it's been 2 years since i broke up with this guy..he was my first, but he never really treated me that great...anyway, i can't get over him no matter what i do, and i haven't met a guy that compares to him, so i think this is why i keep thinking about him...what do i do? I know i shoudlnt' go back to him, but what woudl you do if you coudln't get over someone? Is it possible that i'll never love again? i'm freaking out!!!I really need some advice about my ex, and woudl appreciate your advice...?
I was in same boat as you a couple years ago. My first love and I broke up and even a year later I still couldn't stop loving him, missing him, wanting to be with him. He was my first what can I say. But eventually (1 year later) he contacted me and so i got together with him and he and i were together for about 3 or 4 months and basically i got bored of him. So that is the way i got closure, i went back to him and I was the one who didn't want to be with him anymore. I mean it's different with everyone so i don't want you to think you will get closure that way but everyone is different. You have to find out a way to get closure or else you will NEVER get him off your mind. Now when it comes to him he is just like any other guy to me, i don't have any feeling for him anymore.I really need some advice about my ex, and woudl appreciate your advice...?
anythings possible. but i doubt youll never find love again. thers someone out there for you...you obviously just havent met him yet but you will.i dont think i really havent gotten over my first love and that was almost 11 years ago. i still think about him to....good luck hun youll find someone
you will believe me just give it some time.he treated you like garbage is that what you want.someone like that just waite and don't go looking for it it will come to you.
2 years is quite a while to still obsess about someone even if he was your first. If he didn't treat you great then you shouldn't be to hung up on him. Don't compare him to other men. That is where your problem lies. Each man you meet already doesn't have a fair chance. Look for qualities in men for themselves not for comparison to your ex. You will never love again if you don't give yourself the opportunity to let go of the past and see someone for who they are.... and what they can bring to a relationship. Good Luck to you.
You say yourself that he never treated you that great.
Why would you want to be treated like you are not worthy of being treated with respect ?
You always deserve the best.
Yes, you will love again...probably several times ( I don't know your age ).
Just don't feel like you deserve less than. If you do, you will always end up with a loser.
Make a list of the pros and cons about the guy. See which side is longer. Don't sugar coat it...be honest with yourself.
The right guy will come along when you are not looking. It never happens when you a desperately searching for someone.
Also remember. If you act insecure, or like you have low self esteem you will attract that.
Whatever we put out there people pick up on and they will search you out.
Think positive and move on !
Good luck !
the farther away from him you get the better he looks
VIP (Virgil Partch) once had a cartoon in four panels.
first - guy sitting at one end of the bar and a really woman at the other end
second - he's had some to drink and he's moved another seat closer to her
third - he's had a lot more and is two seats from her and she looks pretty good
fourth - he's plastered and she looks like madonna
IF you go after him and get back to him you'll remember really soon why you ditched his fanny and kick yourself for all the time you lost by not looking for a winner
Believe me youll love again. But stop comparing other guys to him, would you want a future boyfriend to compare you to his ex's. Everyone is different. Delete his number so you cant call him or get in touch with him and go on with everyday life. you'll get over him. y would u want him after he treated you bad. One day just take a long big cry, then wipe them and go out and enjoy yourself
if he made you uncomfortable he wasnt the one for you
and i suppose you cant find someone because of ';high expectations'; or you really arent looking
take it from me....i have been going threw this for 4 years stuff happens you will eventuly drop him out of your mind
first off calm down, take a breather... Scream it out if you have to...
Now what I want you to do is this.... think of all the things that wasn't done right in your relationship. Think about the things that pissed you off, and the things you could stand about him, after you've done that go read a good book, go talk to some friends about how life is treating them, keep busy for a while, if you feel yourself thinking about him again, take a breather and repeat the begining.
He may have been your first and you maybe still in love with him, but you even said so yourself that he didn't treat you all that great... So why go back to something that wasn't good in the first place... Stop comparing other guys to him... Stop wasting you time, do something that keeps you busy, if you have to think about him then then do, but don't think to long, Because all woman should be treated like queens and if you are taking less than that then you really don't want to be happy in the first place...
Laugh,
Cry,
Live,
Learn
Scream if you feel like, it doesn't matter where you are
Just keep busy...
YOUR LIFE SHOULDN'T BE WASTED ON THINKING ABOUT 1 GUY!!!!
Because you and I both know you deserved better.
So go out and get it
Stop thinking about what you lost rather focus on what you might find. Just because the next guy to come along is not the right one doesn't mean the past is the only thing you got. Look forward to falling in love again and that feeling of newness and getting no know someone from the beginning. You'll get over him but you need to stop giving him so much praise in your pretty little head when he really and truly was not that great. The right guy will be great to you and treat you the way you know you want to be treated. Have patience and PRAY...prayer really works.
In my 80 years I've learned everything changes with time. Have a little patience. You will have a different outlook with more maturity.
I don't think you should go back to him at all. What I did with my break up was, kept on ignoring the memories %26amp; trying to move forward. That helped me. I guess, whenever his memories hit your mind, change %26amp; switch to thinking of something else. I tried helping you
The first person you were intimate with is always a tough one to get over. You may never forget, but I promise you will get over it.
You said so yourself that he didn't treat you that great. You need to fill your time with other things and stop thinking about this guy. Call some friends, go to the movies, play a game a football, have a party, visit family/friends...
if he treated you bad, don't go back to him. you'll find someone new, it just takes time. it took me four years to get over my ex and i finally did and couldn't be happy with my boyfriend. %26lt;3
lol. honey calm down..
my first b/f broke up with me thru myspace(he couldn't even do it in person or a note.) a month ago..it's been really hard.
but i think i 've finally started to get over him. mabe just listen to some musicwith hatefull lyrics and cry..it's what i do everytime i think of how good things ';seemed to used to be';
you'll love again. trust me. my friends have done the exact of you. :)
Learn about how you hypnotize yourself by saying ';I can't get over him no matter what';. If you learn to speak in a way that reflects what you want it will change your reality.....I am so happy to now be in a relationship with someone I love respect %26amp; admire who also treats me so great.....you can read ';You Can Heal Your Life'; or get it on DVD to learn more about this.
I'm in the exact same situation... but my ex wasn't bad to me when we were together and he won't talk to me now. If I could take him back I would in a heartbeat. You can love another guy, it's just never the same. I've tried and even almost got married but it's just not the same. Never will be. When you figure out what to do will you message me too??
time is a doctor ! sorry..
work on how to accept friendliness of other person..then more...then more .. friendship in the way working with a lot of guarantees...( healthy sex is helpful)
cheers
if he was your first he will always have a place in your heart.. just dont let it bug you too much cause it will interfer with your next relationship!!! i am married and still think about my first. i even get butterflies when i see him.
hang out with your friends alot, get involved with sports or something, write a book, read a book, do anything that keeps your mind busy
You sound young and probably are. Time will heal and it's just a matter of finding someone else that is good. It will happen as long as you try. If you sit inside all day thinking about the ex then how can you meet a new guy? Next time he pops in your head think of the bad things he did. You need to be reminded that he was no good.
Have sex with someone else. What you are focussing on is the orgasms. You really think that no one else will ever make you feel that good again...well that is BS big time. If he treated you badly then he is selfish and selfish men are rarely good lovers. He made you think he was Cassanova because you were a virgin and had no one with whom to compare him.
Believe me, there are millions of potential suitors for you out there. And many of them will be MUCH better in bed thatn that creep was!! LMAO!!
try meting new people. if he didn't treat you right the first time hes not gonna treat you right the next itme. don't go back out with him. foucus onthe more positive things in your life like sports, school, friends, and the holidays comming up. =] good luck :D
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First of all calm down. Your young, you will love again. Everyone goes through there first love... And it does suck cause if they end bad your just so ugh for a while and cant seem to find anyone you like besides that ex because you got so much along with him. Give it time, stay single. enjoy it while it last.
Good Luck!
When I broke up with my boyfriend I was actually quite glad to get rid of him. He had been bugging me for a few months and I was tired of him staying over at his mates all the time. You have to get over him! It was 2 years ago, I'm sure your heart will be healed by now! Either way, Mr. Right will come and bump into you soon... :) It doesn't take a day to find a new boyfriend, I know, but when I met my current one I loved him MORE than I had ever loved my ex and probably more than he loved me. Just get him out of your mind and move on.
You will fall in love again, you just need to stop comparing everyone you date with your ex. Why would you want to be with someone who treats you bad. Forget him and find somebody who will treat you how you deserve to be treated.
you have never really experienced the true beauty of love so that why it hard for you to decide whats best. once you have you will not settle for less and you will know what your want and wont tolerate. just hang in there. the right on will come.
If I were you I'd get counseling to help with this. At least you're able to realize he never treated you great; that will help you realize (eventually) that other guys DO compare to him, because they're better for you and to you. Good luck.
Calm down. He's not the only guy on the planet. I hear so many people saying ';they can't get over their ex';. For one, you broke up for a reason. People tend to only remember the ';good times'; after a period of time after the break up. You said it yourself, he wasn't that great of a bf. So what's their really to get over. Stay busy and sooner than you know it, he'll me only a memory. Be happy and live your life and move on.
you know i have the same problem when i break up with a guy... a certain song comes on the radio and i think of him and the good times we had togahter..but my advice to yo is that when you meet someone elese you will forget all about him
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