Advice about Self Harm?

I've selfharmed since I was 13,I'm 17 now.


It got really bad and out of hand a few years ago and I got scared and my life was starting to turn around so I felt ready to throw out my blades,and I ended up stopping for quite a few months untill I started again.Even when I started again it was still sorta undercontrol and it started as shallow cuts again and things seemed fine.


Over the past year or so it's gotten bad again,not as bad as before but still enough to scare me.I'm at a bad part of my life and I'm not ready to throw out my blades again even though I know I should.I also know I should get help but knowing I should get help and actually getting help are two different things.I don't exactly want to stop,just get it under control again and I'm afraid if I ask for help,my worst fears are that I'll be admitted to a psych ward or be forced to stop and that my mom will be told.Advice about Self Harm?
Self-harm is a symptom of bigger problems inside you.





It is risky behavior, and you ARE A DANGER TO YOURSELF





The fact is, you ARE cutting, and are not capable of stopping yourself................in other words you are risking suicide for that next opportunity to punish yourself in one emotional crisis after another................this is the behavior of a very sick person.





Fear is both the greatest and the smallest of your problems. Hating what is inside of you with such intensity is what you need to find healing for.





When a suicidal person is unable to ';get it under control again, is afraid to ask for help, forced to stop, and too fearful (and ashamed) to have her mother know'; YOU NEED FOR SOMEONE WHO IS STRONGER THAN YOU TO COME BY YOUR SIDE, SOMEONE WHO CARES,


SOMEONE WHO WILL MEET YOU WHERE YOU ARE, WILL LISTEN TO YOUR HURTING HEART


SOMEONE WHO WILL HOLD A MIRROR UP TO YOU SO YOU CAN FACE YOUR REALITY,


AND YET, WILL ALSO OFFER YOU HOPE.Advice about Self Harm?
the main reason i hate is cause the scars can be permanent. wot is wrong with therapy. have been in it on and off for twenty years. self awareness is crucial to healing.
It becomes an addiction, and you need to cut more, and deeper. Later in life, most self harmers realise that it is not an effective solution to their problems, and then they are faced with a mass of unsightly scar tissue, which they find difficult to explain, and which can hold them back in their social lives, and careers. Seek therapy, and learn to address the causes of your problems, rather than coping with the symptoms. See self harm, in section 16, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when you feel the need to harm yourself. Is there a counselor you can talk with? ~~~ LOW COST/FREE COUNSELLING: Contact your county/local mental health agency, and find out what help they can offer. Psychological counselling, with a sliding scale, based on income, is available through many religious organisations, such as Catholic counselling, the Methodist church, and the Unitarian Universalists. You don't have to be a member.
I see your point that if you seek help there is a possibility that you can be commited and if you don't then something grave could happen. Your invertingly seeking help online and that's a start. Is there a counselor or therapist you could see that would be willing to listen without calling a ward? there are hotlines you can call there open 24/7. hope i helped? Take care
man im going to be honest with my opinion... your mother is pretty ignorant for saying things like that and not addressing this issue. Grow up and get it under control. The only person who can help you is you...


http://velvetdragon.com/etc/selfinjury.h鈥?/a>


read that plz.. im not gona tell u to stop, i know you want to.
Could your school counselor or someone you trust explain to your mother?


I cut too, off and on, and I know that you have to want to stop, and have ability at that time. Here's a good website:


http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injur鈥?/a>





It helps with ideas to keep it under control, even if you can't stop right away.
Im 23 years old and I feel that recently I was 17.


Being a teenager can be wonderful thing and be ';hell';. I know it I had both. I was never a self-mutilator but had a good friend that was. As your friend it is a hard thing to deal with but your real friends will help you and will talk about it to try to understand you. You do not need a psych ward, you need to be spoken to and listened to and helped in whatever it is that is bothering you not in a judgemental way. The last thing you need is someone accusing you or judging you, and your boyfriend should help you. I still think that cutting is NOT going to help you, you said it yourself you tend to let it get out of control. You do not need to do that in order to feel better your problems are not going to go away that way instead get creatic: art,music, poetry, dancing, story telling, decorating, helping or volunteering other people in distress or learn to over come it so you can help kids like you. There are other ways. Your mom is always going to be there for you, she might look down on it but when she sees that it is you in danger she will have a different approach.





I hope my words are able to help you....