I need some advice about my boyfriend.?

I've been dating a guy for a year and a half. We've had a wonderful relationship, and plan to get married some day. However, I'm seriously worried about him and his family. He was adopted, and has never really liked his parents. He dissociates himself from his family as much as he can. He just shuts down around them, and seems so unhappy. The other day his mom called my mom and cried on the phone because she doesn't know what to do anymore; he just sits in his room playing video games when he's home. According to her, I'm the only person he'll listen to. However, it's a long distance relationship, so it's not like I'm around to do anything. I know it's not my family and I probably shouldn't get mixed up in it, but I wonder if I might be the only person that could help the situation. I worry about him when I'm not around. After the last time I visited people at his church told his parents that they'd never seen him smile before. He says I'm the only good thing in his life. What do I do?I need some advice about my boyfriend.?
i would try to help the situation and if you make him smile then thats a good thing. but if i was you i would try to understand why he dosent like his parents there could be something that he hasnt told you or he's afraid to say something about it and that could help him alot and help you understand his wanting to be so distant from them.I need some advice about my boyfriend.?
Ask him if he wants to talk about what's going on, and tell him you want to help.
figure out what happened in his family and try to help him and his family become one again. have a good long talk with him about how much family matters. talk about if u got married, who would be on his side. there always has to be family in everything that u do.
Talk to him, not as a girlfriend but just a friend, and make sure to listento what he has to say.
BE CAREFUL





He sounds like he has emotional problems that will show up later in your relationship. You gotta watch the quiet ones - they usually have unusual reactions to stressful events.





If you were to break it off, his profile sounds like someone who would act desperately, like stalking or violence.
You may want to gently recommend that he talk to a therapist about his family issues. It sounds like he's depressed. Support him in his decisions and any treatment he seeks. He's lucky to have someone who cares so much about him, and his emotional well-being. Good luck.
Since you are the one , who can get close to him. You need to talk to him. Let him know, that he can't close himself up in a tight lil box. He can't shut his love ones and the world out.


He has to know, or needs to know he is hurting his family. No matter if he was adopted. They put their heart and soul, into raising him up to be a good man. So who cares , they are not his flesh and blood. They are still his parents.


He could be depress, or just going thru one of thoses teenage phases.
talk to him.


get his insight on the situation and ask if he needs any help getting through it


suggest that he spend time with his family


what ever you do dont force him though


good luck
ask him about his family during the private conversation, listen to what he has to say so u can understand the situation and before jumping into conclusions! since he only listens to u, u might change his attitude towards his folks.
before anything else, you should definately talk to him first about it before you get yourself involved into something that can blow up in your face. ask himm what's his deal, tell him how it concerns you and it's unhealthy and explain to him he needs to be happy with him...he can't rely on you for that...god forbid something should happen he could fall apart. tell him that though he's adopted he only gets 1 mother and 1 father whatever he's going through he can get through with your help but you can't fix the problem for him. good luck ps don't pressure him everything happens for a reason