ur bfs life a little bit too much.





possibiliy#2 ur bfs friend is way too weird. he doesnt like u because he thinks that u r steeling time away from him ';bonding'; with ur bf. he wants u out of the picture so that he can have ur bf all to himself as a friend. ';tom'; doesnt have any friends.this i no of i can tell he doesnt have many friends) Because he doesnt have friends, hes becoming very attached to ur bf.





i think possibility #2 is more accurate, but then again... it could be both.





some of the best advice i have ever heard was this;





';Your enimy is your biggest crittic'; that means... well duh ur enimy is ur biggest crittic, but ur enimy will do anything he/she can to find sumthing bad about u. if u want to know if u look fat in an outfit (and u do) n u ask ur bf if u look fat in it...its not like hes going to tell u the truth n say yes he'll say no. but if u ask ur enimy, ur enimy will have no problem telling u the truth.
Your friend ';Tom'; is jealous of you and the relationship you have with your BF. This happened to me and my best buddy. He met a girl whom I did like that much but he did so I went along with it. She began to get irrational whenever he and I went out. She once jumped on the hood of my car wearing nothing but a bra and panties to try and keep us from going out!! Since I was not dating her, I had the luxury of not playing into those games with her. My telling my buddy not to either did not work. So what I did was to begin to include her in some of what we would do. I even began to call and speak with her about whatever. After a while she began to calm down and realize that her man was not doing anything wrong. Just be patient, try interacting with this guy, and include him in some activites. Also letting your BF go out with this guy with out you being around would be a big help in making things improve. Good luck.